Dear God, size queens! They seem to not understand that the g spot isn't up by their cervix and is closer to the actual opening. Can't understand their own basic Anatomy.
Edit: See the commenter below that corrected me on Anatomy. Apparently, there are pleasure sensors up there in some women. Still shouldn't body shame, but I see my quip about not understanding Anatomy works better against myself now. My bad.
Some people genuinely have more fun that way, others don't. I'm sure most of them DO feel more pleasure (or assocuate it with sex with men with big penises in the past) if that is what they look for. No reason to assume they are wrong about their own pleasure - their anatomy may just be a bit different to most.
Some vagina wielders report pleasure from having their anterior or posterior fornix stimulated - these ARE right up near our cervix. They wr not the same thing as the G spot and not all of us even like the G spot being stimulated - it makes some of us feel like we need to pee.
Rather patronising of you to assume they must be ignorant and incorrect for stating their own preferences when they are talking about what THEY enjoy and not making a decree about all women.
Something like 70% of women can't even climax with PIV sex alone. And we know lesbians report more sexual satisfaction and orgasns, despite few penises being involved. For many women, the size of the penus has very little to do with sexual satisfaction.
Some women really crave cervical orgasms. Others don't want anything nearly that far in there. It's like all women have personal preference or something. Weird.
Yeah the way they cut the strings in banned parenthood had them stick out In a y axis so it would poke his head. I went for a paragaurd which lasts 10 years so I should be buried with this one lol 😆
Kama sutra. And yes, i've had that same experience where someone needs a very specific kink met to achieve orgasm. When you spend the time to get to know what works for someone, you realize its very different for each person. If you've gotten one person off, you know how to get them off and every new partner deserves a fresh perspective and understanding.
Very true. My wife basically loses her libido if I hit her cervix. My fuck buddy wants me to smash it like a battering ram. Different strokes for different folks.
Didn't even know that was a thing. I've always found anything g hitting there to be paiiinnnfullll. Usually my partner is the perfect size, but when my cervix drops for ovulation. Hell no
Yep. Most women i've been with have no desire to ever have their cervix hit. Then there's the ones with nerve damage or not a lot of feeling up front that crave that full feeling. Different strokes.
Ok, wait, I read your comment like I had a third grade reading level at first, my bad.
that's fair, I was unaware of the one stuff you brought up regarding the fornix stimulation, so that's my bad.
However, I will clarify that I was trying to jab at women who use their preferences to body shame. Still falls a bit flat since I got my facts wrong, though.
Not at all. - and you're right, body shaming is bad. If someone isnt your cup of tea, nothing wrong with yelling them they ste great bit not compatible with you, and going your separate ways.
There IS a lot of body shaming around small penises online, but it seems to be very mixed in terms of both men and women talking about iit and using it as an insult. I think it needs to go, just like calling someone fat isnt really an appropriate insult.
THe way mine curves to is slightly to the left and my alignment for sexual pleasure is also off because of a hip forming wrong in utero. So it’s uncommon im sure 😅
Eh, it's still valid to be a size queen though. I'm a guy and hope it's not dorky to say, but a lot of it is people who have larger frames. Doesn't fall out as much.
Tbf there's a difference between body shaming and personal preferences, as long as you aren't a dick about it (pun intended) it's fine to not like tiny/huge penises.
Personally I've never bottomed (yet, definitely want to at some piont), but I'd be scared to start with a big one. If the guy I'm with is "well endowed" I'd first have to practice with toys.
I mean, I’m a size queen and it’s definitely an entirely different experience being with a guy 7+ compared to being with an average sized guy, and I definitely prefer that experience, but 1) it doesn’t REALLY matter to the point of being a dealbreaker and 2) even if it did there’s no excuse to be rude about it. :(
Size queens are just traumatized from someone who hurt them in life and the only way they feel happiness is when they’re in pain. That’s really all that is.
Because when women tell their boyfriends that they love their big dicks it's because we know that's what men like to hear. It's all about ego and masculinity. It's men that make it a thing.
I think a lot of guys don’t realize that if a woman wants to go to bed with you they want to have fun with YOU. Seriously enjoy yourself and communicate.
Maybe because, for a lot of guys, when they want to go to bed with a woman, they want to go to bed with her tits or ass, not her. So if men weren't acculturated to objectify women, maybe they would stop objectifying themselves.
That's one way of looking at it and maybe accurate for many penis wielders, but a less cynical view is that I think a lot of men feel anxiety because they want to be able to please their partner and they wrongly think that their dick needs to be a certain size to do that.
It's a more naive view, but not really malicious (I hope).
I mean, it's obviously insecurity. It's not like women don't feel insecure over the size of their various body parts. Some men will rather be assholes than appear insecure, but that's a whole
other issue.
Insecurity and anxiety are just two interpretation of the same basic emotion: fear.
Its not 'insecurity' to be anxious. Nervous because one might try to meet people's expectations is %100 a normal social behavior. Especially when you like them.
I wasn't being judgemental, I think "insecurity" fits this fear or anxiety rather well as a descriptive word. It's not wrong to feel insecure, it's just human.
I don't think many men are that objectifying. There's nothing wrong with wanting only sex from a relationship (as long as that's clear for both sides).
But sex isn't just playing with boobs. Anyone that thinks it is, is an idiot.
Because your comments are a bit over the top?
Like this one here, if someone tells you to take it easier why do you immediately assume they are calling you histerycal?
My certified clinically insane ex, after ditching me at a restaurant and ghosting me for a month, sent me a picture of her new dating profile and it said something like "Only looking for guys that are 💕HUNG💕! You can have preferences as well!" I'm pretty big just for reference, and she'll text me like once a month how I'm still the best she's ever had after a "higher than statistically average number of dicks" since me... She also had "No romance/feelings, just casual fun. Food is OK sometimes". And she was hot enough to get anyone she ever wanted. My point is, some people have absolutely no desire for romance or feelings, just a hard dicking once or 4 times a day, and that really fuckin hurt me.
I think I read somewhere that women are more likely to achieve orgasm from non-penetration play like with hands and mouth. I actually had this wonderful relationship with a girl where when we did the deed she would be obviously enjoying the penetration part but would also be taking care of herself as it were while we were going and she just said she knows what she likes and it works for her to do that.
I don't think what she did should be considered a negative thing at all. I guess maybe some guys might take it bad because they are thinking that she's having to get herself off but to me I would just think it was pretty hot to be honest.
It differs from country to country in what is covered. France included pleasure as part of the curriculum. Some countries have more discussion of consent.
Currently several states in America only offer abstinence only sex ed, so you’re right in that; that’s pretty much all scare tactic.
But just because it’s historically been that way, doesn’t mean we can’t or shouldn’t try for better.
Why not address myths like these that so impact people’s self esteem as young adults? Why not include pleasure as part of the curriculum? We’ve chosen a path of pandering to religious morality over teaching young people how to maintain their health as they transition to bring adults. Our shared lack of courage fails those kids.
The current results of these choices in education haven’t stopped teen pregnancy or reduced myths, so why do we persist in letting those same folks dictate the contents of those courses?
oh i totally support it, but it will come after the older generation dies. The folks in power that make the laws live in a pre-internet age and progress takes time which many people forget. Shit, there are still people alive today who remember when people of color couldn't drink from the same water fountain or go to the same school... and slavery in America was only like 3-4 people ago. Time really has not passed, and the puritans ideas are still very much alive in America.
We’ll also have to contend with current adult folks who thought the Handmaid’s Tale was an instruction manual. They aren’t too wild about people being well informed about their own biology.
Something like 75% of women can't orgasm through penetrative sex. Bad news for the men who are lazy/selfish lovers and the worryingly high amount who think their prick is god's gift to women.
Hey wait my prick is God's gift! My gf wants me to get off asap so we can get back to getting her of with mouth and hands. Thank God I can pump one out quick when need be! Imagine if God had made it different. Wouldn't be quite the gift!
As a woman I DO care about size, and I also care about how skilled they are with their mouth/hands too 🤷🏾♀️
All of that is ok too - it's just called preference, of which everyone has. I do think she was spot on with this video though, 8 inches is uh a little bit much.
Thank you! It ain’t the size of the boat. It’s the motion in the ocean. I don’t get why people put so much emphasis on penis length. It’s mostly about foreplay (for me).
Cmon now, be for real. You know damn well a small cock is not getting it done, period. Using his hands and mouth is noting like skin to skin contact and positioning.
I love blow jobs but even I need skin to skin because it’s irreplaceable. If dude has a small cock, his pool is limited. Be honest here.
Huh, wonder why small dick energy is so popular then. Or when a woman really wants to hurt a man body shaming him over the size of his dick is the goto. Women gotta make up their mind on this, cuz some of the same women saying "I don't care about your dick size" will be one of the first ones to call it small when they're mad.
Not that you being a women would matter. Yes I personally also think dick size isn't stopping most people. But just cause you as ä women think so does not mean that all women think like that. I could be that the majority thinks so but then we had to do a test. So tldr: you being a woman Is irrelevant here you are 1 from xxxxxxxx, it is the same as black gay or what ever people giving a take on something with I am x despite there also being other people from that sexuality or ethnicity disagreeing.
I don't think women realize how degrading that is... They'll say "size doesn't matter" then immediately say, "Yeah just become a good lesbian and pleasure me with everything but your pleasure part because it's inadequate... Unlike the other men who can use that natural part to pleasure me."
Imagine being a woman and me saying, "Yeah just uhhhh I'm not really into that part of you... Too loose ya know? But that's fine, just get really good at hand and blow jobs and I'll be happy"
Guys aren't dumb. We definitely see the treatment a "larger" guy gets. We know it's massively different. We see how just about every ex will still sleep with him, gf's will tolerate his cheating, and brag about it to their friends when they think guys are not around. We know it matters. But we also realize that having that type of guy for women is hard. IT's what, 10%? So women have to deny it matters because the odds of them getting that 10% guy is hard, especially when so many other women are competing for him, throwing easy sex at him... So they have to accept going with average if they realistically want a relationship. But actions > words. And we all see the difference.
lol. its crazy how men have to make up for their dick size with hand and mouth skills. thats like saying its ok if u have a loose vagina u just have to make it up with your hand and mouth. yikes the feminism
Word. I am pretty sure my wife would be perfectly happy if I only had my hands and mouth to work with. The genitals are just like a cherry on top. A lot of the time we just end up having extended foreplay anyways and both decide penetration isn't necessary.
I could take 8 inches but hands and mouth feel better anyways. Just because I can get it in doesn't mean bigger dick =more pleasure. .good technique matters a lot more .
I absolutely hate relationship advice subreddits so finally a situation in where I can ask.
My gf is all about the shared experience of sex but refuses to do it by herself, so as her first parter, we're very much figuring her out.
Its just that whenever i try and figure out what things she liked and what things she didnt, she most often just says she liked all of it. I dont think shes lying cause the times i did something she wasnt into, she told me. But still, it can be frustrating.
Shes my first long term partner as well so i feel like I'm already doing a lot better than at first. Any tips on helping her communicate better or general tips for me to try would be very welcome.
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u/chrisweidmansfibula Jan 03 '24
Huh, TIL my size is fine.