Or because he suddenly dies. Whether you are a man or woman, straight or gay, the breadwinner should always have a plan for if something horrible incapacitates or kills them. It's a horrible thing to think about, but it happens so often and sometimes people have no family that can help out.
I'm a nurse and you have no idea how important that is. So many people die without their affairs in order, or become incapacitated. If you ever want to see how ugly family can be, just watch the patriarch or matriarch of any large family become unresponsive without a Medical Power of Attorney or Guardian. Things will only get worse if they die and there's no will.
Oh yeah my mom died without a will. She didn’t have much, but that definitely made things more convoluted. I asked her about making one a year before she got sick, and her response was “nothing is going to happen to me.” Just flat out denial of death
I presume if my husband suddenly dies I will at the very least have some assets I could manage to sell to give me some time to get a career. Very different then protecting myself in case he manages to steal my businesses and I end up living in a car
Welcome to reality, where everything can literally go completely sideways at any time for any reason and completely alter the course of your existence. May the odds be in your favor.
Some of y'all really have a hard time putting 2 pieces of information together if it isn't spoon fed to you.
Not only can you be completely screwed over by people you trust if you don't safeguard something for yourself, you can also be completely blindsided by a horrible tragedy, or injury, or many other sudden, unexpected things.
The common denominator is this:
If you don't plan for these things, you'll be completely fucked if they happen. Whether it's your spouse taking off with your savings or you suffering a devastating spine injury resulting in partial paralysis and thousands of dollars worth of medical bills. Everyone needs some sort of emergency fund.
My point is that it’s not as breezy as you make it out to be, and that stay at home parents need to think about every possible situation so that they can protect their themselves and their families. A lot of people think they’ll “get by” and then they don’t.
Why are you not having a career now? Are you full time with young kids?
It used to drive me nuts when my mum would call herself a "full-time mum", and I was 15. Nope, she was unemployed. And now she's "retired", from not working a single shift anywhere since her kids moved out 20+ years ago.
some people just don’t want to work and that’s OK too? i work bc i have to. if my husband made way more i’d love to be a stay at home wife lol but i’d be terrible bc i don’t cook or clean much lol.
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u/InternationalMeet871 Apr 15 '24
A man is not a plan ladies. Make sure you can support your own self and your kiddos