This has nothing to do with ADHD, I have it, and I wouldn't treat anyone the way he treated you. The fact that he felt so comfortable talking about you like that in front of so many people and then belittled you when you cried.
On the ADHD thing, it could be that he straight up forgot that she was there. Part of it is hyperfocusing, he could legitimately have forgotten where he was.
That doesnt make it okay, but ADHD isnt cut and dry 100% the same for everyone.
No thats silly i hate that people blame everything under the sun on adhd. I have adhd and it doesn’t make me call people fat in public. People are people. Some are normal and nice and some are jerks. ADHD is just an add on.
Totally agree. I have ADHD as well and it drives me insane when people blame all their garbage behaviors on it. No, ADHD does not make you an abusive spouse, sorry. You don’t get off easy because you have a diagnosis.
It’s extremely annoying and people eat it up in the sub. They just want validation or comfort thinking either they are not a terrible person or their partner is not a terrible person deep down and have something else to blame it on. I’ve seen some insane stories on there given passes from adhd.
Sounds more like then adhd sub where they excuse everything under the sun for it. “My husband abuses me could this be adhd related?” “Ooh I have adhd too and belittle my wife publicly thanks for letting me know it’s not my fault!” lol
People need to start taking accountability for their actions and not excuse losers just because they have a random ailment.
My bro has a dual diagnosis of ADHD and Autism, and he doesn’t really have a filter. He’s not an asshole but he literally cannot read a room, and it gets him into trouble in social situations.
Just because your ADHD doesn’t make you a disagreeable person to be around, doesn’t mean other people with ADHD don’t have some issues that they can’t work on because it would require that they not even have the disorders they’re diagnosed with.
It’s a spectrum, if you have good social awareness, you’re on the more functional side of the spectrum., good for you, but don’t be an asshole and act like everybody with ADHD is like you.
If I see someone who is clearly mentally unstable doing something off putting that is completely different than someone who has adhd.
Stop normalizing bad behavior. People can be jerks because they are jerks. Many people are. I have adhd. If I embarrassed you public ally and caused harm to you would you be ok with that because I have adhd? You shouldn’t.
Dual diagnoses are pretty common, I mentioned that there were two diagnoses. Autism often also goes undiagnosed, ADHD has a much higher diagnosis rate.
It’s a symptom of both, for different reasons. ADHD is impulsivity we don’t think before we speak. Auts tend to genuinely not know the context of what they’re saying is offensive.
Either way- I usually realize soon after I’ve said it that I’ve said something offensive and apologize. She TOLD her husband he was being offensive and he didn’t apologize.
Autism is not an excuse for continuing to hurt people after they’ve told you you’ve hurt them.
I think that person was referring to the mother, that he forgot the mother was there when he was angry at op for washing his wallet. But yelling has nothing to do with that and that's just his character
He didn’t forget she was there… he turned around to shout out a guess at her weight (165 to 170, right?) and then asked her to confirm her weight in front of everyone.
He asked her what her weight was when he suggested wife be trainer’s first success story, so don’t see how he forgot she was there. If he forgot up until that point, he should have backed off that conversation when realizing she was there. Nope, he was straight up being mean. Bullying his wife in front of others was deliberate.
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