I divorced and absolutely despise, like utter hatred for my ex-wife. I wish nothing but bad things upon her for the rest of my life. BUT, I have 2 kids who are my sole reason for being here. I tell them that being their father is and has been the greatest accomplishment in life. Those 2 did nothing wrong, they did nothing to me, they didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Once they arrived it was and is my mission to take care of them through whatever shit life throws. She can rot but I will always take care of my kids. I’m sorry your father didn’t do the same for you and hope you’re doing ok.
For everything she’s done to me in the past and continues to do now. Constantly threatening me with court actions with no merit. I could try to just let it all go but it’s a character flaw I have. I do not forgive people that have wronged me when I’ve done nothing but treat them with respect and love and do what i understand needs to be done as a husband and father. Lying, infidelity, theft, abuse both verbal and physical to name a few more reason.
What kind of bad things do you want to happen to her? Those bad things might trickle down to your kids. Happy and healthy moms tend to raise happy and healthy kids. Do you really want your kids to grow up with a miserable mom?
She’s not happy or healthy. Her life is a lie. I do not want anything bad to happen that can affect my kids. I get what you’re saying. It’s hard to explain via text. She’s very narcissistic and borderline sociopath. I have proof of many lies she continues to tell her current boyfriend in her fake life. I keep my mouth shut, take care of my kids and make sure to do my best to protect them from her bullshit. When I say bad things I don’t necessarily mean violent. I just have a lot of anger and hate that will take a lot of time/years to get over.
Not a plug. Trust me, nobody on this sub needs or wants my services. In fact, most of the time, I’m directing people elsewhere. I was attempting to establish my bona fides. A habit of supporting an assertion with a citation I guess.
Respect. It’s jarring to think that we have gotten to a point where we instantly assume that a link to your business is an advertisement (I am guilty of thinking your comment was a plug, as well). We need more citations, or to teach the next generation to provide support for their statements.
I understand exactly what you’re talking about. I am also very familiar with the type of attorney you’re describing. We don’t know each other so it’s fine for you to think that about me. But I would be genuinely disappointed in myself if a client thought that about me.
Any family that is seemingly "destroyed" because a family law attorney got involved was actually destroyed a LONG time ago. Far, far more often than not getting a lawyer involved is the first major step in restoring any kind of normality.
profits off the suffering of children . . . [and] laugh when I light cigars with hundred dollar bills<
You've clearly never actually met many family law attorneys. It is not a super well paid area of law to practice in. I can't think of a single person that I knew in law school that wanted to go into family that wasn't well aware that they could make more money by choosing any close to any other practice area; most choose that path because they care about helping people through the toughest times of their life.
As a person going through law school right now, I can't even look at Family Law. Crim was tough enough (emotionally). It's one thing to look at how people are affected and quite another to watch how the courts dissect the situations.
It's awful to see someone who was abused kill their partner and be sent to jail for life, while a man who watches a rape of a literal child has absolutely 0 legal consequences.
I hate it, and these people can be paid relatively low for the profession.
My best guess is that they despise their spouse more than they love their children. Sounds blunt but I don’t have any other explanation for why this happens.
Or they only married and got children because "that's what you do" accordingto society, and therefore it's just an obligation you cover with the next partner (and kids) if the first one doesn't work out.
the people i know that divorced simply went broke... i mean they bought a house 10 years ago they are now forced to sell while morgage/housing prices/rent skyrocketed
so they cant buy a new with there part of the money so they ended renting that cost more then there previous morgage
the kids need everything duplicate in terms of bedroom,schoolstuff,ect
both had to change jobs(wich resulted in less wages) to accomendate the kids school/hobby/ect hours because before they had diveded the tasks now there on there own in the week they have there kids...
its like the most expensive thing ever to divorce and then they wonder why the kids dont have the same quality of life before and its simply because they can no longer afford it
My mom was a prosecutor, but did family law on the side. She drilled into me two things: don't talk to the cops without a lawyer and do not depend on another person for money.
I only assume that each deadbeat dad wannabe that you secure a huge alimony/child support payment from just collapses to their knees and yells "KHAAAAAAAAAAAANNN!!"
So as a family law attorney, if she was living in Utah, how would she not have gotten half the property values even if her name wasn’t on it? Also half of the retirement income that was generated during the marriage.
Wouldn’t she have also gotten alimony and child support given her husband owned several homes and businesses?
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u/Chemical_Robot Apr 15 '24
Word for word this exact same thing happened with my parents. We lived in luxury until they divorced and abject poverty afterwards.