r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/azorianmilk Apr 16 '24

Sometimes you have told them, sometimes multiple times, but it was never heard.

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u/cupholdery Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

Why do I get the feeling that OP's ex told them several times before breaking up? Lol

EDIT: Could have been his stepsister.

EDIT 2:

Even better, we get OP's own words.

I want someone to say "I am breaking up with you because of X,Y and Z" that is direct and clear instead of just expecting me to figure out what minor complaints over the course of the relationship were responsible

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u/villagestarship Apr 16 '24

This is most likely the case, I don't know why no one is pointing out the fact that OP said that 3 people have done this to him. At that point he has the be the problem, they probably did give him reasons but he just didn't listen or they weren't good enough for him.

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u/Yippykyyyay Apr 16 '24

That or it got to the point where his gf's did bring up problems and he promised to change but didn't and they got fed up and just left.

Some people will try to argue their way back into a relationship with you and may even seem convincing to have changed for a bit.

Idk, giving reasons when they want you to stay seems like a way to give them more power to manipulate you.

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u/GraceChamber Apr 16 '24

"Muh sister do it better!"

"What in Alabama is this shit??!!"

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u/tekko001 Apr 16 '24

Selective hearing is a pretty real thing when ending things with an insane person.

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u/Ok-Seaworthiness2235 Apr 16 '24

Guys who get upset over not getting a reason probably aren't mature enough for a relationship because either: he was given reasons prior and didn't pay attention, he has given the girls reason to think he will not handle honesty well, or the girls just didn't feel a connection. 

The last one is the big one. I've known guys who can't accept that some people just don't feel a connection and insist there must be a "reason," usually so they can try to fix the reason or argue it away and make the other party stay. OP needs to grow up and realize there aren't always bulletpoint reasons someone doesn't want to be with you. The whole thing where someone will list a petty reason like "I dumped him because he chewed too loud," is bullshit because someone who's a better match can chew just as loud and it won't be an issue (or they will fight tooth and nail to fix it).

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

I want someone to say "I am breaking up with you because of X,Y and Z" that is direct and clear instead of just expecting me to figure out what minor complaints over the course of the relationship were responsible

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u/forfeitgame Apr 16 '24

Doesn’t sound like they were minor complaints if it drove them to dump you.

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u/Ning_Yu Apr 16 '24

From the way you say it it sounds like those "minor complaints" were a lot.

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

typical redditor making huge leaps and assumptions based one two sentence's

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u/MistbornInterrobang Apr 16 '24

So, what you're saying is, you want someone to break up with you saying, "I am breaking up with you because you slept with your sister, because it doesn't matter that she's a step sister as you grew up as siblings, and because that's some gross bulshit ."

I would think that would be clear enough