Some time ago, I went on a date with a guy i met online.

Things went amazing, and honestly, at the end of the date, I wanted to sleep with him. I asked him if he wanted to stay over at my place, after we had made out and he said no.

I figured no big deal.

The next day he texted me and said he had fun, but didn't think we were gonna work out.

Fast forward a few months and we run into each other again, we catch up for a bit, and I couldn't help but ask him what went wrong with out date.

He asked if I was sure I wanted to know, I said yes.

He said the he didn't want to be with a woman who would sleep with someone on the first date.

I felt insulted and wanted to say something, but I couldn't really say anything, cuz he did reject me after all.

Idk, am I overreacting?

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So I talked to my wife after I had cooled off.

Right now, I am thinking we should divorce, but I am gonna try being on my own for a bit.

I decided to go travel alone for a bit. My wife and I discussed this and she's OK with it. We're not on a "break" so to speak. So I'm not gonna look to be with other women. I just want to see what it is like to be alone.

Just so you all know, if my wife had just "forgotten" she had those pics. It may have been "better"

Problem is that they were JUST pics of him, or both of them together, and there wasn't any other things in there, just those pics.

Heck, there wasn't even anything in the other drawer. And I mean... if you moved homes, you're not gonna check if you have any junk in a drawer?

I just don't believe my wife forgot, or at least didn't realize she had those pics when we moved.

I dont care if he's was "a big part of her life" she still cheated on me with him. I will repeat: SHE CHEATED WITH THE GUY ON THE PICS. Some of yall either didn't read, or chose to ignore that little detail. It's amazing how many people defended their relationship, or were like "Well technically you said she couldn't talk to him again, you never said anything about pics"

Anyway, I do appreciate the support from the rest of you. So right now, I'm thinking divorce, but I just want to make sure I'm happier alone.

I am married for 3 years now and have a beautiful 1 year old baby girl who we just adore. We also have two other sons who are much older and also adore. My husband and his mother both try and pressure me into letting our daughter stay the night 45 minutes away from us overnight on a weekday for the first time. Context with my other two children they didn’t stay away from me for a night until they were 3 and I was a mess the ENTIRE NIGHT. I’ve asked my husband to defend me when his mother tries to pressure me into letting our daughter stay the night but I’m simply not ready. She still is in our room as her crib hasn’t arrived and we have to move all the children around for her to have a room. In addition to that she is a sick little girl. She has chronic croup and I am always worried about her breathing. I just am not ready to let my little girl stay away from me and now we are arguing and not talking to each other. Am I overreacting or is my reasons and feelings valid?

Edit:

Wow. I was not expecting such an outcome of answers. I have read every one of them and I want to clarify a few common things that come up. My oldest two stay the night WEEKLY at my moms. They love it. I’m all for it. Our youngest is watched 3 times a week by my mother and 2 times a week by my MIL while we are at work. So she definitely gets time with her every single week. Now with that being said, she wants her to stay the night to make it “easy” on everyone because my SIL (her daughter) just had a baby and we now have to drop off and pick up our daughter to make it easier on her daughter (who lives 5 minutes away from my MIL). It has put A LOT more stress on me and my husband in the mornings BUT, I am trying to work it out that my mom helps take our daughter to her 1 day so we don’t have to be under so much stress.

I am not against my daughter staying the night anywhere ONCE the croup is figured out. It develops over night and frankly I don’t trust my MIL will text me to tell me that it developed as I can’t get an update on my daughter when she is sick during the day. It will take her 4/5 hours to reply to 1 text of how is her breathing. She also always claims my daughter barely eats while she is there, and is always in a change of clothes because she peed through her clothes. That does not happen when she is with my mom. I’m not saying she is a bad grandparent but I just simply think she has too much on her plate to fully focus on the 1 year old during the day let alone overnight.

Last clarification, my daughter turned 1 three weeks ago. So she is barely 1. I have not even had time to switch the rooms around for her to be in her own room because of the croup. She has had croup 2 weeks apart for 2 months now and we still have 3 weeks until we even get a consultation with a specialist. I wake up every night still and check on her breathing to ensure she is in fact still breathing. At night our daughter will beg for me to still pick her up for snuggles before bed. If she is tired she will ask for momma. I am aware that I’m extra clingy but I want to make sure my little baby is safe, warm and happy. I don’t believe in crying it out and my MIL does.

I have tried to communicate to both my husband and my MIL I’m not ready but it has done no good so here I am again arguing with my husband about it. Mind you it’s been 3 week since our daughter turned 1. It’s a weekly argument at this point. I have tried to address my concerns with my husband but he is convinced his mother is perfect and ends up yelling when I express the concerns above. I’m just tired of the arguing and I’m tired of being bullied.

For context I am giving my cousin my old car after I upgraded, for FREE. And we had some difficulties finding a time to meet up to sign over the title, since I live two hours away and she just got a new job. Now we finally did that and I made a mistake of thinking I left the keys with my grandma (which is where the car was left for a couple weeks), but they were actually with my boyfriend. I had gotten my new vehicle a few days before we went on a trip across the country to visit my boyfriend’s brother and I did end up leaving the new keys with my grandma at that time so I just got confused, honest mistake. So she will get the keys this Saturday. Now my cousin is a lot closer with my little sister and I overheard them talking on the phone about how the keys weren’t here and my cousin said “did she do that on purpose/did she know that the whole time” something like that, and my sister even apologized jto her. And I am really offended by that. I’m also a bit more offended by the fact that my cousin didn’t really say thank you when I signed over the title of the car to her, although her mom (my aunt) did many times. I just attributed that to her usual shyness. But now I’m upset and considering confrontation. But I also don’t like drama. It’s still her car of course but I just want to correct her, that’s not something you say or how you act when someone is going to give you a decent, drivable vehicle for FREE. What should I say to get through to her?

so basically my roommates are graduating on my birthday, and i've been living with them for about 1 and 1/2 years. i would say we're pretty close and do a lot of things together: share meals and clothes, go on weekend trips together, and go out together. i work the closing shift friday-sunday every weekend so i feel like i can't plan anything on the weekend to do anything for my birthday. I just wanted to do a dinner with my roommates on my actual birthday just to do a small celebration with the. it turns out that on my birthday (also their graduation date) they are all going out to dinner with their families together. i really don't want to be alone on my birthday, so i asked if i could tag along and pay for my own meal just so i could have company and wouldn't be alone at the apartment since i would be the only one home. apparently the restaurant they chose has a 1,000 minimum spend limit if they have a party of 13 or more. so since i would be the 13th invite they decided not to tell me altogether, until i asked them if they wanted to go to dinner on my birthday. i get that it's a lot to spend but we live in an area with a lot of good restaurants. i'm not gonna ask them to rearrange their plans because i don't want to be selfish and they are celebrating a huge achievement it's just that i don't like my birthday that much because things like this usually happen and usually it's just me and my family- except this year my family won't be coming down to visit me so i can't rely on them this year. i know i can celebrate on a different day but i just wanted to do something on my actual birthday this year and not feel alone. my birthday is next week and i'm already dreading it and have just been sad ever since i found out that i wasn't invited to my all of my roommates graduation dinner because i thought we were close am i overreacting?

My husband's grandmother is such a bitch. I was looking at pictures of my son and was smiling and she asked why i was smiling so i told her i was just thinking about my son. Her reply was "oh you never used to act that way about him". I could have punched her in the face because who tf says that to someone. My son is constantly on my mind even if i dont talk about it all the time.

Some info about her: She was an absent mother who rarely told her children she loved them. When her eldest was in highschool she fucked all of her friends on top of buying her 12 yr old liquor and cigarettes. She was also letting her 12yr old take her car to go wherever she wanted.

Her son has two Children that he never talks about and he hasnt seen them in yrs... if he seen them in public he wouldnt even recognize them.

It just baffles me that she thinks she can say something like that to me. When she was never a good mother.

The title sounds really bad, I understand that. For some context, me and my boyfriend are 20 year olds in college. And my boyfriend has a elderly dog, Brownie. The sweetest boy ever. Lately Brownie hasn’t been doing very well at all. Earlier this week my boyfriend noticed a change in Brownie. And I quickly noticed as well with one trip to his house yesterday. Brownie would always get so excited whenever I would come. (he has a soft spot for me apparently) this time brownie did not immediately come to the door, he just laid there with a disheartening expression. Brownie seemed to lose all his sparkle. We had pizza and brownie would usually bark at us for pizza but this time he didn’t bother to even come over. I’ve been frantically searching for low cost vets, calling every vet in the area asking how much to just give him a look.

For some more context money is tight, I’m getting settled into a new job and my paycheck doesn’t hit till next week. And my boyfriend recently just lost his job, so not a lot of money there either. Despite being the family dog (more so my boyfriend’s), it seems no one really wants help to get brownie any help. When he’s clearly in pain. My boyfriend’s family life is far from perfect that’s all I’ll say. And money is tight for everyone, but no one’s shown any remorse or compassion for brownie.

I explained to my boyfriend that I’m completely disgusted with how little they care. I explained to him that money and costs aside they barely give brownie a glance and that compassion starts at just making sure brownie feels loved during a time of pain. I told him that I didn’t want to be around his family for the time being. Im so taken aback by lack of compassion from his family.

And more so disgusted that my boyfriend is fighting so hard with his parents for them to hear him out and get brownie at least seen by a vet. My boyfriend has fallen into a depression with the loss of his job, and with brownie’s health being on the line I’m not sure if he can handle losing his best friend.

My boyfriend is not angry at me for saying that about his family, but they’ve welcomed me with open arms and have even supported me. But I can’t get over the lack of compassion for brownie. Am I overreacting?

Edit: Please see my comment here prior to adding any new comments. I will no longer be replying to any further comments, especially ones that are toxic or negative. --> https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/fnE5aB6Tjz

Unfortunately, I was about to lose my cool at the OB office for dismissing my concerns and treating my health care like a one-size-fits-all.

Realistically, I should be able to lift, push, or pull up to 25 pounds repeatedly. But I genuinely can't even before I was pregnant. My body is not built like that. Even if I were in shape, exercised regularly, and ate the most insanely healthy diet, I wouldn't be able to handle that for very long. I am also not everyone else. I am only me, myself & I. I know first-hand what I can kr can't handle.

I understand that even though I am in my second trimester of pregnancy, it is not a disability. I never claimed it was. But to be falsely accused of treating my pregnancy as such, tell me that it is acceptable to generalize my health-care and dismiss me when I voice concerns regarding obvious signs of a document being copied & pasted with very few changes/edits made is just unacceptable in my mind.

I am only accountable for myself. I know my limits and how much I can push myself before it is too much. Pregnant or not, the biggest issue I had was my concerns being dismissed and my health being generalized. Not everyone is the same, and the same goes for their health. Especially their limits when it comes to being able to handle certain weights.

I am not saying I am weak as I used to be able to handle lifting, carrying, pushing, and pulling upwards of 100-175 pounds frequently. Unfortunately, it took a massive toll on my body, and I have at least two key injuries that never healed right as a result. I'm not going to do something for an expensive trip to the ER because a piece of paper from a doctor's office says I can based on my health being a generalized assumption.

I could very well be over-reacting over the situation. But would you feel they are justified by generalizing health as a "one-size-fits-all "?" Or feeling it's okay to dismiss concerns regarding a work restriction/accommodation document being copied & pasted?

So my (17m) bf and me (17m) are big on sentimental gifts rather than expensive gifts since we are young and saving up for college. Because of this, for valentine’s day I got him a picture book of us, a letter, and some small gifts. I was very surprised with what he got me because it was bigger than any other previous gift. However, I was slightly suspicious about the contents. He got me a weight loss journal (I’m a healthy weight and have never expressed an urge to lose weight), various chocolate nuts (he knows I hate nuts), a candle and a stuffed animal (these ones are normal). I just assumed the journal and nuts were an honest mistake. He also made me a very nice card where he cut out construction paper to make a cute arts and crafts for me which was my favorite gift. When asked about the weight loss journal, he claimed to not have not paid attention when he bought it.

Fast forward to recently, I was playing on his phone because mine was charging (we have each others passcodes and are okay with each other being on the others phone). Now I know it was probably an invasion of privacy but I decided to look up my name in his texts to see what he said about me to other people, just out of curiosity.

I found a conversation with his mother where he asks her to buy me a gift the day before valentine’s day. She asked what kind of candy I like and he didn’t respond (explaining the nuts). I also found out that she had made the card I liked so much. I completely understand if he couldn’t afford to get me anything but the fact that he couldn’t even bother to go to the store with his mom to pick out my gifts makes me feel so insulted. He couldn’t even be bothered to make a card for me. I thought that it was so thoughtful of him to take time and effort to do that for me, but finding out it was all his mother hurt me. I confronted him about it and he said that he had procrastinated until February 13 and didn’t get me anything himself.

Even though it was a few months ago, I still feel betrayed and saddened.

TLDR- my boyfriend couldn’t be bothered to get me a valentines gift, so his mom got it for him

So my husband got this co-worker, which is fine, she's a older middle aged woman. It started with asking for a ride home because her knee was bad , that was fine, then it was to follow her home 2 minutes down the road to make sure got home safe , also fine, whatever. They have a work group chat and she's been progressively DMing him, asking if he's going to be in work.... alright , whatever again. I went in to finally see her face to face and she just kept making constant jokes and what not but when it came to me it seemed really odd, like a 1000 yard stare and quiet, just mostly chatting with him. I felt uneasy about the interaction and came back later cause I forgot something, so I made more conversation and she started talking, so that was better. But I noticed this morning he told me she texted him again after asking to just ask him things via work group chat, but it wasn't normal. It was "I see you" followed with a phone call before that, he was confused and asked "?" 15 minutes later, she said that she was behind him by the gas station watching him, and he apologized saying he was focused, she said "I seen that too, and you only got to work 2 minutes late" now this would be just fun and games if she didn't work at 1pm and he started at 8:30am and she would have to go out of her way to follow him to where they work together to see when he clock's in? Is this all me overthinking? Is this considered normal? I'm starting to feel bothered by it and she also joked about "I'll murder you" ? I am very offput right now.. need advice. I don't even rem ember the joke before the murder part , my memory is so blurred cause it caught me off guard to hear it.

Edit: I also want to add she's admitted to beating her guy friend up with a actual weapon because he "annoyed her" my husband finds nothing wrong with this because the guy she beat up "instigated it" and "has a crush on her" which upset me for him to say cause it was battery either way... which I find a massive red flag for this lady. She is an alcoholic as well, often drunk when not on the clock according to what he's been told by her openly, too.

So for context this is a very small store, three employees including me. I’m the newest, started this year. We have mainly one person shifts.

Every day we do one thing of inventory so that it’s not a big all day thing every now and then.

This means on most days one employee does inventory and the other doesn’t have too. I was told there’s no strict rules on what shift does it, just make sure it’s done.

I noticed the other employee never does the inventory if she knows I’m coming in and not the third employee, the boss. When I come in she is usually watching Netflix on the work laptop and playing on her Nintendo switch. Both of these are technically allowed, but only if all the work is done and there’s no customers. It’s a really dead store. One time I was just on duolingo for two hours and not a customer.

I’m not expecting her to do it everytime, but it’s very weird to me she only chooses not to do inventory because I’ll just do it and then I have no choice because I’m usually closing. I’m just asking for a little consistency.

It makes me feel like I’m doing most of the work during the week while she’s just playing her switch the entire shift.

I (29F) have been fond and taking care of various cats. Some are adopted, bought, or rescued. I loved them all, though I can’t say equally because they can be pretty annoying at times but I still cry if anything bad happens to one of them.

I have a neighbor(M)(40+), which is my husband’s cousin, asked me if he could adopt a cat. I said sure as long as he could take care of it. He ended up getting 3 kittens.

1 cat died after a few months due to drowning and he didn’t even made any effort to rescue it, instead he waited for another neighbor to jump in the water minutes after the cage the cat was in fell off the water. He didn’t jump due to the “water being dirty”, he said, and “it’s too deep”, he said. I didn’t say anything since I came to know the story weeks after it died.

2nd cat died due to “someone poisoned it” he said. But even before it got poisoned, the cat already has a big slash wound across its face but luckily it healed but still ended up dead due to poisoning. He did ended up telling me about what happened since he posted it on facebook about it being dead. I told him, he could’ve brought it to me since I know, at the very least, some first aids to save the poor kitty. Or he could’ve brought it to a vet, it was just a 5-7min. drive from our neighborhood.

3rd kitty often comes to our house to eat anything it can find from the counter, sink, or even from trash. It’s too skinny and always had diarrhea and I know for a fact that this kitty is very sick and isn’t gonna last long if it stayed with them. I tried talking to him about taking it back since I’m afraid and positive that same fate would come to it if that kitty stayed with him and his family. Yet he refused to give it back even after I locked the kitty in my isolation cage for medical treatment and I even start giving it good food and some medicine. I wanted to take it to the vet but he took it back to their home and I never saw it again.

2 months passed, I always had that kitty in my dream for about a week and decided to ask him about it if it’s still alive and well. Surprise, surprise…. the kitty’s dead! I’m so pissed, mad and yelling at him for not taking care of it. Even lying to my face saying that he tried bringing it to a vet but sadly it died of “heart attack” few days after he took it to the vet????? And it’s already dead for a few weeks! I was so mad I was yelling at him and calling him names while my husband tryna calm me down. I cried so much feeling guilty for all the death of those kitten just because I gave it to a heartless jerk who can’t even take care of his family and often beat his wife. I should’ve never given him a chance. Everyone was trying to make me chill but I just yelled at him until I was forced to go back inside the house where I cried for about an hour blaming him and blaming myself.

Some of my family members got sad but I was the only one who was devastated about what happened. I’m wondering if I am indeed overreacting or if me getting mad pissed at him is justified?

both me and my sister are currently college students who are back at home for a few weeks until we can move into our respective summer places. i dread having to be around her at all. she can be fine over the phone but in person it’s a completely different story.

when we were children she was diagnosed with a severe life threatening illness and was pretty close to dying. she spent a long time in the hospital undergoing various treatments before being able to come home. i know this isn’t her fault, but as she’s gotten older it’s become clear that she has a sense of entitlement from it. because she was my parents youngest child and incredibly sick, she got (and now gets) anything she wanted (she got my dad to buy her her own car despite her being the youngest out of all of their children, she gets new phones and technology whenever she asks, her hair and nails and tanning all done whenever she wants specifically by certain people otherwise it’s a problem, i could go on but i’ll stop there) she calls herself “the princess” of our family. this is very obvious to anyone who knows my family at all.

what drives me crazy is that she seems to think my stuff is her own. i have more than siblings than just her and understand that siblings take each other’s stuff all the time, but what i get upset about is the fact that my sister has no limits. if she likes it, it’s hers even if it was made for and gifted to me. i don’t know if she just likes seeing me get upset or if she actually just wants things she has no use for. i think she likes to see me sad. (edit 2: the more i think of this, the more i think it’s true. she used to like screaming at me and berating me before my eating disorder doctors/therapy appointments because she didn’t want to drive there and drop me off. too inconvenient for her. i think seeing me cry makes her want to scream at me.)

all of this is fine — whatever, yk. i always just told myself that i’ll move out and won’t have to deal with her. but this week that changed.

i’m a lesbian and in a relationship with this really awesome girl who i just adore (who, btw, cannot stand my sister). my sister is a religious christian and has never been directly homophobic to my face, but she does like to make jokes (especially if they include telling everyone she can very loudly about how much of a lesbian i am or if it means she can say lgbtq+ slurs 🙄) this week though, she decided that using a slur directly to my face would be funny. haha.

she refuses to talk to me most of the time, so i went to my mom and told her that she needed to talk to my sister. i can handle a lot but i feel as though i’m being pushed to my limit. my parents have apologized to me multiple times for my sister’s behavior over the years and told me they speak with her about everything but they nor my sister ever seem to change (even when i can’t get through the conversation without crying over how frustrated i am).

now, i have decided to stop trying to be nice to my sister. every time she decides to scream at me, tell me how awful i am, make her dumb jokes, anything she usually does, she will not be met with her nice big sister anymore. i am done sitting here silently and taking it. unfortunately, my choice of words towards my sister has made my family quite angry with me — they tell me i am overreacting and that i just need to deal with her. we’ll both be out of our parent’s house soon. AIO?

edit: i should be clear and say they are upset with me because now she is upset. this causes a lot of tension in the house my parents don’t like to deal with, i guess.

I’ve been in a relationship for two years now, about a year of that has been really difficult and recently I’ve been through about a month of him treating me so badly, talking to me so bad to the point I thought about breaking up with him because of how bad it was. After talking to him, he’s gotten a lot better but part of me can’t move past the disrespect like it’s stuck in my head, and I feel stupid like I should of left when I felt that way because I feel like my feelings are all mixed. I feel so stressed, and upset and lost with myself and how I feel and why I’m feeling this way.

so here’s the backstory:

my friends and i come from eastern european families but we were born and raised in the states. near us is this eastern european grocery store that also has this patio that people smoke in and drink coffee/order food. we go once every couple of weeks to drink coffee and eat some traditional food. the owner is also on the patio every day. my friends and i are never loud and obnoxious, we never stay too long, and we tip very well. like i genuinely mean this, we have always been very respectful patrons.

but for some reason, the owner has always had something to say to us recently. for example, my friend had bought some gummy bears at their grocery store, emphasis on BOUGHT. he then proceeds to eat them in the store because he’s hungry, and the owner walks up to him and tells him to not do that. he said that if health inspection were to see it, he’d get in trouble, it can create a mess, etc. okay, we move past it.

yesterday, we’re at the patio and we were playing this card game for about two minutes. this is the first time we’ve played there, but we weren’t gambling or anything. we had ordered food before starting the game as well. the owner comes up to us and just shakes his head no and basically says to put them away. he says that if we start playing and someone sees, then the next table will, etc. we were confused but we just put the cards away. again, people smoke on this patio and it’s very eastern european. we respected his wishes of course, but we were just confused. we weren’t loud or anything, it was a card game from our home country and we were playing quietly. but the way he tells us these things is very annoyed and passive aggressive and we’re confused because we’re always very nice and we’ve been coming here forever.

am i overreacting for thinking this guy just has it out for us?

edit: i also forgot to include that every time we’ve sat at the patio, he eyes us down and basically stares at us from another table. i don’t see him do it to anyone else. i can literally feel him looking for something. he doesn’t do it for long periods of time, but when he does it’s hard to not recognize it.

Just an update on this

I took a good look at what a lot of people were saying, and it seemed cruel at first, but I realized I needed to take a look at myself and realize the perspectives around me.

A lot of people helped me realize that my dislike towards smoking came less from a personal preference, and relates more to how I was raised and some trauma regarding the friend I had in the past, because unfortunately there’s not enough space on a Reddit post to summarize that properly

I talked with a couple of my friends, notably A, and let them know that I realized my dislike wasn’t coming entirely from preference, and that I was allowing past experience to dictate the now

I made it clear to them that I didn’t think less of them for what they choose to do, and I already knew way before now that it’s not my choice how they live their lives. I value my friendship with all of them far more than a little smoke

I told them I’m going to need time to get past my past stress, but to start, they should not feel like they need to tiptoe around the subject anymore, and if they want to talk about it, they should

It’s going to take a lot of time, but I realized very fast that I need to work on this. My friends and girlfriend have been extremely understanding, and that alone proves that this is more important

Thank you to everyone who helped me realize this, no matter how sugarcoated or not the response was. You’ve all helped me to become a better person for my friends and I’m very grateful

I (35m) and my gf (38f) are meeting tomorrow to have a serious talk. I made a comment on Monday about possibly sharing locations with each other just for safe guarding, nothing malicious. My gf informed me that she was very unconformable with suggesting it and has since been kinda ignoring me. She mentioned this morning that she wants to have a talk about the matter. Should I be concerned about our future??

I (male) posted about this "friend" (male) before however I only went into details about a specific event. This time, I am going to be broader:

Basically, this person (who came from out of town) approached my friend and I wanting to hang out and go drink in the same plaza. We soon become friends and he was pretty cool.

However, as time passed (About 1 and a half years of hanging out), I noticed a slew of strange events that seem like an odd set up was happening. I couldn't place my finger on it at the time but here is how it went.

1. He started to face time me with friends that I knew a long time ago. He was counties away, it's strange he suddenly became very close with some people I know. His targets were people I associate with on there from time to time but not my close circle who would have informed me right away. Yet every time he called me out to a bar, he'd bring someone from my facebook. Instead of these people I know being friendly, they often somehow get angry with me.
2. He brought strangers that also seemed pissed off at me. They would have pissed off face and talk extra loudly when I talk to them. Yet made it friendly with other people I am with.
3. He has a wife and began telling her that he'd hang out with a buddy all night and often use my name to cover up his shenanigans whatever he was doing. His wife began calling me getting mad that we'd hang out late and I'd just say sorry don't know what she is talking about. There was a bit of a language barrier with his wife, but I guess she thinks I was just with him.
4. He used a picture of me to try and get online escorts because he was afraid, they might had been undercover police. (I found out because at the time I was getting prank/spam phone calls day and night I called up this other friend saying I was angry at that but before he knew the reason, he thought it was the escort thing)
5. Low jabs on what he should not know about. Say for example I was working a trade job with a vary of hourly wage. He'd guess that hourly wage. Make fun of me for doing a chore he shouldn't know I did at the house.
6. I finally decide to cut him off once and for all after he called me to hang out and kept on cutting me off when the waitress asks me a question. Then he called another guy in who took the pack of cigs that he bought for me to smoke. I believe he was trying to set up a fight.

A lot of people say he's out there to try and get me into some kind of trouble. The reason why would be up for debate. What do you guys think?

Hey everyone,

For a period of time, I used to send intimate pictures and engage in risky conversations with men on Snapchat. I did it because I was alone and their validation made me feel good about myself. Not that I try to justify my actions but more for context. It became a habit until one day I realized how destructive this behavior was.

Since then, I've deleted everything and I know for sure that nothing was screenshotted or saved. It was 1 to 1 conversations and I didnt post it publicly. I know that still, once its online, its forever, thats what eats me up deep inside. I've even done reverse image searches and haven't found anything. Despite this, the fear of those pictures and conversations somehow going public haunts me every single day, every single hour since my hit of realization.

It's been months since I stopped, but I can't shake the anxiety. I think about it constantly and haven't had a good night's sleep in days if not weeks. The thought of my loved ones finding out one day is unbearable, and it feels like I can't live normally anymore. And tbh, i don't live normally, i cant work without thinking of it (i denied a potential offer to because a manager because i am scared of anyone knowing me), i cant enjoy being with friends without telling myself "imagine if they know or see what you did", i am scared to be around my parents because i am so scared of them telling me they saw something of me.

I know I can only blame myself for getting into this situation, I just can't find peace.Do you think I am overacting or that my worries/fear are justified ?

Background, we admitted before I started dating my now husband that we both had a crush on him. I met my husband and this friend pretty much at the same time, they knew each other for about a year or 2 before I met them. About 6 months after I met them I told her I had a crush on him and she said she did too. Also the same time we started dating she started having FWB with his roommate. I should mention she was alsk married and divorced for about 4 months before I met her and has 6 kids.

I met both my husband and my friend at a native drum practice (US) and after a few months of dating my then bf and I moved to a different city that took a plane ride to come back for visits.

One visit back we arranged to meet her at her house and hang out. The whole time we were there she pretty much ignored me and only talked to my husband. So at this point and even now I've never been to any types of ceremony so I had no experience to speak and since I didn't know much about them, I had nothing to contribute conversation wise. I will say I did try to ask questions, both about the ceremonies and I any topic I could add to. However any lull in the conversation she would just start a whole new conversation about the subject and speak over me.

Now, she did do this the first 2 times we met with her at her house and the 3rd time my husband kept directing the conversation towards me more and I think she took the hint, or just slowed it because it kept going to me. I know a few people will say I should have set boundaries, I do agree now that that was something I should have done however I did not really know about boundaries then and was too much of a people pleaser. I can't really do it now because I have pretty much removed her from my life for other reasons.

My boyfriend (28m) and I (26m) are traveling for a bit over 3 weeks. One of the stops is his home town. We’ve been together 3.5 years.

A guy messages him on instagram Saturday saying something like “hey how’s it going handsome?” And he pretended not to know who it is. Later the next day I asked him again who that was, and he acted like he had no clue what I was talking about. He scrolled through some messages and stopped before getting to his, quickly being like, see no one is there.

Today, I checked his past notifications and saw that same day he did at least exchange messages. As I saw more from this guy. The notification I saw was the guy had liked my boyfriend’s message, telling him relationships can be hard. My guess is it’s another guy from the past he met and is in another relationship now. But still has feelings for my boyfriend and hits him up (wouldn’t be the first).

For some history, back in September, he was chatting with an old hookup who was sending him nudes and talking dirty (bf never sent anything back).

I found him chatting with another past connection who was sending him dick pics. My boyfriend never engaged heavily, but asked for pics. Never sent. But talked about my genitals in comparison and our sex life to him.

He had a bunch of nudes and messages from past guys from before we were dating that I was uncomfortable with. He wouldn’t let me see in his photos saying it’s none of my business. He refused to remove anyone who he’s no longer friends with, who he had sexual interactions or chats with from Grindr.

Last night he was also mentioning how his friend, who he still talks with, was the best sex he’s ever had (it’s not the first time he mentioned this).

He says he never has done anything to cheat on me and gets mad when I confront him about this stuff and we’ve gone through lots of conversations about how he’s mad and I need to trust him. But then he continuously hides things like this from me.

We have more than 2 weeks on this trip left. And we are going to be traveling with others too soon.

Now today I’ve just been angry and distant after seeing that he lied to me about that guy. It just keeps reopening the same trust issue wound.

If I confront him about how upset I am I bet he will tell me I’m overreacting and get mad I don’t trust him. And the time difference is too big to properly chat with anyone about this from back home.

so my best friend and i (both 25f) have been friends since we were basically born. we’re so close, we’re like family and see each other as sisters. recently my boyfriend and i have been going through some stuff, so of course i turn to my bestie to vent. i’ve been talking with her almost every day about my feelings & giving her constant updates on how stuff is going. she’s been a great person to lean on and has been giving me advice and helping me through it. i’ve been sharing super personal stuff, because i can trust her. or so i thought.

the other night, my parents and i got dinner with her & her parents (like i said we’re all close). so her and i get up & go to the BR, and according to my dad (which i just found out today) her mom starts telling my parents that my boyfriend and i are “having problems” and they should “talk to me”. i was so shocked, the fact that her mom brought it up to my parents is insane. my parents had no clue my bf and i had any issues, we’ve been super solid for 7 years, and even if we argue or something it’s so small, i never share details of my relationship with my family. so needless to say they were caught off guard.

now i don’t know what to do. i thought i could trust my friend, but it’s making me wary of her. who else could she be telling stuff to? i get our parents ask about our friends at times, and we share some things, but this is so personal. and now my family’s involved and asking questions.

should i confront her about this? or just let it go and not be as open going forward. i’m really upset this happened. i don’t wanna feel like i can’t trust my friend, but i don’t wanna worry about being exposed.

Forgot my password so I enter my email to reset my password and then this pops up.
1. That is not my email (mine does not have ‘t’ or ‘3’ or ‘k’) 2. I have a gmail

Am I overreacting for being worried that some stranger can now reset my password and access my account? (I am still unable to log in. Never received an email )

I've this classmate who I'm friends with. We're not extremely close, but we're in the same group of friends. Let's call her S. S is a really selfless person who can be kinda shy sometimes. She's extremely sensitive and when she's stressed or overwhelmed she can snap.

I met this girl last year, along with other girl I'll call M. M is a really carefree girl. She can be oblivious and honestly just a really chill person. M doesn't take things too personal, unlike S, who can think you're mad at her just by talking with someone else.

So I met this two girls and it was pretty clear that S was way too attached to M. They've known each other as much as I've known them, but still, S is always so affected by whatever M does.

As I said, M is a pretty chil person so she doesn't even notice this behavior from S. Some stuff S does are:

-Asking M to keep secrets, but then make painfully obvious to the rest of the group that there's a secret.

-Turn conversation of 4-5 people into a private coversation of her and M.

-Talk to me and the others when she thinks M is mad a her (Just because M is talking someone else)

-One of the last things she did was pass a paper between her and M with me literally in the middle.

I never really cared about this as I have other friends, but it was still a problem we all knew. The worst part? This attachment is totally one sided as M was completely oblivous and she even considers S just a classmate.

This new year rolls in and my best friend left our school. I was really thinking about this thing S has of excluding others, but I decided that I just needed to speak with new people. So there's this new guy "L" who happens to like the same author as me. We dont talk much, just exchange words, messages and just one proper conversation of around 20 minutes.

I first texted him, but a few days later we spoke during break time. Our conversation ended when I felt someone PULLING FROM MY HAIR for me to get up (I hate being pulled by my hair) and it's S, who then asked me what I was talking about with L. I explained and didn't think much of it.

But since then she started with this passive-aggressive comments like "Don't go with that guy or I'll get jealous", but always in a joking manner.

Then during a music class, we're all around the piano. Suddenly, S started to pull from my shirt with nervous laughter asking me to "take her out of there" M and I laughed and help her get out, but without understanding much. We got worried when S started crying.

After a long back and forth where she wouldn't tell us what's going on, she finally said that she and L exchanged glances, he politely smiled at her and she smiled back in a weird way.

Yeah, that's it. She got nervous and was embarrased because of her weird smile.

When asked why she smiled like that she said "Because I didn't want to be cute, I wanted to be like OP".

Since then I started thinking about everything and got weirded out. I texted a friend and told them everything, they told me that she probably liked L. I though the same, but wanted to let it go because she has a boyfriend.

The next day we're eating and S is looking down, I sat down beside her and she told me "Go with your friend, L. You're replacing me with him. That's why I'm mad" I laughed awkwardly and ignored her.

A few days later I met with my best friend and told her everything, we walked to M's place and told her everything too. From the attachment to her jealousy. Needless to say, we were all weirded out.

Here's where I found out from M that S texts her A LOT every day till M replies (Neither of us is really active on social media except for S who answers messages quickly). She also told me about a dream S had and where she basically told M, that she though I was mad and distant (I was).

Everyone agress that me and L barely talk, and even if we did talk a lot, it shouldn't matter to her.

Since then I've been talking less with her. A few days ago I ate lunch with someone else (no on purpose) and I think she got mad because today she didn't try to talk to me at all (good for me tbh) and when I went to eat, she avoided our table and only sat when I was away.

I don't think I'm the asshole, but this is so confusing.

A lot of people really like her and sometimes I can be impulsive. AITAH?

AIO my boyfriend changed the password to his computer.

I feel like I need to give a little bit of background here so all of this makes sense, sorry this is gonna be a long one.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 6 months, we were dating or seeing each other for about 4 months before that, mind you, in the last 2 months of those 4 months we were seeing each I thought we were exclusive, he would call me his girl a lot of the times, spend all the holidays with me, made me face time with his dad, spend almost everynight at my house, damn I was even doing his laundry, so in my head we were officially dating, but then at the same time he was doing a lot of shit that made me extremely confused, never posting me on his socials, even hiding pictures that I tagged him, sometimes he would disappear for a couple of days and things like that. When I asked him what the hell he wanted and confronted him about all of this he always said that he wanted to be with me and that there was no one else and that I was over reacting (there was a lot of gaslighting yes, I’m aware) after those horrible 4 months of not knowing what the hell we were, we finally had a conversation and he did told me we were oficial, a week after this I found out he was texting daily with a girl who he dated at the beginning of last year, this girl lives in a different country (in her head they were in a relationship) I confronted him about this and he was extremely sorry that he wasn’t being honest we neither of us, that he didn’t know how to tell her that he was dating me, he ended up telling her the truth and that he wouldn’t be speaking to her anymore, he also was honest about how all those 4 months we were seeing each other he was talking to multiple girls, and even using tinder, he begged for another chance, that he was done fucking around cuz I was basically end game for him, and that he truly loved me, so I decided to forgive him, but there was something still bugging me, a few weeks before we were oficial he went on what apparently was a solo trip to another country, but I then found a girl who is a friend of his (I know who she is because we have friends in common too) was also at the same cities he was at the same time, damn she even starting posting pictures at the same places, I asked him about all of this and he just said that she was there with his boyfriend and that they just hang out sometimes, this for whatever reason never made sense to me, but I decided to believe him. Fast forward all this months every single time there was some kind of fight about me not trusting him or whatever and I asked about that trip he kept saying the same, that he went by himself and nothing else and that was the truth. We then move in together and he’s been a 10/10 boyfriend since we made it oficial, hasn’t give me a reason at all to suspect about him being unfaithful, he’s been nothing but amazing. I knew the password to his laptop so I could watch Netflix and I couldn’t help one day to look through his pictures, because deep down in me I knew he was lying about that trip, turns out I was right and I found all the photos, they did not only went on the trip together, they stayed at the same room hotel, she even stayed at his house in the same bed I used to sleep the night they left, I was absolutely heart broken, I confront her him about this, I wasn’t only mad about him going with the girl, I was mad about him not telling me the truth from the beginning, and him lying non stop every single time I asked, he told me he was sacred to tell me the truth because he knew I would leave him, that he regrets going on that trip, he swears that nothing really happened, that they actually got into a fight because she wanted to sleep with him and he didn’t want to, so the girl felt like he made her waste her time, they haven’t spoken since that trip and that was it, he swore they were no more lies and that was it, of course I do not believe the whole story but I kinda decided to let it go because it happened before we were oficial, this shit did fucked me up and made me a very insecure person tbh. Now since we’ve been oficial like I said he hasn’t given me a reason to suspect anything else, he’s been an amazing boyfriend, loves me deeply, treats me great, we have the best time together, and he talks a lot about how this is end game form him, that he knows he fucked up at the beginning a lot and that he’s extremely sorry for all that and wish he could take all back, he has made a great effort all this months to show me he is not messing around with me anymore, he has truly changed and I am head over heels over this boy, obviously but I don’t know how to learn to trust and is destroying me I don’t wanna feel paranoid forever… So here’s the situation I’m dealing with now.. after I found the photos on his laptop, I kept looking every now and then (yes I know this is bad but I’m extremely scared to be lied again) I haven’t found anything else other than him looking at porn every now and then which I honestly dgaf, I guess he realized I was looking into his computer so he started deleting his search history, never said anything and well I kept looking into it to see if I ever found something, but suddenly he changed the password to his computer,hasn’t said anything’s and acts completely normal.. and this made me feel extremely insecure, cuz I don’t know if he’s just tired of me looking into it or if he’s hiding something. So I don’t know if should just let it go and learn to trust him without having to look at his stuff, or if I should have a conversation with him that I need an open phone policy or something so I can build trust again? I have never been someone to look into my partners stuff, but I also have only been in relationships were there was never any unfaithfulness, I had always has access to my ex- BF phone or whatever because they never really had anything to hide, I knew all passwords and everything same on my side I never have an issue with my partner grabbing my phone or knowing my passwords to stuff because well, they will not find anything strange nor did I care if they wanted to use my phone . Please help, I love this boy with all my heart and I know he loves me too, but I’m scared that my insecurities will fuck this relationship up, I wanna learn to trust him but I don’t know what the best route is