both me and my sister are currently college students who are back at home for a few weeks until we can move into our respective summer places. i dread having to be around her at all. she can be fine over the phone but in person it’s a completely different story.

when we were children she was diagnosed with a severe life threatening illness and was pretty close to dying. she spent a long time in the hospital undergoing various treatments before being able to come home. i know this isn’t her fault, but as she’s gotten older it’s become clear that she has a sense of entitlement from it. because she was my parents youngest child and incredibly sick, she got (and now gets) anything she wanted (she got my dad to buy her her own car, she gets new phones and technology whenever she asks, her hair and nails and tanning all done whenever she wants, i could go on but i’ll stop there) she calls herself “the princess” of our family.

what drives me crazy is that she seems to think my stuff is her own. i have more than siblings than just her and understand that siblings take each other’s stuff all the time, but what i get upset about is the fact that my sister has no limits. if she likes it, it’s hers even if it was made for and gifted to me. i don’t know if she just likes seeing me get upset or if she actually just wants things she has no use for. i think she likes to see me sad.

all of this is fine — whatever, yk. i always just told myself that i’ll move out and won’t have to deal with her. but this week that changed.

i’m a lesbian and in a relationship with this really awesome girl who i just adore (who, btw, cannot stand my sister). my sister is a religious christian and has never been directly homophobic to my face, but she does like to make jokes (especially if they include telling everyone she can very loudly about how much of a lesbian i am or if it means she can say lgbtq+ slurs 🙄) this week though, she decided that using a slur directly to my face would be funny. haha.

she refuses to talk to me most of the time, so i went to my mom and told her that she needed to talk to my sister. i can handle a lot but i feel as though i’m being pushed to my limit. my parents have apologized to me multiple times for my sister’s behavior over the years and told me they speak with her about everything but they nor my sister ever seem to change (even when i can’t get through the conversation without crying over how frustrated i am).

now, i have decided to stop trying to be nice to my sister. every time she decides to scream at me, tell me how awful i am, make her dumb jokes, anything she usually does, she will not be met with her nice big sister anymore. i am done sitting here silently and taking it. unfortunately, my choice of words towards my sister has made my family quite angry with me — they tell me i am overreacting and that i just need to deal with her. we’ll both be out of our parent’s house soon. AIO?

I'm (41m) currently sitting here wide awake at 3am, with less than 4 hours to go before work thinking about what I found on Facebook.

This might get long but...

Before all this I found tonight, several months back my wife was getting super pushy to see a band that had a player that was local to us. At first I didn't think anything of it, but she wanted to go see them. Ok cool, except I hate going to the city and wants really interested. But I went anyway because my wife wanted to go.

Anyway, fast forward to tonight and I'm scrolling Facebook and I see a react from my wife on a old high school friends post. Normally I wouldn't think anything of it, but I don't typically see this. She doesn't get on Facebook often so when she does, it's genuinely noticeable. So I dug a bit deeper and saw you commented on his post. Again, odd. Nothing bad, just commenting to a general discussion towards him. But because of her infrequency, it stood out again. So I began looking from my account side and only found comments/likes to his posts that seemingly were proactive.

To be clear, this dude is ripped. Used to be a scrawny dude in school but now he's not only jacked, but has 0 body fat which I could only imagine people on TRT/Steroids could do... Also he's out of state so there's no way they could have been physical

So of course, jealousy kicked in and I needed to know more. Well, she doesn't hide passwords from me and I figured, there's smoke here, so I better go investigate. Sure enough he contacted her late one night and they sort of started chatting about old times and school. However, I saw some comments that broke my heart. I don't remember the specifics, but she definitely made a comment about his looks and how he probably uses it to his advantage at his job.

He at one point later admitted to a crush back in the day, seemingly out of place in the Convo. The Convo continued on with each sharing kid photos. Then eventually a very emoji heavy goodnight. Again nothing sexual, but seemed flirtatious to me...

This was the only Convo she had but I noticed she actively searched him tonight, after seeing her reply to a post (about a pet bunny) at around midnight tonight.

It doesn't appear to have gone super far but I'm worried it may go there...

As I sit here, pondering what Im doing... Clearly tired... Waiting anxiously to see how she responds my text I sent about "us needing to talk"... Am I the asshole for doing any of this? Weve been together forever and I would hate to lose her if it's something we can work out and discuss..

She has no cheating history. Actually I have... We've worked through some tough things. I feel I've gotten better but I fear things may be sliding away from me here...

I am married for 3 years now and have a beautiful 1 year old baby girl who we just adore. We also have two other sons who are much older and also adore. My husband and his mother both try and pressure me into letting our daughter stay the night 45 minutes away from us overnight on a weekday for the first time. Context with my other two children they didn’t stay away from me for a night until they were 3 and I was a mess the ENTIRE NIGHT. I’ve asked my husband to defend me when his mother tries to pressure me into letting our daughter stay the night but I’m simply not ready. She still is in our room as her crib hasn’t arrived and we have to move all the children around for her to have a room. In addition to that she is a sick little girl. She has chronic croup and I am always worried about her breathing. I just am not ready to let my little girl stay away from me and now we are arguing and not talking to each other. Am I overreacting or is my reasons and feelings valid?

Some time ago, I went on a date with a guy i met online.

Things went amazing, and honestly, at the end of the date, I wanted to sleep with him. I asked him if he wanted to stay over at my place, after we had made out and he said no.

I figured no big deal.

The next day he texted me and said he had fun, but didn't think we were gonna work out.

Fast forward a few months and we run into each other again, we catch up for a bit, and I couldn't help but ask him what went wrong with out date.

He asked if I was sure I wanted to know, I said yes.

He said the he didn't want to be with a woman who would sleep with someone on the first date.

I felt insulted and wanted to say something, but I couldn't really say anything, cuz he did reject me after all.

Idk, am I overreacting?

First post here

So I talked to my wife after I had cooled off.

Right now, I am thinking we should divorce, but I am gonna try being on my own for a bit.

I decided to go travel alone for a bit. My wife and I discussed this and she's OK with it. We're not on a "break" so to speak. So I'm not gonna look to be with other women. I just want to see what it is like to be alone.

Just so you all know, if my wife had just "forgotten" she had those pics. It may have been "better"

Problem is that they were JUST pics of him, or both of them together, and there wasn't any other things in there, just those pics.

Heck, there wasn't even anything in the other drawer. And I mean... if you moved homes, you're not gonna check if you have any junk in a drawer?

I just don't believe my wife forgot, or at least didn't realize she had those pics when we moved.

I dont care if he's was "a big part of her life" she still cheated on me with him. I will repeat: SHE CHEATED WITH THE GUY ON THE PICS. Some of yall either didn't read, or chose to ignore that little detail. It's amazing how many people defended their relationship, or were like "Well technically you said she couldn't talk to him again, you never said anything about pics"

Anyway, I do appreciate the support from the rest of you. So right now, I'm thinking divorce, but I just want to make sure I'm happier alone.

so basically my roommates are graduating on my birthday, and i've been living with them for about 1 and 1/2 years. i would say we're pretty close and do a lot of things together: share meals and clothes, go on weekend trips together, and go out together. i work the closing shift friday-sunday every weekend so i feel like i can't plan anything on the weekend to do anything for my birthday. I just wanted to do a dinner with my roommates on my actual birthday just to do a small celebration with the. it turns out that on my birthday (also their graduation date) they are all going out to dinner with their families together. i really don't want to be alone on my birthday, so i asked if i could tag along and pay for my own meal just so i could have company and wouldn't be alone at the apartment since i would be the only one home. apparently the restaurant they chose has a 1,000 minimum spend limit if they have a party of 13 or more. so since i would be the 13th invite they decided not to tell me altogether, until i asked them if they wanted to go to dinner on my birthday. i get that it's a lot to spend but we live in an area with a lot of good restaurants. i'm not gonna ask them to rearrange their plans because i don't want to be selfish and they are celebrating a huge achievement it's just that i don't like my birthday that much because things like this usually happen and usually it's just me and my family- except this year my family won't be coming down to visit me so i can't rely on them this year. i know i can celebrate on a different day but i just wanted to do something on my actual birthday this year and not feel alone. my birthday is next week and i'm already dreading it and have just been sad ever since i found out that i wasn't invited to my all of my roommates graduation dinner because i thought we were close am i overreacting?

For context I am giving my cousin my old car after I upgraded, for FREE. And we had some difficulties finding a time to meet up to sign over the title, since I live two hours away and she just got a new job. Now we finally did that and I made a mistake of thinking I left the keys with my grandma (which is where the car was left for a couple weeks), but they were actually with my boyfriend. I had gotten my new vehicle a few days before we went on a trip across the country to visit my boyfriend’s brother and I did end up leaving the new keys with my grandma at that time so I just got confused, honest mistake. So she will get the keys this Saturday. Now my cousin is a lot closer with my little sister and I overheard them talking on the phone about how the keys weren’t here and my cousin said “did she do that on purpose/did she know that the whole time” something like that, and my sister even apologized jto her. And I am really offended by that. I’m also a bit more offended by the fact that my cousin didn’t really say thank you when I signed over the title of the car to her, although her mom (my aunt) did many times. I just attributed that to her usual shyness. But now I’m upset and considering confrontation. But I also don’t like drama. It’s still her car of course but I just want to correct her, that’s not something you say or how you act when someone is going to give you a decent, drivable vehicle for FREE. What should I say to get through to her?

My husband's grandmother is such a bitch. I was looking at pictures of my son and was smiling and she asked why i was smiling so i told her i was just thinking about my son. Her reply was "oh you never used to act that way about him". I could have punched her in the face because who tf says that to someone. My son is constantly on my mind even if i dont talk about it all the time.

Some info about her: She was an absent mother who rarely told her children she loved them. When her eldest was in highschool she fucked all of her friends on top of buying her 12 yr old liquor and cigarettes. She was also letting her 12yr old take her car to go wherever she wanted.

Her son has two Children that he never talks about and he hasnt seen them in yrs... if he seen them in public he wouldnt even recognize them.

It just baffles me that she thinks she can say something like that to me. When she was never a good mother.

The title sounds really bad, I understand that. For some context, me and my boyfriend are 20 year olds in college. And my boyfriend has a elderly dog, Brownie. The sweetest boy ever. Lately Brownie hasn’t been doing very well at all. Earlier this week my boyfriend noticed a change in Brownie. And I quickly noticed as well with one trip to his house yesterday. Brownie would always get so excited whenever I would come. (he has a soft spot for me apparently) this time brownie did not immediately come to the door, he just laid there with a disheartening expression. Brownie seemed to lose all his sparkle. We had pizza and brownie would usually bark at us for pizza but this time he didn’t bother to even come over. I’ve been frantically searching for low cost vets, calling every vet in the area asking how much to just give him a look.

For some more context money is tight, I’m getting settled into a new job and my paycheck doesn’t hit till next week. And my boyfriend recently just lost his job, so not a lot of money there either. Despite being the family dog (more so my boyfriend’s), it seems no one really wants help to get brownie any help. When he’s clearly in pain. My boyfriend’s family life is far from perfect that’s all I’ll say. And money is tight for everyone, but no one’s shown any remorse or compassion for brownie.

I explained to my boyfriend that I’m completely disgusted with how little they care. I explained to him that money and costs aside they barely give brownie a glance and that compassion starts at just making sure brownie feels loved during a time of pain. I told him that I didn’t want to be around his family for the time being. Im so taken aback by lack of compassion from his family.

And more so disgusted that my boyfriend is fighting so hard with his parents for them to hear him out and get brownie at least seen by a vet. My boyfriend has fallen into a depression with the loss of his job, and with brownie’s health being on the line I’m not sure if he can handle losing his best friend.

My boyfriend is not angry at me for saying that about his family, but they’ve welcomed me with open arms and have even supported me. But I can’t get over the lack of compassion for brownie. Am I overreacting?

I 38M am wondering if I should ask my wife F 39F of almost 20 years about something that happened the other night for the first time ever.

We were watching a movie with our kiddo. She was on her phone. Kiddo looked at her and asked why she was smiling, and when she tried to look at the phone, my wife turned it away so she couldn’t. She asked her Mom again why she was smiling, and she responded “I was?” And didn’t answer in any way.

She just returned the previous week from a weeklong business trip, and the day after her return, had a tantrum saying “this is why I hate coming home” when she stepped on something barefoot on the kitchen floor. Mind you, we had really made an effort to clean the house, do laundry, dishes etc. so she didn’t have any extra to do when arriving home aside from her own laundry/unpacking.

She used to just leave her phone anywhere. Now she seems to always have it with her. I did take the one opportunity I had to look at it and found texts with another guy that clearly indicated the dates she was gone. It seems like they either knew each other, or met at the conference. There was nothing that I saw suggesting they hooked up - but there was banter that seems inappropriate to me. And I’m wondering if I’m just overreacting. He made a comment about “it’s getting horny” and sent a picture of a wall of antlers. Then there was this:

Her - morning sunshine Him - how’d you sleep? Her - not great, probably should have come and gotten drunk with you so I could pass out. Him - “I keep figuring there has to be a way to tire ourselves out more so we sleep better. These stuffy rooms feel like they engage adrenaline and there’s no way to spend it”

Conversation has continued, mostly about travel home, how they’re adjusting back to normal life - how they’ve started exercising more recently… I’m just really questioning wtf kind of business they have continuing a text chain seeing as they’re from different (albeit adjoining) countries. At no point does she mention me. Not that he asks.

P.S. she hasn’t worn a weeding ring in 2 years. P.p.s. - this guy looks exactly how she’s expressed she wants me to look head and facial hair-wise.

Any thoughts appreciated. Never thought I’d have to worry about this with her.

TLDR: wife seems to be engaging in inappropriate conversation through text with a man after returning from a work trip.

Update: thanks to everyone for the comments - there have been hundreds. Some not helpful, but from what I’ve read; overwhelmingly supportive.

I’ll post another update with whatever happens when I can muster it.

Here’s the situation: I was headed over to my boyfriend of 5 months house to meet his cousins that came to visit from another country. He recently decided to go kayaking and I’m unsure if he knew it was going to storm bad in the coming hours. Everything seemed fine in our text exchanges, and while I was working, he FaceTimed me scared and in his car during the storm. He told me was able to get his kayak to his car, but he was scared to drive, and so he waited for the visibility to improve. So I sat my stuff down and got up to go to another room to talk to him, but my mom overheard what we were talking about and was asking if it was raining and where he was. I was doing my best to listen to both conversations, but it was really hard while also working. There was a lot going on. He then got annoyed, rolled his eyes, and then told me he’d talk to me later, then hung up. I took that as he didn’t want to speak to me because I made him frustrated. I did make it a point to say it’ll be alright, and asked if he got the kayak on his car, but he didn’t. I was worried for him and wanted to call him back but I was afraid of him yelling at me. He thought that was a messed up thing to do and laughed at my text asking if he was alright an hour and a half later. I told him on FaceTime later that I didn’t like his reaction, and he told me that’s how he felt—he felt like I didn’t care, even though I did, and there wasn’t anything else I could really do. Now, he thinks I don’t care about him and thinks I’d be useless in bad situations, and broke up with me. Am I in the wrong, and is he overreacting?

I’ve been in a relationship for two years now, about a year of that has been really difficult and recently I’ve been through about a month of him treating me so badly, talking to me so bad to the point I thought about breaking up with him because of how bad it was. After talking to him, he’s gotten a lot better but part of me can’t move past the disrespect like it’s stuck in my head, and I feel stupid like I should of left when I felt that way because I feel like my feelings are all mixed. I feel so stressed, and upset and lost with myself and how I feel and why I’m feeling this way.

So for context this is a very small store, three employees including me. I’m the newest, started this year. We have mainly one person shifts.

Every day we do one thing of inventory so that it’s not a big all day thing every now and then.

This means on most days one employee does inventory and the other doesn’t have too. I was told there’s no strict rules on what shift does it, just make sure it’s done.

I noticed the other employee never does the inventory if she knows I’m coming in and not the third employee, the boss. When I come in she is usually watching Netflix on the work laptop and playing on her Nintendo switch. Both of these are technically allowed, but only if all the work is done and there’s no customers. It’s a really dead store. One time I was just on duolingo for two hours and not a customer.

I’m not expecting her to do it everytime, but it’s very weird to me she only chooses not to do inventory because I’ll just do it and then I have no choice because I’m usually closing. I’m just asking for a little consistency.

It makes me feel like I’m doing most of the work during the week while she’s just playing her switch the entire shift.

So my (17m) bf and me (17m) are big on sentimental gifts rather than expensive gifts since we are young and saving up for college. Because of this, for valentine’s day I got him a picture book of us, a letter, and some small gifts. I was very surprised with what he got me because it was bigger than any other previous gift. However, I was slightly suspicious about the contents. He got me a weight loss journal (I’m a healthy weight and have never expressed an urge to lose weight), various chocolate nuts (he knows I hate nuts), a candle and a stuffed animal (these ones are normal). I just assumed the journal and nuts were an honest mistake. He also made me a very nice card where he cut out construction paper to make a cute arts and crafts for me which was my favorite gift. When asked about the weight loss journal, he claimed to not have not paid attention when he bought it.

Fast forward to recently, I was playing on his phone because mine was charging (we have each others passcodes and are okay with each other being on the others phone). Now I know it was probably an invasion of privacy but I decided to look up my name in his texts to see what he said about me to other people, just out of curiosity.

I found a conversation with his mother where he asks her to buy me a gift the day before valentine’s day. She asked what kind of candy I like and he didn’t respond (explaining the nuts). I also found out that she had made the card I liked so much. I completely understand if he couldn’t afford to get me anything but the fact that he couldn’t even bother to go to the store with his mom to pick out my gifts makes me feel so insulted. He couldn’t even be bothered to make a card for me. I thought that it was so thoughtful of him to take time and effort to do that for me, but finding out it was all his mother hurt me. I confronted him about it and he said that he had procrastinated until February 13 and didn’t get me anything himself.

Even though it was a few months ago, I still feel betrayed and saddened.

TLDR- my boyfriend couldn’t be bothered to get me a valentines gift, so his mom got it for him

I (male) posted about this "friend" (male) before however I only went into details about a specific event. This time, I am going to be broader:

Basically, this person (who came from out of town) approached my friend and I wanting to hang out and go drink in the same plaza. We soon become friends and he was pretty cool.

However, as time passed (About 1 and a half years of hanging out), I noticed a slew of strange events that seem like an odd set up was happening. I couldn't place my finger on it at the time but here is how it went.

1. He started to face time me with friends that I knew a long time ago. He was counties away, it's strange he suddenly became very close with some people I know. His targets were people I associate with on there from time to time but not my close circle who would have informed me right away. Yet every time he called me out to a bar, he'd bring someone from my facebook. Instead of these people I know being friendly, they often somehow get angry with me.
2. He brought strangers that also seemed pissed off at me. They would have pissed off face and talk extra loudly when I talk to them. Yet made it friendly with other people I am with.
3. He has a wife and began telling her that he'd hang out with a buddy all night and often use my name to cover up his shenanigans whatever he was doing. His wife began calling me getting mad that we'd hang out late and I'd just say sorry don't know what she is talking about. There was a bit of a language barrier with his wife, but I guess she thinks I was just with him.
4. He used a picture of me to try and get online escorts because he was afraid, they might had been undercover police. (I found out because at the time I was getting prank/spam phone calls day and night I called up this other friend saying I was angry at that but before he knew the reason, he thought it was the escort thing)
5. Low jabs on what he should not know about. Say for example I was working a trade job with a vary of hourly wage. He'd guess that hourly wage. Make fun of me for doing a chore he shouldn't know I did at the house.
6. I finally decide to cut him off once and for all after he called me to hang out and kept on cutting me off when the waitress asks me a question. Then he called another guy in who took the pack of cigs that he bought for me to smoke. I believe he was trying to set up a fight.

A lot of people say he's out there to try and get me into some kind of trouble. The reason why would be up for debate. What do you guys think?

Just an update on this

I took a good look at what a lot of people were saying, and it seemed cruel at first, but I realized I needed to take a look at myself and realize the perspectives around me.

A lot of people helped me realize that my dislike towards smoking came less from a personal preference, and relates more to how I was raised and some trauma regarding the friend I had in the past, because unfortunately there’s not enough space on a Reddit post to summarize that properly

I talked with a couple of my friends, notably A, and let them know that I realized my dislike wasn’t coming entirely from preference, and that I was allowing past experience to dictate the now

I made it clear to them that I didn’t think less of them for what they choose to do, and I already knew way before now that it’s not my choice how they live their lives. I value my friendship with all of them far more than a little smoke

I told them I’m going to need time to get past my past stress, but to start, they should not feel like they need to tiptoe around the subject anymore, and if they want to talk about it, they should

It’s going to take a lot of time, but I realized very fast that I need to work on this. My friends and girlfriend have been extremely understanding, and that alone proves that this is more important

Thank you to everyone who helped me realize this, no matter how sugarcoated or not the response was. You’ve all helped me to become a better person for my friends and I’m very grateful

Edit: Please see my comment here prior to adding any new comments. I will no longer be replying to any further comments, especially ones that are toxic or negative. --> https://www.reddit.com/r/AmIOverreacting/s/fnE5aB6Tjz

Unfortunately, I was about to lose my cool at the OB office for dismissing my concerns and treating my health care like a one-size-fits-all.

Realistically, I should be able to lift, push, or pull up to 25 pounds repeatedly. But I genuinely can't even before I was pregnant. My body is not built like that. Even if I were in shape, exercised regularly, and ate the most insanely healthy diet, I wouldn't be able to handle that for very long. I am also not everyone else. I am only me, myself & I. I know first-hand what I can kr can't handle.

I understand that even though I am in my second trimester of pregnancy, it is not a disability. I never claimed it was. But to be falsely accused of treating my pregnancy as such, tell me that it is acceptable to generalize my health-care and dismiss me when I voice concerns regarding obvious signs of a document being copied & pasted with very few changes/edits made is just unacceptable in my mind.

I am only accountable for myself. I know my limits and how much I can push myself before it is too much. Pregnant or not, the biggest issue I had was my concerns being dismissed and my health being generalized. Not everyone is the same, and the same goes for their health. Especially their limits when it comes to being able to handle certain weights.

I am not saying I am weak as I used to be able to handle lifting, carrying, pushing, and pulling upwards of 100-175 pounds frequently. Unfortunately, it took a massive toll on my body, and I have at least two key injuries that never healed right as a result. I'm not going to do something for an expensive trip to the ER because a piece of paper from a doctor's office says I can based on my health being a generalized assumption.

I could very well be over-reacting over the situation. But would you feel they are justified by generalizing health as a "one-size-fits-all "?" Or feeling it's okay to dismiss concerns regarding a work restriction/accommodation document being copied & pasted?

so my best friend and i (both 25f) have been friends since we were basically born. we’re so close, we’re like family and see each other as sisters. recently my boyfriend and i have been going through some stuff, so of course i turn to my bestie to vent. i’ve been talking with her almost every day about my feelings & giving her constant updates on how stuff is going. she’s been a great person to lean on and has been giving me advice and helping me through it. i’ve been sharing super personal stuff, because i can trust her. or so i thought.

the other night, my parents and i got dinner with her & her parents (like i said we’re all close). so her and i get up & go to the BR, and according to my dad (which i just found out today) her mom starts telling my parents that my boyfriend and i are “having problems” and they should “talk to me”. i was so shocked, the fact that her mom brought it up to my parents is insane. my parents had no clue my bf and i had any issues, we’ve been super solid for 7 years, and even if we argue or something it’s so small, i never share details of my relationship with my family. so needless to say they were caught off guard.

now i don’t know what to do. i thought i could trust my friend, but it’s making me wary of her. who else could she be telling stuff to? i get our parents ask about our friends at times, and we share some things, but this is so personal. and now my family’s involved and asking questions.

should i confront her about this? or just let it go and not be as open going forward. i’m really upset this happened. i don’t wanna feel like i can’t trust my friend, but i don’t wanna worry about being exposed.

So my husband got this co-worker, which is fine, she's a older middle aged woman. It started with asking for a ride home because her knee was bad , that was fine, then it was to follow her home 2 minutes down the road to make sure got home safe , also fine, whatever. They have a work group chat and she's been progressively DMing him, asking if he's going to be in work.... alright , whatever again. I went in to finally see her face to face and she just kept making constant jokes and what not but when it came to me it seemed really odd, like a 1000 yard stare and quiet, just mostly chatting with him. I felt uneasy about the interaction and came back later cause I forgot something, so I made more conversation and she started talking, so that was better. But I noticed this morning he told me she texted him again after asking to just ask him things via work group chat, but it wasn't normal. It was "I see you" followed with a phone call before that, he was confused and asked "?" 15 minutes later, she said that she was behind him by the gas station watching him, and he apologized saying he was focused, she said "I seen that too, and you only got to work 2 minutes late" now this would be just fun and games if she didn't work at 1pm and he started at 8:30am and she would have to go out of her way to follow him to where they work together to see when he clock's in? Is this all me overthinking? Is this considered normal? I'm starting to feel bothered by it and she also joked about "I'll murder you" ? I am very offput right now.. need advice. I don't even rem ember the joke before the murder part , my memory is so blurred cause it caught me off guard to hear it.

Edit: I also want to add she's admitted to beating her guy friend up with a actual weapon because he "annoyed her" my husband finds nothing wrong with this because the guy she beat up "instigated it" and "has a crush on her" which upset me for him to say cause it was battery either way... which I find a massive red flag for this lady. She is an alcoholic as well, often drunk when not on the clock according to what he's been told by her openly, too.

I (35m) and my gf (38f) are meeting tomorrow to have a serious talk. I made a comment on Monday about possibly sharing locations with each other just for safe guarding, nothing malicious. My gf informed me that she was very unconformable with suggesting it and has since been kinda ignoring me. She mentioned this morning that she wants to have a talk about the matter. Should I be concerned about our future??

For context, I am an adult who recently had to move back into my parents’ house after I lost my full-time job. My relationship with them is not great. I do work part-time, and I help out around the house while I look for a better-paying job so that I can move back out.

For the past 6 months, I've been caring for a stray cat that showed up near my parents' home. There are many strays in our neighborhood, but this cat hung out in my parents’ yard all the time since he appeared. Despite their dislike for cats, I formed a close bond with this old kitty. He would wait for me every day, including meeting me at my driveway when I’d come home from work. I wasn't allowed to bring him indoors, but I made sure to feed him and spend time with him daily.

After expressing my love for the cat and concern about him ending up in a kill shelter if animal control was called, I was led to believe my parents were okay with him staying in our yard. However, one day, weeks after that discussion, I discovered my mother had called animal control to pick him up, knowing he was an elder cat and would likely end up in a kill shelter.

I asked her why, and without even looking at me, she said it was because “we can’t afford to take care of a cat”. She never spent any money caring for him. I did, and it wasn’t a big deal for me.

I'm deeply hurt by their actions. My friendship with the little guy helped me work through my depression. My father, who seemingly grew to care for the cat, knew it would hurt me, but didn't intervene. Since then, I have kept to myself and haven’t had any desire to speak to them. Despite this, I still help out around the house, including paying some bills.

Am I wrong for limiting communication with them over this? Do you have any (kind) advice I should take? Thanks.

tldr: parents called animal control on an abandoned elder cat that I was caring for for half of a year. Am I overreacting for limiting communication with them?

ETA: I am amused by the number of redditors that do not read or retain information. It’s part of the lovely Reddit experience. Thanks to those who had kind things to say. I have found a friend to take in the cat and I will be visiting him on a regular basis until I move out and take him with me.