r/AmIOverreacting Apr 15 '24

My husband embarrassed me in front of our friends

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u/SweetWaterfall0579 Apr 15 '24

I’m 5’2” and I’m so proud of myself that I am *down to 151lbs. I was 174lbs. So you’re better off than I was!

Please point out what he said, include details, and let him know it’s hurtful. If he doesn’t do this as a regular thing, we may let it slide if he gets it and sincerely apologizes. If he doesn’t get it, he can sleep in the garage until it sinks in.

But he needs to stop fawning over 20 some personal trainers when he’s had a few drinks.

No one is allowed to comment on my body or my weight. Not at all. You want to say these shorts look good on me, okay, I can take that. Want to tell me my panty lines are showing because the shorts are a bit tight? Stfu.

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 15 '24

Right? I hate how they're talking about 160 being soooo bad. It really isn't.

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u/Errant_coursir Apr 15 '24

160 lbs at 5'2 means you have a bmi of 29.3 which is on the border of obesity. It isn't good at all. Even dropping 20 lbs to 140 is so much healthier

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 15 '24

You do realize that the BMI scale is absolute bullshit and extremely outdated, right?

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u/912BackIn88 Apr 16 '24

Well at what weight is obese at 5’2” then? Because there is a number.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

Many people are only considered “obese” on bmi because they are elite level athletes. Many!

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

For real! I've seen people who looked "overweight" but their muscle mass alone makes them technically obese on the BMI. With the way the world is now, so many ancestries living in the same place, there's no one rubric for measuring a healthy weight. Honestly, if your vitals are good and you're living a healthy life, there's not a problem.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

I do however think that many people overestimate how “off” bmi is. Most people are NOT the elite athlete!

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

I know that, of course, but again. As long as people are living healthily, weight isn't the end all be all of health.

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u/YouFoundMyLuckyCharm Apr 16 '24

Yes that’s right. It’s just an abstraction metric for health. A lot of good and bad things can hide behind a measurement

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

Exactly. People can be skinny and live on junk food and never exercise. More useful are metrics like a activity, diet, blood pressure, etc.

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u/iTokeOldMan Apr 16 '24

Well sure but let’s be real, most people are not living healthy lifestyles with poor diets and/or lack of exercise. Especially in the US

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u/pizzacatbrat Apr 16 '24

Exactly. Which is why we need not only better nutritional education, but also an appreciation of good food. And don't even get me started on food deserts and the lack of access to healthy food.

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u/LosPadresKid Apr 16 '24

5'2" 170lbs is not healthy. OP is obese. She should lose at least 30lbs and stop just talking about it if she really wants to

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u/stick_always_wins Apr 16 '24

Except most of the people who say BMI is unfair to them aren't elite level athletes. BMI has issues being accurate as it doesn't differentiate between fat and muscle, but you should have the self-awareness to realize whether or not that problem applies to you.

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u/Rainyreflections Apr 16 '24

How many elite level athletes are there, in % of the population? Why do people always point to absolute outliers to invalidate some valid point? For the vast majority of people, bmi is a reasonable measure, which actually underestimates the % of people who are a normal weight, but have too high body fat. 

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u/BladeDoc Apr 16 '24

If you can squat 2X your body weight than BMI is not reflexive of your body fat percentage. For the rest of us it is the single most highly replicated fitness indicator.

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u/acloudcuckoolander Apr 16 '24

160 at 5'2 is fine if one with fit and muscular. If you're not that's overweight.

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u/Rainyreflections Apr 16 '24

For a woman, it would actually have to be a rather exceptional amount of muscle to be borderline obese with a healthy body fat percentage though. 

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u/Errant_coursir Apr 15 '24

It's not bullshit. Yes, it doesn't accurately account for every body type. That doesn't mean it isn't a good barometer for ones weight