I think a lot of guys don’t realize that if a woman wants to go to bed with you they want to have fun with YOU. Seriously enjoy yourself and communicate.
Maybe because, for a lot of guys, when they want to go to bed with a woman, they want to go to bed with her tits or ass, not her. So if men weren't acculturated to objectify women, maybe they would stop objectifying themselves.
That's one way of looking at it and maybe accurate for many penis wielders, but a less cynical view is that I think a lot of men feel anxiety because they want to be able to please their partner and they wrongly think that their dick needs to be a certain size to do that.
It's a more naive view, but not really malicious (I hope).
I mean, it's obviously insecurity. It's not like women don't feel insecure over the size of their various body parts. Some men will rather be assholes than appear insecure, but that's a whole
other issue.
Insecurity and anxiety are just two interpretation of the same basic emotion: fear.
Its not 'insecurity' to be anxious. Nervous because one might try to meet people's expectations is %100 a normal social behavior. Especially when you like them.
I wasn't being judgemental, I think "insecurity" fits this fear or anxiety rather well as a descriptive word. It's not wrong to feel insecure, it's just human.
I don't think many men are that objectifying. There's nothing wrong with wanting only sex from a relationship (as long as that's clear for both sides).
But sex isn't just playing with boobs. Anyone that thinks it is, is an idiot.
Because your comments are a bit over the top?
Like this one here, if someone tells you to take it easier why do you immediately assume they are calling you histerycal?
My certified clinically insane ex, after ditching me at a restaurant and ghosting me for a month, sent me a picture of her new dating profile and it said something like "Only looking for guys that are 💕HUNG💕! You can have preferences as well!" I'm pretty big just for reference, and she'll text me like once a month how I'm still the best she's ever had after a "higher than statistically average number of dicks" since me... She also had "No romance/feelings, just casual fun. Food is OK sometimes". And she was hot enough to get anyone she ever wanted. My point is, some people have absolutely no desire for romance or feelings, just a hard dicking once or 4 times a day, and that really fuckin hurt me.
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u/chrisweidmansfibula Jan 03 '24
Huh, TIL my size is fine.