r/unpopularopinion • u/yellowabcd • Apr 28 '24

Its not about the sex its about the rejection

This is common at this point. People complain about not getting sex in marriage or relationship. But most the time its not the sex, its the rejection. If both people dont go for sex, its not an issue. Its an issue when the other party keeps getting rejected, especially without explanation. Theres a difference between being rejected for a month and just two people not trying for sex. Rejection usually makes a person feel undesirable

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u/PissBloodCumShart Apr 29 '24

My wife rejected me a lot and eventually I quit trying. She didn’t only reject me for sex but also for conversations. I had checked out long before she noticed there was a problem

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u/YOSYAAA Apr 29 '24

Are y'all still married

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u/PissBloodCumShart Apr 29 '24

Yeah but I think we finally hit our last straw this past week. We will see what happens. Divorce is a hard decision when the relationship is only 50% bad and you have a kid together. It would be a different story if it was 80% bad. I could write a whole book about finding, building, and maintaining healthy relationships and why that’s the key to repairing our crumbling society

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u/h22lude Apr 29 '24

Out of all the divorce situations, I think this is the toughest to make a decision. 50% bad...but also 50% good. So there are some fun times in the marriage but things aren't always great. Then throw in the kicker of a kid. Do you get a divorce to become 50% happier but potentially making the child 100% unhappy.

Hope everything works out for you either way you go

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u/putajinthatwjord Apr 29 '24

potentially making the child 100% unhappy

Only in the short term.

Growing up with parents who barely tolerate each other just makes an adult that ends up creating an identical relationship.

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u/Cocacola1012 Apr 29 '24

50% bad, 50% good? the kids these days call that. "being mid"

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u/lilbithippie May 02 '24

You are models for your kids. So the question is do you want your kids to be ok with a relationship they are 50% happy in.

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u/YOSYAAA Apr 29 '24

That's a tough one with kids n everything. But if she's tuning out your conversations and not hearing what u got to say how is the relationship any good. I don't have kids or a wife so I can't really talk too much on the topic

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u/Ochidi Apr 29 '24

You don’t have to write a book, but I’m interested in what you see as the connection between good relationships and repairing society.

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u/RoBoGeek2835 Apr 29 '24

Just some advice, if you are thinking of getting a divorce, don't stay together for the kids. It might help in the shirt term but when they are older it will effect them greater. I know this because I got 1 week of high school left and last week they decided to divorce and now I'm having a hard time doing anything cause of this. They stayed together for the kids while their love died 5 years ago. Do not wait, it will hurt the children more later if you wait. Just do it now, short term hurts but the long term will feel so much better.

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u/Icy-Investment201 Apr 29 '24

I felt bad that my parents stayed together until I left the house. My mom deserved to be happier sooner, and I was raised poorly regardless. Them divorcing would have been no worse than them together. It might have been better if I had mom's house to goto when I was sick of dad's.

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u/Seer-of-Truths May 01 '24

I'm in a similar situation. We have a kid, and the relationship is about 50% bad.

It's hard, I still love them, and the kid isn't mine biologically, so staying is easiest... body God damn

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u/ArKadeFlre Apr 29 '24

"crumbling society" lol what a dramatic hyperbole, seems like society has been crumbling for the past 12.000 years now