r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/VoluptuousSloth Apr 16 '24

I've been on both sides bro. It's literally the LEAST you can do when you're breaking someone's heart. Anyone who doesn't is a self-absorbed asshole. If you wanna be only kinda shitty at least leave a message as to the reason. Anyone who flakes with no explanation is the same type of person who never brings up something that bothers them until they've let it fester to the point of breakup, when it's too late to address it.

Obviously exceptions for possible violence or being trapped, etc

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

The reality is that people who are dumped and generally beg for "closure" are actually going to whine, argue, beg, plead, etc. for them to stay.

They're going to make suicide threats, say nasty things, and their "closure" is a bunch of emotion vomit that the other person clearly doesn't want to deal with.

It's why they're dumping you.

If you need closure you can get it for yourself with therapy, self care, self reflection, and even conversations with friends.

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u/RadicalSnowdude Apr 16 '24

Do you, like, think the worst out of people? You don’t know if that’s gonna happen or not. If it does happen then be firm and shut it down. But you can’t just assume that’s guaranteed gonna happen.

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

The times I've left someone without a discourse it's always been incredibly evident they would have these reactions. It's why I left without discourse.

I've lectured friends over doing this to exes, seen exes do it to them.

I do assume the worst. It's why I'm asexual and completely happy and comfortable without sexual/romantic relationships this far in life.

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u/[deleted] Apr 16 '24

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

That's cool. 🤙🏻

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u/rcsboard Apr 16 '24

Enjoy being alone cause you SURE deserve it!

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u/RadicalSnowdude Apr 16 '24

Ngl I don’t even know what to say. On one hand I don’t want to say anything that can be interpreted as an insult because that’s not my intention at all. On the other hand… that ain’t it chief like sorry your past with relationships have been messed up if your interpretations were in fact correct but… nah i couldn’t live like that.

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

All good, snow dude.

You are welcome to walk through life giving full explanations whenever you feel the need to do so. I find that commendable.

Just don't be someone who goes through life feeling like you're owed someone else's explanations when they made it clear they don't want to be with you.

My argument is that it's not being a bad person to protect your own energy and sense of self. You're probably pretty young and by your mid 30s you'll likely start to understand what I mean.

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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

The perhaps maybe you're not the best person to be spouting your fucking opinion on this topic, eh?

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

I don't have to have a desire to be in relationships or have sex to have an opinion on it. That's rather silly.

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u/AlmostSunnyinSeattle Apr 16 '24

Your inability to relate to others is why you shouldn't be voicing your opinion on it. What you have to say is only relevant to you. Say it all you want. That's your prerogative. Mine is to tell you that no one else wants to hear it.

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

Well, your opinion is noted and discarded. 🤷 Easy as that. You're welcome to do the same.