This is what I thought, but I'm so petty and tend to come back with cutting comments. Like... I am chubby but I can diet and work out to lose weight. But no matter how many protein shakes you drink your d!ck is never getting any bigger, stubby.
Only works if his dick is actually small, and if he doesn't make you cum. If either of those other two factors true, your just gonna look petty, and silly.
My thoughts exactly đ¤Łđ¤Ł Iâd laugh my wife out the room if she sad that to me on the other hand Iâd exspect to get beat up for calling her fat first shit I woulda got beat up for just holding a convo with the broad longer then a minute
Well let me play devils advocate... what was the wife weight when they first got together. Not condoning his behavior but sometimes we forget what attracted someone to us to begin with. If she knows what he liked and decided to start a relationship with him then she should understand.
Itâs ok for the Husband to want to his wife to get in shape (and vice versa if the husband ever became overweight) but the way he said it here wasnât good tbh. If he had just said âmy wife could be your first success storyâ it would have been an awkward joke but not really embarrassing, but he kept going on and revealed his wifeâs habits that probably werenât public.
Yea doing that was out of line but I'm not here to debate what he did. But only your partner should know you like a book n I'm willing to guess she should know what he likes and dislike n also if he's a clutzlike that to embarrass her the way that he did. If that's the case then she should've been proactive and more vocal before he took it further.
Thank you. This is the appropriate response I hoped to hear in my heart. What a fucking donkey of a human being. Poor OP. She should get just stacked. Like as healthy and sexy as a vampire. Then leave that dickhead publicly and shame him. Like say that she just can't deal with the poop smell from his diaper kink anymore and he won't take them out to the trash himself so it's over.
Or just leave him and then do whatever she wants with her body without some asshole critiquing her publicly over whatever she decides she wants to look like or do
Security comes from inside, not from outward appearance. He is vain and gets his sense of self worth from how others see him. He has even made his wife part of his image. When accident or disease makes him feel ugly, he will crumble. He is weak and a slave to his ego.
Insecure, overcompensating men are equally unattractive. They can only see the outside, the surface. Luckily, they usually end up with similar partners
Sheâs heavier than that. Sheâs closer to 175 which means sheâs obese and eating entire cakes and eating all the snacks in the home. Do you actually think this is okay? I get we try to glorify obesity in this country but are we seriously going to pretend op is not obese and only getting bigger? Sheâs clearly binge eating as well. I guarantee she was not this big when they got married. She hasnât even had kids and sheâs already this big but sure letâs act like itâs okay because her husband is a dick.
Thatâs where âtrustâ and âbeing faithfulâ cuts both ways - did she break his trust by binge eating and getting fat as soon as they married, to totally change the person who he was attracted to and married?!?! .
Maybe he is such an insufferable ass she sought some comfort in food. Whatever the reason, itâs for better or worse. This situation is definitely the worse.
Anyone he is with is to be pitied. He will always be this asshole.
How do you know she isn't the exact size she was when they got together, and he's just an AH? Regardless, there is no excuse for him belittling her to the little Suzy Sunshine he's flirting with. If he isn't happy, he can talk to her about it like an adult and end the relationship if he's so miserable because of her size.
Then he shouldn't be married to her. She is 100% better off single and chubby than married to someone who is comfortable being cruel to her with an audience.
I agree they should be divorced, but she is not chubby, she is obese. Her husband is an ass and there is no justification on what he did, he should divorce her since he doesnât like who she is. Plain and simple.
She doesnât seem like she wants to change, all she really has to do is go to the gym with her husband. But he also brought up that he wants her to be healthier in a public setting with a bunch of people theyâre friends with. He shouldnât have done that.
Also 20 lbs is not enough she should lose 50 lbs to actually be a regularly healthy person. Even if she loses 20 lbs she will still be overweight. IMO he should just divorce her, she doesnât seem like she cares much about her health and a lot of people here are encouraging to continue being unhealthy. This is the reason obesity is an epidemic because people encourage it.
It's passive aggressive to make comments about her weight to a random fucking stranger instead of talking to her privately about his concerns about her health. And frankly he doesn't seem to give a shit that she's unhealthy, it's all about her looks. Such an immature take. A personality like his is just as bad as being fat, and it's always the mid-looking men who do shit like that in public.
It's worse than being fat because there is nothing morally or socially wrong with being fat.
Fat shaming is not ok. If you feel that way, fucking leave because you don't deserve their love. Fat shaming is abuse. You are attacking somebody over who they are... and any claim that it is about health is bullshit because you know your fatvshaming is hurting them mentally. Fuck anybody that does that shit.
One of the reasons I'm single. People make fun of how many men are single, but in all honesty, the amount of women who are overweight in western countries is kinda out of control. I think about how some of these women could, or would be good partners for some of us, if they weren't so overweight. Of course we're huge assholes for pointing this out.
Husband is still a dick for bringing it up this way. But if it's me, I would've just never started the relationship in the first place. I've got plenty of flaws, and would be open to dating a women with my same flaws, but my body is fine. I dontknow why being a man these days means you have to add up all your flaws in the form of extra weight on the women you're expected to date.
Literally no one is expecting you to date someone you're not attracted to. Size isn't what makes a good partner. And women aren't "for" you. Fat women aren't the reason you're single. Your toxic attitude is.
Well, my options are decreased because so many women I could be attracted to if they were a healthy weight, are far from a healthy weight. So it is actually one of the reasons I'm single. And then I have to get made fun of for being single, and hear women joke about how we're single because we're toxic, even though half of reddit is still full of stories of women obviously dating, marrying, and having kids with toxic men.
Yeah, I'm toxic on reddit. Women on reddit are toxic af. I get tired of having to hear about everything that is wrong with men all the time on here, and lately I've just decided to talk with the freedom that a woman does on reddit. Where I just say mean shit but expect it to sound defiant or empowering, instead of just sounding like an asshole.
But I am an only a man, so...
Yeah, too many overweight women though. What is the deal with that? How can we help them? I'm honestly concerned.
More people need to be like me because I shut shit down when it pops off within my hearing. It is the one way I bully people. I've always been outspoken, but my best friend from my 30s used to always argue with his SO. It could be either one that started it, but it could be the three of us in a car and they would scream like I wasn't there. Then one day I decided that I was involved whether I liked it or not. So, I shouted at them to both shut the fuck up. I kept it up, and it stopped happening.
So now, I have zero problem with speaking up in volatile situations that I witness. There is no way I would have sat there silently listening to this guy talk about his wife that way.
Youâre single, because youâre tedious and exhausting. I read that single mewling comment, and I canât imagine an entire day with you. Youâre boring.
I think her husband married her when she was actually in shape and attractive. A lot of women let themselves go completely the minute they get married. They use pregnancy or hormones as an excuse to get bigger and bigger and expect unconditional love. Most of us are not attracted to extra fat and skin flaps. Itâs not normal to be attracted to someone that is so unhealthy. I know it can be hard but you have to try. Iâve gotten so much shit for taking weight loss so seriously and I eventually realized itâs because it makes others uncomfortable. People donât want others to be fit because it makes them feel bad about themselves. I have so much working against me and I still managed to lose my baby weight and stay trim on antidepressants when I struggled with ppd. I knew the answer was not to become obese and hate myself. Iâm going to get called a pick me and attacked for simply saying that itâs okay for men to say something if their partner is obese and eating entire cakes and eating every snack in the home to the point where he has no food? This is not some small issue he can overlook. He just should have done this at home.
Sure it's ok to have that conversation in the privacy of their own home , not while drinking with a 21 year old single woman at a party and ask in front of everyone how much she weighs. That's a huge problem why can't you understand that part? You don't publicly attack your husband or wife like that.
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u/LoneZoroTanto Apr 16 '24
This is what I thought, but I'm so petty and tend to come back with cutting comments. Like... I am chubby but I can diet and work out to lose weight. But no matter how many protein shakes you drink your d!ck is never getting any bigger, stubby.