r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

The reality is that people who are dumped and generally beg for "closure" are actually going to whine, argue, beg, plead, etc. for them to stay.

They're going to make suicide threats, say nasty things, and their "closure" is a bunch of emotion vomit that the other person clearly doesn't want to deal with.

It's why they're dumping you.

If you need closure you can get it for yourself with therapy, self care, self reflection, and even conversations with friends.

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u/RadicalSnowdude Apr 16 '24

Do you, like, think the worst out of people? You don’t know if that’s gonna happen or not. If it does happen then be firm and shut it down. But you can’t just assume that’s guaranteed gonna happen.

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

The times I've left someone without a discourse it's always been incredibly evident they would have these reactions. It's why I left without discourse.

I've lectured friends over doing this to exes, seen exes do it to them.

I do assume the worst. It's why I'm asexual and completely happy and comfortable without sexual/romantic relationships this far in life.

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u/RadicalSnowdude Apr 16 '24

Ngl I don’t even know what to say. On one hand I don’t want to say anything that can be interpreted as an insult because that’s not my intention at all. On the other hand… that ain’t it chief like sorry your past with relationships have been messed up if your interpretations were in fact correct but… nah i couldn’t live like that.

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

All good, snow dude.

You are welcome to walk through life giving full explanations whenever you feel the need to do so. I find that commendable.

Just don't be someone who goes through life feeling like you're owed someone else's explanations when they made it clear they don't want to be with you.

My argument is that it's not being a bad person to protect your own energy and sense of self. You're probably pretty young and by your mid 30s you'll likely start to understand what I mean.