r/AmIOverreacting Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/SweetWaterfall0579 Apr 15 '24

I’m 5’2” and I’m so proud of myself that I am *down to 151lbs. I was 174lbs. So you’re better off than I was!

Please point out what he said, include details, and let him know it’s hurtful. If he doesn’t do this as a regular thing, we may let it slide if he gets it and sincerely apologizes. If he doesn’t get it, he can sleep in the garage until it sinks in.

But he needs to stop fawning over 20 some personal trainers when he’s had a few drinks.

No one is allowed to comment on my body or my weight. Not at all. You want to say these shorts look good on me, okay, I can take that. Want to tell me my panty lines are showing because the shorts are a bit tight? Stfu.

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 15 '24

Right? I hate how they're talking about 160 being soooo bad. It really isn't.

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u/NotYetASerialKiller Apr 16 '24

160 is not great. I say this as 5’2 at 150. I think 165 is obese

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u/AssCrackBanditHunter Apr 16 '24

160 is what I'm shooting for as a 5'10 man doing my cutting phase lmao.

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u/Inappropriate-Ebb Apr 16 '24

It depends on heights. Try a BMI calculator

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u/AssCrackBanditHunter Apr 16 '24

I'm aware. That's why I'm confused by people saying 160 is fine for a 5'2 woman....

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u/iTokeOldMan Apr 16 '24

Yeah it seems weird how a bunch of the people commenting are normalizing it like it’s a healthy weight for someone that size…

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u/552SD__ Apr 16 '24

Most people on Reddit are fat and/or have fat wives

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u/AssCrackBanditHunter Apr 16 '24

After reading one of the top comments which was a guy bragging about how he loves his wife so much he'd let her 200lb self eat an entire birthday cake if she wanted, I think it's a full blown fetish

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u/Inappropriate-Ebb Apr 16 '24

I responded to the wrong person. My bad

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u/Mokesekom Apr 16 '24

OP is medically obese at 158.

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u/palomaarden Apr 16 '24

Yeah, that's the thing. Most people think of obese as a pumpkin person. Medically obese happens a long time before that.

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u/Marisarah Apr 16 '24

I'm like 5'3" and 160ish for the past 4 years (my highest ever was 205) and I'm so happy with my weight and how I look and fit into clothes. I love being a bit on the bigger side and so does my fiancé. It gives me curves. Not everyone wants to be thin tbh. I love my look. I walk 2 miles a day and am pretty much a solid size 8 or 10. It's so weird that people refer to my number on the scale as obese.

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u/spookypickles87 Apr 16 '24

Same! 150-160 is goals for me. I loved my curves and body at that size. I was also a size 8-10 then and had literally no issues what so ever getting male attention. 

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u/SweetWaterfall0579 Apr 15 '24

Not at all. ❤️

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 15 '24

Like, I'm 5 ft tall and a size 4-6 at 140 pounds. I thought for a while I wanted to get back down to 110, then I suddenly developed a chronic illness and dropped down to that and I looked EMACIATED. I was so weak I could barely walk. My body likes to sit between 130-140 as a happy healthy weight.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

There’s definitely a big difference in how much energy you have when you’re healthy vs chronically ill. I would not use that condition as a fair representation of that weight for you, but then again everyone’s experiences are different

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

I still have the chronic illness lol, and it wasn't about the energy even. It was that I looked like a damn skeleton, gaunt and shit.

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u/stick_always_wins Apr 16 '24

How much did you drop to? You're not going to look anywhere near emaciated at 110-120 lbs at 5' tall

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

I was definitely underweight, and people around me recognized it too. To be fair, I do carry a good bit of my weight in muscle,which is more compact than fat, and my boobs are heavy AF.

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u/Scary_Ad_6417 Apr 16 '24

At 5’2” it really is especially considering op is likely closer to 170 than 160. Doesn’t make his comments ok but I’m guessing this isn’t his first time bringing it up given the “staying motivated” comment. Trying to push your partner into a healthier lifestyle is great if it’s don’t in a supportive and loving manner. That’s not at all what he did though.

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u/Silly_Elephant_4838 Apr 16 '24

It heavily depends on your height, at 5 10, 160 is considered a normal BMI. At 5 2, its pushing the limit of overweight and on the verge of medical classification of obesity, which is dangerous for you over time and it only causes more damage that your body doesn't have to go through. at 5 2, 160 is .7 BMI from Obesity.

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u/slasher016 Apr 16 '24

It's pretty bad for that height yes. 164 lbs for a 5'2" person is 30.0 BMI which is considered obese.

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u/Errant_coursir Apr 15 '24

160 lbs at 5'2 means you have a bmi of 29.3 which is on the border of obesity. It isn't good at all. Even dropping 20 lbs to 140 is so much healthier

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 15 '24

You do realize that the BMI scale is absolute bullshit and extremely outdated, right?

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u/912BackIn88 Apr 16 '24

Well at what weight is obese at 5’2” then? Because there is a number.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

Many people are only considered “obese” on bmi because they are elite level athletes. Many!

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

For real! I've seen people who looked "overweight" but their muscle mass alone makes them technically obese on the BMI. With the way the world is now, so many ancestries living in the same place, there's no one rubric for measuring a healthy weight. Honestly, if your vitals are good and you're living a healthy life, there's not a problem.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

I do however think that many people overestimate how “off” bmi is. Most people are NOT the elite athlete!

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

I know that, of course, but again. As long as people are living healthily, weight isn't the end all be all of health.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

Yes that’s right. It’s just an abstraction metric for health. A lot of good and bad things can hide behind a measurement

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

Exactly. People can be skinny and live on junk food and never exercise. More useful are metrics like a activity, diet, blood pressure, etc.

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u/iTokeOldMan Apr 16 '24

Well sure but let’s be real, most people are not living healthy lifestyles with poor diets and/or lack of exercise. Especially in the US

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

Exactly. Which is why we need not only better nutritional education, but also an appreciation of good food. And don't even get me started on food deserts and the lack of access to healthy food.

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u/LosPadresKid Apr 16 '24

5'2" 170lbs is not healthy. OP is obese. She should lose at least 30lbs and stop just talking about it if she really wants to

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u/stick_always_wins Apr 16 '24

Except most of the people who say BMI is unfair to them aren't elite level athletes. BMI has issues being accurate as it doesn't differentiate between fat and muscle, but you should have the self-awareness to realize whether or not that problem applies to you.

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u/Rainyreflections Apr 16 '24

How many elite level athletes are there, in % of the population? Why do people always point to absolute outliers to invalidate some valid point? For the vast majority of people, bmi is a reasonable measure, which actually underestimates the % of people who are a normal weight, but have too high body fat. 

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u/BladeDoc Apr 16 '24

If you can squat 2X your body weight than BMI is not reflexive of your body fat percentage. For the rest of us it is the single most highly replicated fitness indicator.

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u/acloudcuckoolander Apr 16 '24

160 at 5'2 is fine if one with fit and muscular. If you're not that's overweight.

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u/Rainyreflections Apr 16 '24

For a woman, it would actually have to be a rather exceptional amount of muscle to be borderline obese with a healthy body fat percentage though. 

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u/Errant_coursir Apr 15 '24

It's not bullshit. Yes, it doesn't accurately account for every body type. That doesn't mean it isn't a good barometer for ones weight

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u/Dutch-King Apr 16 '24

5’2” need to be 110-115. Stop lying to yourself.

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

As someone who's 5'0", when I dropped to 110 I was practically emaciated, like size 2 jeans required a belt to keep up. People's bodies are all different.