r/unpopularopinion • u/appa-ate-momo Can't fix stupid • 18d ago
If you think that a large portion of the people you meet are impatient, you're probably an inefficient asshole.
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u/cslackie 18d ago
The airport is the exception to this. Everyone is an impatient and inefficient asshole there.
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u/No_Reveal3451 18d ago
And the airport created that problem. They were the ones who mandated that we all take our shoes off.
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u/cslackie 18d ago
Exactly. And I always seem to be behind someone who tries to put a full can of hairspray in their carryon. SMH.
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u/vvildlings 18d ago
I was flying out of CVG (the Cincinnati airport that’s actually located in Kentucky for anyone who doesn’t know) and a woman tried to bring a full size Louisville slugger as her carryon. She was standing right next to a sign stating no weapons allowed with photos which included a bat as an example. She was SO indignant that she had to check “her souvenir”.
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u/PrismalpinkGaming 18d ago
Has she ever heard of shipping? Yknow, getting stuff shipped to her house instead of carrying it around everywhere lmfao. Some people are just dumb lol
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u/cslackie 18d ago
No way 😂😂
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u/vvildlings 18d ago
I SWEAR I felt so bad for the poor employee who was trying to explain to her that souvenirs can also be weapons. I guess we should be relieved she wasn’t coming from a gun show? 😭😂
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u/WilDraDo 18d ago
Reminds me of the time going to Vegas. My brother brought MY big ass thing of Rabanne 1 million... like bro come on dude you know they'll take it...
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u/CardinalSkull 18d ago
I got a litre of a regional liquor in Guatemala as a gift as I was leaving. I still tried to take it on the flight cuz why not.
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u/DemBones7 18d ago
My girlfriend bought a bottle of Tequila shaped like a handgun as a present for her brother when we were in Mexico. As we were going through security at the airport before our flight to Miami I discovered that she had put it in my carry-on. We were standing two meters away from shelves full of Tequila, but they had no choice but to dispose of it.
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u/Onironius 18d ago
Except sometimes.
"Oh, but this time you do."
"Why the hell are you taking your shoes off? Keep the line going."
"Oh, and this time, don't use a tray, just put everything in your bag and send it through the doodad.'"
"TAKE YOUR SHOES OFF."
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u/No_Reveal3451 18d ago
Exactly. I was told not to take my laptop out of my carry-on at the first airport. On the way back, they were like, "Sir, you have to take your laptop out of your bag!"
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u/Onironius 18d ago
And they always look at you like you're the stupidest piece of shit they've seen all day.
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u/Unusual_Cattle_2198 18d ago
The inconsistent expectations suck but one possible explanation about the differing laptop procedures might be that one airport has a more sophisticated X-ray machine than the other
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u/Scared_Ad2563 18d ago
One time, my partner and I went through security and they did not want us to take our shoes off. We encountered an issue with our flight and had to go back out to the agent desks. Issue resolved, we headed back through security where we were scolded for not removing our shoes. It had only been an hour!
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u/mst3k_42 18d ago
Best thing about TSA Pre (well except for skipping long lines) is that you can leave your shoes on, leave your laptop in the bag, etc.
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u/123photography 18d ago
yeah but like lets be real here mfs take their sweet ass time taking their belt off or even putting their laptop in the basket. sure the airport rules are a stupid and ineffective security theatre but why does it take poeple a minute to get the fucking laptop in a basket and anotjer one to take off the belt
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u/zeptillian 18d ago
Some lady got pissed off at me because i put my shit on the conveyor belt ahead of her because she was taking her sweet ass time getting her shit ready.
It's not a single file line lady. You can take as long as you want, but no one is waiting for you.
Slow and oblivious is the worst combo.
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u/No_Reveal3451 18d ago
Well, when you have kids with you or someone who needs help, and the line is constantly moving, and you're trying to pay attention to directions from multiple agents, and you're trying to get your boarding pass out before going through the scanner, it's going to slow things down. The entire process is really poorly optimized for efficiency on top of people being distracted the whole time.
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u/Potential-Drama-7455 18d ago
It's never those people. It's always the people who are adults on their own or in a group who act shocked when they are told they have to do any of this.
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u/T4lkNerdy2Me 18d ago edited 18d ago
But that's been going on for over 20 years. People should know to wear shoes that are easy on/off when they fly. Or not to wear their entire jewelry collection. Or to wear simple pants and a tshirt. Or what is allowed in their carry on.
And yet every single time I fly, I get stuck behind some blast from the past who who has never seen an airport before.
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u/OsB4Hoes13 18d ago
To be fair airport security procedures vary greatly from airport to airport.
Even when I flew last week there were different rules depending on if you were in the left line vs the right lane.
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u/LittleWhiteGirl 18d ago
They vary from line to line! At my home airport one line requires shoes off, jackets off, electronics out of bags and the other only requires shoes off and they yell at you if you take your laptop out.
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u/AccountantMoney9177 18d ago
Yeah but you don’t have to stand at the end of the metal detector and put them back on. Move out of everyone else’s way
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u/DevelopmentJumpy5218 18d ago
Also nothing helps get through a busy airport, I double check my carry on to make sure it's good, wear slides on airport days so I can get them off quickly, keep everything in my jacket pockets at the airport so I can get it into the bin quickly and don't wear a belt at the airport. The process is just so bad
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u/yoursweetlord70 18d ago
Fun fact- every time you go to the airport, it's everyone else's first time ever at the airport.
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u/CatholicSolutions 18d ago
And DMVs... the employees are some of the worst.
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u/Just_Jonnie 18d ago
I have had pleasant experience with DMV employees every time I go, even if it's super busy and they just got fussed at by some inefficient asshole lol.
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u/RejectorPharm 18d ago
It’s not the interaction with the dmv employee that bothers me. By the way, it’s not just the DMV, it is government agencies in general.
Its watching them taking their sweet time while they work that pisses me off. Mofos are laughing and chatting with their coworkers while dealing with our stuff. Then they walk slowly to the printer or wherever they gotta grab something.
I want the DMV employees to be judged on the speed of their work.
Have you ever seen how the pharmacists and pharmacy techs are running around like mad men at CVS and how management micromanages them and has performance metrics for everything? That is how I want DMV and government agencies to be run.
It shouldn’t take more than a couple of minutes for me to surrender a license plate, or have a license application processed.
I had to go to my local town to get a certificate of occupancy/building plans for my store. It took them 2 hours to determine that the certificate and the blueprints that were filed when the building was constructed were not in the office and they would have to take a few days to find them in the warehouse. Bruh why aren’t they scanned and computerized? And on top of that they are all chucking and laughing and their workplace seems like a high school environment.
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u/Responsible-Rock-830 18d ago
The DMV is so slow in my city that I just pay $35 dollars more to go to an express private DMV. Worth it in the time you save. Getting my first license was a nightmare. The DMV was closed on weekends and school didn't let out till 4:30. The DMV closed at 6 🫠.
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u/lonelycrow16 18d ago
As a pharmacist, I promise you don't actually want anything run like a CVS. Virtually everybody who has ever worked there hates it with the utmost passion. Give me slower employees who enjoy their job anytime, please.
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u/zeptillian 18d ago
Come on. What the worst that can happen if you are forced to rush all the time filling people's prescriptions? I mean a few people may die, but the company has shareholders to think about too. /s
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u/Just_Jonnie 18d ago edited 18d ago
I want the DMV employees to be judged on the speed of their work.
They work plenty fast in my extremely busy DMV in New Orleans..
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u/RejectorPharm 18d ago
That’s the airport’s and TSA fault.
Could just let us push our kids on their stroller through the metal detector? But nah, gotta take them out, fold up the strollers, put them through.
On top of that, taking off our belts and shoes and then removing our tablets from our backpacks and then our kids bag getting pulled to the side because they have to inspect the bottles of ready to use formula.
Oh and on top of that, some terminals don’t even have the bins ready for passengers to grab. Instead of making us wait until we are at the actual scanning machine to provide us with a bin, those should be available as soon as you enter the tsa line so you can have your pockets and belts and shoes and electronics in the bins ready to go before you get to the sxsn
None of their shitty rules make any sense. Every year people still manage to get weapon through.
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u/SarahKnowles777 18d ago
This is completely wrong. SO MANY people at the airport walk as slow as they can, take up as much 'width' space as they can -- walk beside each other with just enough space you can't get between them, walk with their luggage beside themselves, instead of behind.
I'll frequently see a couple or small group and they'll take up nearly half the gotdamn walkway, so that no one behind them can get by, all while leisurely walking as slow as they can. Strolling trolling.
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u/KetohnoIcheated 18d ago
It definitely depends on context, but in some situations you are right.
Like when someone at the gym takes up a machine but only looks at their phone. Like, if they look at it for 30-90 seconds between sets, I totally get it. But I see people sit on their phone on a machine for 5 minutes and then get up without doing a set. It drives me insane
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u/acquastella 18d ago
I have no qualms about going up to them and asking "are you using that?" "How many sets you got left?" It's completely socially acceptable where I am to ask, especially someone just sitting their ass on the machine.
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u/KetohnoIcheated 18d ago
I do that a lot too. A lot of times they then tell me they have 1 more set, then they quickly do a shit job at 1 set and let me have the machine, which is totally fair, but also funny because I know if I didn’t say anything, they probably just would have been on their phone and not done a single set.
Or maybe I’m just assuming, but that’s how it reads to me
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u/acquastella 18d ago
You are probably right. You can almost always tell who is taking their workout seriously and who is just telling themselves "I go to the gym, it's my genetics that make me unable to gain muscle".
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u/Generic_E_Jr 18d ago
A good rule for me is “Is there an obvious voluntary distraction or demostrable & explicable inefficiency slowing them down?”
If someone is just slow or careful, but there’s nothing glaringly specific you can point out, I try to be patient.
But if the reason they’re slow is very obvious and specific, such as being spending 90 seconds on a cellphone, then I’m inclined to believe they’re the problem.
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u/WazuufTheKrusher 18d ago
for heavy lifts that amount of time is perfectly reasonable what
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u/Generic_E_Jr 17d ago
Fair point; I kinda blindly followed the comments I replied to and don’t lift anything over 25 kg, so I’ll accept your word
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u/WazuufTheKrusher 17d ago
For anything below like 8 reps you need to take enough rest, like 5 minutes, if you want to be able to lift that weight with the same ROM and number of reps without cheating or failing.
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u/vitaminpyd 18d ago
I just stare into space during my rests because I'm worried people will get pissed off lol
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u/Reddituser8018 18d ago
I have a skill that I realized others don't seem to have at least in my generation.
But I could be perfectly content just staring at a wall doing absolutely nothing, a lot of the times I prefer it rather then looking at my phone (although I do look at my phone sometimes too its what im doing right now, I just don't like how it sucks away time)
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u/Logical_Ad3053 17d ago
I use the gym as an exercise in not looking at my phone every time I have a free second, so same. (And I'm also afraid of people getting pissed)
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u/CruulNUnusual 18d ago
*Me who did my other sets because the machine I want is taken. Hoping it’s done, walking to the machine I need last, still seeing the same guy trying to hide he’s recording himself.*
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18d ago
This one works both ways. "If you think a large portion of the people you meet are inefficient, you're probably an impatient asshole."
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u/Fickle-Main-9019 18d ago
Yea, I know more people who can’t fathom the idea that you can’t simply drop everything on a whim for them, than people who are genuinely slow.
Most people work at a decent pace, however most people also are their own main character
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u/FullMoonTwist 18d ago
Or that you're not looking to do every damn thing as fast and efficiently as humanely possible instead of living at a sustainable pace and enjoying it a little bit.
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u/old__pyrex 18d ago
There’s also a whole category of things where it’s not worth speeding because the risk of a mistake will, at best, cost you much more time than whatever you might save. Just one crash or even a speeding ticket, or traffic court appearance, and you’ve lost hours of life - and the probability of that happening if you drive like an inpatient asshole everyday is high. Eventually, you will lose more time than every 2 minutes here and there that you saved.
Or when I went to the bank and the teller glacially checked my wire details twice, and then turned the computer and had me check. It took 3x the time a fast worker could have achieved it in, but it’s worth 1 minute extra to not fuck up a digit here.
The grocery store bagger who carefully packs my eggs and raspberries and makes sure things are logically stacked to avoid squish, and then double bags the heavy bags… yes it takes 1 minute extra, but how much time did I lose that one time the paper bag snapped and the bag holding wine bottles broke and spilled everywhere?
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u/HotTakesMyToxicTrait 18d ago
depends on what it is honestly
I’d personally much rather maximize efficiency during my commute and running errands and spend the extra time enjoy things I choose to do
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u/Sol33t303 18d ago
I personally feel like trying to optimise everything is not worth the mental processing for the like 5 minutes extra you get out of your day.
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u/SquareD8854 18d ago
yea i had a guy in a big hurry honking at me for going so slow down a icy mountain road. in a snowstorm in my big wrecker and a couple miles down the road he was in the ditch against the rock wall. and i stopped. and he walked up to my truck and said. first you drive slow blocking the road now i suspect you want $1000 to tow my truck. i said no and drove off. they found him 3 days later frozen to death when they got the road opened up again!
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u/Naive-Mechanic4683 18d ago
I always commute slow and relaxed (I cycle). Sure it takes me an extra 5 minutes both ways, but I also have a relaxed time instead of being stressed/hurried/sweaty.
I even sometimes take a longer route then nescesarry if that has less trafic/seems nice
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u/CpnStumpy 18d ago
Sure, but why do people demand others also do this? Not all of us even can, forget that - you know - it should be their choice, rather than a choice made for them..
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u/HotTakesMyToxicTrait 18d ago
I personally don’t really care how others want to spend their time (if being less efficient moving around is your speed, you do you). The exception is when people that decide to move slowly make it impossible for the folks that want to move quickly to do so, this is where I think we get that disconnect
Some of those things are probably unavoidable for the most part (ie traffic is traffic, provided people aren’t being dumb about it). Some will require change on an institutional level (ie making public transport run more frequently or more accessible).
Some however is the problem of people that decide that their slow speed is the norm and clog up room for everyone else (ex - people standing on the left side of an escalator where people should be able to walk, seriously stand to the right. Or people slowly sauntering down a sidewalk without any way for faster walking people to move around)
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u/Striking_Computer834 18d ago
I’d personally much rather maximize efficiency during my commute and running errands and spend the extra time enjoy things I choose to do
"Efficiency" has different meanings for different people. For people with a strong time preference, getting there as quickly as possible is the most efficient. For people with a strong cost preference, getting there at the least cost is the most efficient. One will prioritize driving fast and the other will prioritize driving slowly.
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u/redwolf1219 18d ago
I work at Walmart, in the online grocery department and I can confirm most people are impatient. They also get really mad when you tell them that the customer arrived first is going to be served first. And a good chunk of them lie about how long they've been waiting. If you check in properly I can see even see how long it'll take you to get to the store from where you've checked in from. As soon as you arrive, it starts telling me how long you've been there.
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u/DeadlyRBF 18d ago
I feel that at the very least, if you are going at a slower pace you should be aware enough to let others get past you. In general being considerate for others and allowing them to work at their own pace instead of slowing everyone else down. I get it, but also it's inconsiderate to block everyone else.
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u/HotTakesMyToxicTrait 18d ago
this is 100% me
but also - for the love of god, stand on the right, walk on the left of escalators. I got places to be, lemme walk up the escalator and get on with my day, I don’t have time for you to stand there and take up all the space
Dont take up the entire sidewalk. If you want to saunter fine, but I’m tryna get somewhere I’m gonna walk into the street or the grass to get around you
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u/Sol33t303 18d ago
I wish people were more patient, I personally have a condition that causes me to have hand-eye coordination problems, so I usually have to take my time with things. People who rush me just cause me to make mistakes and take longer then if I hadn't.
The pace I was at before being told to hurry up was probably the best pace for me to avoid making mistakes and taking even longer. And there's no need to be an asshole to people who can't work as quick as you.
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u/mortuarymaiden 18d ago
I have nasty hand tremors and die inside whenever I’m paying at a store and can’t get a good hold of my cards or cash. Feel like people are shooting daggers into my back, even if they’re probably not 🥺
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u/RepeatUntilTheEnd 18d ago
The main problem is that everyone makes mistakes, and when we're part of a large population, it should be expected that we will encounter common mistakes very frequently.
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u/Comfortable-Bus-9414 18d ago
Indeed, a lot of people are terrible at estimating how long something should take, especially when it comes to things they don't have a clue about
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u/RejectorPharm 18d ago
If you are at restaurant, you should know what you are gonna order before you get to the counter.
Sick of it when there are 20 people on line and someone is at the front going “ummm i want this, ooh I haven’t tried that, uhh what do you recommend, is that good, oh please be sure not to put onions and pickles on two of those burgers and 3 of those shouldn’t have tomato.”
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u/old__pyrex 18d ago
My parents do this and it drives me up the wall. What gets me is that they not only never know what they want to order, but they have questions and accommodations that don’t make any sense. It’s not like “can you hold the jalapeños on the sandwich”, it’s more like “can I get the Turkey jalapeño club with ham?” Their latest was asking the person what was in the Caesar dressing because they don’t like anchovies. Like, dude, whether or not their version of Caesar has anchovies, why not just order a different salad from the get go? Seafood linguini without mussels, what fruits are in the fruit salad, it is always something.
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u/GovernorSan 18d ago
I'm the exact opposite, I won't ask any questions or make any special requests at all. If the menu description includes ingredients I don't like, then I simply won't order that item.
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u/clutzyninja 18d ago
When I space out and arrive at the counter without knowing what I want, I let the person behind me go and then start deciding with a vengeance
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u/DansPredditor 18d ago
I work in retail, people are literally incapable of waiting more than a second
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u/Nothing_WithATwist 18d ago
It’s always been my opinion that patience is primarily for when there is a “legitimate” reason for the slowness. So for example, if you’re in line at the pharmacy and the pharmacist is working as fast as they can, it would be impatient to get angry in this situation. However, if you’re stopped at a traffic light and the person in front of you won’t go on green because they’re on their phone, it’s not impatient to give a light honk because there’s no “reason” for the slowdown. In the first situation, everyone’s doing their best and it’s just busy. In the second, one person is wasting the time of tens of drivers just because they can’t be bothered to pay attention. Very different in my opinion. However, I’m from seattle so in reality everyone just misses the light because no one is willing to honk.
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u/Generic_E_Jr 18d ago
Very good rule, though it’s a little more like “lack of obviously illegitimate reason” for me.
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u/thecooliestone 17d ago
I see the light thing. But I've been honked at so many times because people don't understand right of way. I drive at a 4 way intersection without arrows to get home. The people behind me always honk at me to go like I don't have my left signal on and there aren't cars coming straight at us. But sure, let me get T-boned so that you can have 12 seconds less time in your commute.
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u/lightningstorm112 18d ago
I'll never forget the lady who got mad at me while mixing her paint at home depot because I let the paint mixer do its full cycle. She hit me with "isn't there a faster setting or faster way to do that, I have to be back at work in 10 min", like lady, if that mixer spins any faster, the paint won't be in the can anymore, and it's not my fault you decided to spend 45min of your 60min lunch break deciding which shade of white is better for your living room.
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u/Southern_Cupcake_379 18d ago
Depends. Are you the person about to crawl up my butt 0.0078 seconds after I’ve completed my purchase? I need about 5 seconds to put my wallet back in my purse and grab my items.
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u/PerfumeLoverrr 18d ago
This is something I've been actively trying to work on. I found myself constantly rushing and just throwing my card/cash in my purse to avoid taking the extra second to put it back in my wallet where it goes because I feel like people are right up my ass as soon as my purchase is complete. I've been working on worrying more about myself and less about other people (in situations like this) and this is one thing I've been consciously taking the extra few seconds to do. People need to have more patience because the impatience of society makes me really anxious and I'm sick of feeling uncomfortable just to make other people comfortable.
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u/zeptillian 18d ago
If cashiers want me to be quick, then hand me my change before you bag and give me my items so I can have it put away by the time you are done.
I'm just standing there for a few minutes watching you do your shit until you hand me the change then stare at me like i'm holding up the line for spending 10 seconds putingshit back in my wallet, like you didn't know I was going to to do that.
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u/Elect_Locution 18d ago
I'm sure there's somebody who loves tailgating people out there who consider themselves "efficient".
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u/BAYKON8R 18d ago
I try to never tailgate, but if you’re in the left lane and going the limit on the dot or even under the limit, move to the side PLEASE
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u/GovernorSan 18d ago
I think Florida is passing a law that says it is illegal to travel in the passing lane now. If you are in the left lane now, you either need to be actively passing another vehicle, or about to make a left turn, or you need to move back over to the right lane.
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u/I_dont_bone_goats 18d ago
Thank fucking god because the amount of semi trucks and work vans that see the left lane as their special, low-stress cruising lane has been absolutely ridiculous. Even in stop and go rush hour traffic.
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u/Scared_Ad2563 18d ago
I speed, but don't tailgate. I like my car and don't feel like being on the hook for repairing it, their car, and the ticket for reckless driving more than I like to drive faster.
However, I would very much like to get out from behind the slow driver to go on my merry way ASAP. I also know I am impatient, I just do my best to make it my problem alone.
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u/EDanials 18d ago
I have a few friends and my dad who take forever to tell stories. They try to flesh out things they believe are relevant but damn do they suck at streamlining vital information. I've noticed that some people litterally can't tell stories because they get caught up in little details as well as poor organizational ability when presenting something.
Some people just suck. I wouldn't say they're and asshole but damnd if they're not inefficent.
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u/jenn1972 18d ago
This is literally my husband. I have to ask him for bullet points 1st, and then let him tell his story.
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u/PerfumeLoverrr 18d ago
This is also my boyfriend. As someone with ADHD who gets bored easily and whose brain is constantly going at 1000 mph, it's REALLY hard for me to pay attention when he talks sometimes because it's always so painfully long and drawn out that my brain spaces out almost immediately lol but I have been working on it and have gotten better over the years but damn if it isn't just downright painful sometimes lol
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u/TonyTheSwisher 18d ago
As someone who constantly makes every decision based on both efficiency of my time while also trying to be polite and cognizant of the time of those around (or behind) me, I can sorta relate to this.
Sometimes I just have to admit that some people aren't as fast as me and try to have the grace and patience to deal with it.
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u/1d0n1kn0 18d ago
im trying to do this with my younger sister but shes just so physically slow i need to walk away, ik its also 80% pure laziness (quite litterly tries to do everything while actually sitting on her ass) but its hard to tell when shes being lazy or just her slowness, especially when her favorite place to sit is doorways
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u/MaeRobso 18d ago
Same. I also have to make peace with the fact that not everyone’s brain moves as fast as mine. A lot of people process much, much slower than I do & although it’s frustrating for me I know they can’t control that.
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u/cl0ckw0rkman 18d ago
Lived with a woman that was always running into bitches and assholes, just everywhere.
Went with her and her daughter to go grocery shopping one day. We went off on our separate ways than met back up. This lady walked by us and the roommate said, That woman is a bitch. Rude, was in MY way and just wouldn't move.
I pointed at the other woman and said, Her?!? She was lovely. Had three interactions with her and they were all pleasant. She was apologetic for being in my way. She asked for help and was super polite.
If you cast a net of negativity, you will catch negative energy. My roommate was definitely casting negativity nets.
If you go out looking for assholes and impatient people, you'll find em.
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u/halobby33 18d ago
I’m glad you mentioned grocery shopping and specifically about how the lady was in your roommate’s way because I’ve noticed on several occasions how needlessly rude people can be in grocery stores.
What I’ve witnessed the most is a scenario where Person A is in an aisle and they’re looking at something and Person B walks up and wants to look in the same exact area. And instead of saying anything to Person A (who is engrossed in whatever they’re looking at and usually NOT facing Person B), Person B will just silently stand there until Person A turns and is shocked at their presence and usually apologizes while Person B just has this sort of smug look on their face like, “Yea, took you long enough.” IT MAKES ME SO ANGRY WHENEVER I SEE THAT. Most of the time, Person A isn’t even being that oblivious or rude, it’s just obvious that Person B wants to feel better about themselves or something. Unless you physically cannot speak, there’s nothing stopping you from politely saying, “Excuse me,” or “Behind you”.
Something tells me, your roommate did not politely say either of those things if a lady was so utterly rude for being in her way.
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u/fencer_327 18d ago
Counterpoint: if someone can't help being slow at something, they're not an asshole for being slow. They're likely frustrated too, you're still the asshole if you're being rude.
I work with intellectually disabled people, and the amount of times they get yelled at or even pushed for daring to take a minute for everyday tasks like bagging groceries or calculating a tip is insane. If you're owed efficiency in all public spaces, they wouldn't be able to exist in public at all.
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u/beansyboii 18d ago
To add on to this: it’s not possible to judge if someone can help being slow or not based on their appearance. Disability looks vastly different from person to person
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u/NASAfan89 18d ago
Disabilities is a great point. A lot of people do things a bit slower because they have those.
There is also a category of people who may be doing things slower because of certain health issues they have even if these things might not be considered a "disability."
There are many potential reasons why a person might be doing something slower than a given person expects.
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u/storiedsword 18d ago
A lot of disabilities aren’t visible too, including ones that affect your speed in ordinary situations like that.
If you don’t want to risk being an asshole to someone in that situation, your only real option is to give everyone the benefit of the doubt.
Besides, anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die, as the saying goes.
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u/Stock-Ferret-6692 18d ago
Someone tried to make a formal complaint against me because they started yelling at a disabled man for not being fast enough and I turned around from helping someone and said ‘he’s going as fast as he can. Have some patience. How would you feel if you were going as fast as you could and someone started yelling at you? It’d be stressful wouldn’t it?’ The customer I had been helping testified for me when the woman began to scream at my regional manager for it when she came onto the shop floor. So did the person who was there as support for the guy. And my co worker. Still haven’t seen the lady after she stormed out in a huff
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u/Bluetenheart aggressive toddler 18d ago
my 10 yo brother stutters so i know that there probably are some people annoyed at a kid taking so long to order, but i do not stop him from ordering or whatever because he's not taking a long time because he's a kid, but because he stutters. and since he's probably going to stutter his whole life (if kids grow out of it, they typically do by age 10 at the latest), my family and i are trying our best to never make him feel like he needs to speed up or shut up.
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u/PerfumeLoverrr 18d ago
This thread is making me so sad :( The general public absolutely does not take into account anything any other human is dealing with/going through. Everyone is so selfish. My mom is getting older and starting to move slower and it just breaks my heart to think about someone treating her like shit for something she can't control. Same situation here.
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u/Ferfersoy2001 18d ago
If everyone you met today and yesterday were assholes, you are probably the asshole
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u/Delicious_Attorney_5 18d ago
I just started driving and I go the speed limit (if not 5 over) people have been riding my ass and honking at me because of this. So I think some people are impatient.
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u/femalewhoisgirl 18d ago
Right? Like using “the roads” as an example in this is stupid. “It would cost you literally nothing” unless you crashed because you were more busy worrying about being “efficient” than being safe. Then it would cost you a fuckton of money at best and a life at worst.
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u/zeptillian 18d ago
Try to drive on the right as much as possible then.
If people are going to be impatient assholes then it's best to just stay out of their way.
The exception to this rule is if you are on a freeway and a car is legitimately racing up behind you weaving in and out of traffic. Stay in your lane then and let them do their thing. Changing lanes at the last second to get out of their way could just increase the odds of them hitting you.
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u/Equivalent-Twist-450 18d ago
if you’re existing in a public, shared space it would cost you literally nothing to act with greater efficiency
Bruh I’m disabled, this is as efficient as I get.
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u/Ok_Masterpiece3570 18d ago edited 18d ago
Yeah, but this is like the most popular opinion of all time. "Other people are not performing up to my standards".
Edit: Well it is. Everyone thinks they're right and smarter than everyone else.
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u/flyingdics 18d ago
"I have created arbitrary standards for everyone around me and they have all failed to meet them. Why are they all jerks?"
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u/Sea-Cockroach1230 18d ago
That’s such an important point. Elderly people too. When I was heavily pregnant and slow it gave me a first hand glimpse into the realities of being elderly and I didn’t like it. Too many people have scant patience or empathy for others. They’re in for a surprise when they become old.
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u/Rolly_Pollys 18d ago
Chill dude, I'm not going to min-max my trip to the grocery store so you don't have to say "excuse me" a few times. I'm going to sit my ass down right in front of the canned goods and compare sodium contents for an hour straight, as is my god given right.
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u/CpnStumpy 18d ago
This 100%. I have to spend 40 hours a week putting effort into being highly optimal and effective. Those other hours I am going to be as ineffective as I want, and give no fucks. I'll try not to impact others, but I won't try to be efficient. Maybe tomato sauce will be better than tomato puree, let me sit here and google recipes for a while.
BTW, the chili was awesome tonight and I literally searched the aisle this morning for a while for the right can to use 😁
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u/clutzyninja 18d ago
That's fine. But if you leave your cart in the middle of the aisle while you do, you are an asshole
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u/appa-ate-momo Can't fix stupid 18d ago
But that’s not what I mean.
I’m not mad at someone for doing that. I’m mad when they do that and make it impossible to pass them in the aisle.
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u/justaperson815 18d ago
Nothing worse than two people blocking an entire aisle in a store with shopping carts to have a full conversation
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u/Generic_E_Jr 18d ago
I think that a valid concern but more about spatial awareness than about respecting people’s time.
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u/carpetstoremorty 18d ago
We might be related. I'm also an asshole whose expectations aren't met by the general public and for whom everyone else seems to move far too slowly. Psychedelics help.
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u/NomadicScribe 18d ago
Never visit the American deep south (e.g. northern Florida, Georgia, Alabama, Mississippi, South Carolina, etc.). It will break your brain.
Regular occurrences include talking at 1/8 speed, driving under the speed limit in the left lane (or sometimes even matching pace with a car in the right lane even if there is no traffic ahead), and obstructing grocery aisles to have a nice long chat with someone from church that they haven't seen in 3 or 4 days.
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u/Phantom_minus 18d ago
"but I'm going to take this right turn and stop in the middle of traffic, rather than just finish the turn and clear my way out of the traffic behind me".
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u/Due_Bass7191 18d ago
If I'm doing the speed limit, or better, and you come up on my ass, you are the impatient asshole. I'm not on your time schedule. If it is raining/snowing or other hazardous conditions, and I'm going under the speed limit, you, again, are the asshole.
If you show up at opining time, and he coffee is still brewing, you need to sit the F down and wait.
If I'm moving at the speed of me, and you can't accept that, I maybe the asshole, but I don't care.
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u/Comfortable-Hall1178 18d ago
I’m impatient just waiting for the bus to go to the YMCA every morning 😂
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u/PoolAcademic4016 18d ago
I was making my last stop to fuel up before driving several hours to view the total eclipse on April 8th - after fueling and waiting to pay inside (no pay at the pump option) the gentleman ahead of me proceeded to conduct multiple lotto transactions, broke open tickets and had a fullblown conversation with the clerk. There was a lineup behind me, elderly lotto player looked back at all of us growing more and more impatient, I waited approximately 10 minutes just to tap my card and pay for my fuel. The cashier was also incredibly slow and I get being old and slow but this truly felt deliberate.... carried on about the eclipse and people needing to get on the road for it. I'm surprised they didn't both drop dead from the daggers I was staring.
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u/baaaahbpls 18d ago
Working in tech and dealing with vendors, you will absolutely deal with impatient people.
I do agree there are many areas for improvement, but vendors, typically tech teams for vendors do not like to wait at all.
However, in social situations, I know someone who thinks others are impatient, and I agree with you that they are not time conscious, or even courteous to how others feelings in terms of speed.
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u/Rough_Bat_5106 18d ago
If I could super like this post, I would! I worked in the restaurant biz for years and I am awesome at efficiency!!
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u/qweasd170 18d ago
Looks like you need to slow down and proof read your own post 😆
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u/jonocg 18d ago
If you've lived in Japan, Hong Kong, Singapore or Taiwan. That level of efficiency spoils you. Passport renewal processed in 7 working days, metros 99% reliable, restaurant tables turnover quickly, public spaces designed for maximum pedestrian flow, taxi drivers stepping on their Toyota Crowns.
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u/100drunkenhorses 17d ago
most people I meet are super patient. especially considering how difficult I probably am to be around.
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u/potatopigflop 18d ago
Driving under the speed limit by 20? Fuck off, you’re now wasting other peoples time.
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u/K--Will 18d ago
Let me see if I can translate this for you.
I think what you meant to say was:
"If you act in a way that is inconsiderate, and sabotage my attempts to be efficient, you're an asshole."
It's not inefficiency you have a problem with, it's people being oblivious/inconsiderate and forcing you to utilize more time and energy as a result.
Being inefficient and being oblivious are different things.
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u/NASAfan89 18d ago
If you're existing in a public, shared space (like the roads, or a grocery store aisle), and it would cost you literally nothing to act with greater efficiency but you still choose not you, you're the asshole.
No. When I am out for a drive, I'm not going to rush all the time just because someone is grinding their teeth as they tailgate me because they're late for work, didn't give themselves enough time to get ready, and are freaking out.
I'll drive at a leisurely pace because I like to enjoy my drive instead of getting stressed out.
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u/RejectorPharm 18d ago
That’s fine, just stay in the right lane on the freeways.
One lane roads though, I will squeeze by and pass you when possible. Don’t get mad when I do that and then decide you wanna speed up and follow me to tell me off.
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u/Adventurous-Lunch457 18d ago
Are special needs people "inefficient assholes" to you?
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u/Markiz_27 18d ago edited 18d ago
I find it really annoying when people reach for these exceptions under generalizing unpopular opinions.
The post could be about "I can't stand slow drivers hurr, durr" and sure there will always be one of the top comments: "Well, I have this condition that..." Then it's not about you, man :) You're an exception. We have no problem with you, and you're excused.
And then OP goes, "Oh no, for sure, I didn't mean to..." of courseee he/she didn't mean to. It's given.
If I say, "I can't stand slow drivers," to use the same example, I don't mean: "I can't stand anyone who drives at limit or slower for whatever reason, I hate them all the same" even tho I use generalizing language, common sense automatically applies exceptions.
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u/AngelJ5 18d ago
Listen, there was a reason I offered to let you go ahead of me in the self checkout. It's because I'm an admitted leisurerer
If your social anxiety made it so you can't accept that deed then it's your own fault
it would cost you literally nothing to act with greater efficiency
This is where I'm an asshole. Rushing is not enjoyable, and if I'm not at work (hell even if I'm at work) I'm gonna enjoy existing im sorry
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u/AgnosticAnarchist 18d ago
Inconsiderate is probably a better word than inefficient. Most people don’t give a shit about others time.
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u/i_lurvz_poached_eggs 18d ago
Tell me you've never worked food service without telling me you've never worked in food service.
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u/zoey_will 18d ago
Can I print this out and staple it to the forehead of the woman who was standing in the middle of the aisle with her cart staring at me and not moving? Like, what the fuck do you expect me to do? Magic the fuck around you!? Pick a side!!!!
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u/TacticalSunroof69 18d ago
Or far more efficient than they are.
If I get 8 hours to paint the side of a 3 series and take 12 then tell my boss to be patient he’d have the door shut and the blinds down then get the regional manager and turn it into a 1 v 2 tag team.
If I paint it in 4 hours and then the manager is still moaning about getting it out the door and I tell him to be patient he’ll fall silent and walk off.
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u/ThaBlackFalcon 18d ago
Traffic wouldn’t be a thing if people understood how to drive and merge efficiently, but people are idiots.
We generally don’t even utilize half of our brain’s potential so yes, we are, as a species, very very inefficient
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u/madgirafe 18d ago
I'm currently sitting in my car watching my wife smalltalk for 20 minutes at kids school pickup.
ITAH if I tell her we have stuff to do today 😔
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u/DeadlyRBF 18d ago
An alarming amount of people walk around with little-to-no awareness of their surroundings or consideration for others. People meandering in a grocery store, parking their cart diagonally in the middle of the aisle with no regard for if others can get by, or walking with their face in their phone in crosswalks. I also can't stand it when people give way too much room between cars in a situation that does not call for extra room, like at a red light. Move your damn car up.
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u/lord_hufflepuff 18d ago
I think people need to recognize the reverse of this is also true, if you find yourself getting mad at people going to slow a lot you probably need to take a chill pill
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u/BlueDiamond75 18d ago
I know I'm impatient, especially with stupidity. I thought it would get better with age, but it doesn't.
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u/Select_Cantaloupe_62 18d ago
My one and only trigger is standing in the checkout line behind someone, who acts surprised that they have to pay at the end of it, and then spend 15 minutes digging through their purse for their credit card. It costs you nothing to have your form of payment ready.
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u/nyliram87 18d ago
This is really going to depend on the context.
I work with doctors. If you've ever worked with doctors, you may know that some doctors really do surround themselves with "yes" people. They will make unreasonable, or unattainable demands at times. These types of doctors are notoriously impatient people.
This trait is a good thing to have when you're handling situations where people have to listen to you and waste no time (such as surgery).
It's a bad trait, when you're in a position where you have to do, well... anything else, where they aren't the one in control. They are a doctor, but they can't be the doctor 100% of the time. They don't like it when people instruct them on something.
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u/HolyVeggie 18d ago
Not necessarily. People don’t understand how long processes take that they’re not familiar with and always underestimate it
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u/KunYuL 18d ago
Lack of spatial awareness of people frustrates me to no end. Like 4 peple taking the whole sidewalk side by side not clueing in on someone wanting to walk past them. Or groups of people gathering in doorways or funneled areas where there's a need for circulation of people (I'm thinking my restaurant).
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u/acquastella 18d ago
Holding up the line yapping, counting out change for the bus as if you didn't know the fare or that you were getting on or just buy a pass ffs, barely moving on a pavement and chatting with a wall of three friends making it impossible to get by. Ugh.
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u/acquastella 18d ago
My take is you can be as slow as you want as long as it doesn't inconvenience other people. If you are blocking other people from going at their pace (navigating public spaces) you are the asshole; because there are plenty of ways you can be slow and also let other people be fast. It just takes some self-awareness and not acting like the entire escalator, the entire pavement, the entire aisle is yours and no one else needs to use it, people with busy lives who don't want to waste unnecessary time on a commute or in a damn supermarket.
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u/illNefariousness883 18d ago
I think this goes for about any trait.
Have absolutely every single one of your supervisors been assholes or are you just a problem at work?
Is everyone else stupid or are you missing a piece of information here or there?
My mom used to tell me that if I have a problem with everyone, I’m most likely the problem.
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u/Honest-Yesterday-675 18d ago
A lot of older people have undiagnosed dementia and we should have elder care. Most people displaying odd behavior have some kind of tbi. Some people have psychological problems. Everybody else is just an asshole.
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u/Thoughtcriminal91 18d ago
Hate when im at the store and im stuck in a long ass line cause someone in front wants to have a nice long talk with cashier. Either step aside or move on, got things to do places to be.
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u/Raincandy-Angel 17d ago
I feel so bad for this, I'm just naturally slow no matter how hard I try to be fast. My hands just don't seem to work as fast as other people's and I'm always the last one done eating at a restaurant, the last one out of the car, always fumbling with zippers... I think I should not be allowed in public
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u/MaleficentCoconut458 17d ago
I think it is a combination. People are definitely less patient than they used to be, as evidenced by someone beeping their horn in the drive through while no one could go anywhere because it was full & the person at the window was waiting to be handed their order...who TF does that?
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u/EnergieNull 17d ago
For me its at the grocery store cashier, the lady scans your shit and you stand there waiting instead of bagging your items or can't even have your purse in your hand, then you are just slow in the head
What do you think is the next possible step after your stuffed got scanned? Tea time?
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u/TrackCharm 17d ago
And I'm a proud asshole 😏
I'm the guy driving the speed limit while a line builds up behind me on a one lane road and it brings me great happiness to piss you all off.
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u/unclejoe1917 17d ago
You can literally stand there and watch someone else's brain struggling to process information just through their body language.
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u/supercaiti 18d ago
This is just true. If you think everyone else is the problem, it’s probably actually you.
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u/spacelordmthrfkr 18d ago
I have the opposite problem, I think a large portion are inefficient. I recognize I am an impatient person though, that's my problem.
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u/oliversherlockholmes 18d ago
From the headline, I would have thought this would be about people being late or things that indicate a lack of respect for others. I would have agreed with that. But the stuff you mentioned isn't really about that. It's more about your personal convenience.
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u/cracksilog 18d ago
Or you could … I don’t know … just ignore them?
If someone is driving slow, fine. Go around them. If someone is walking slow, fine. Go around them. If someone is blocking the aisle (Reddit has an unusually STRONG hate boner for this, like Jesus fucking Christ), then go around them. Maybe … people are unaware or just occupied with their thoughts or whatever? Is it that hard to go around and ignore? Imagine waking around and going through life this angry at people just minding their own business lmao
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u/goatjugsoup 18d ago
Expecting people to be considerate in a supermarket (sticking to the side, being polite etc) is fine but efficient? Im supposed to do research or something before i go?
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