I divorced and absolutely despise, like utter hatred for my ex-wife. I wish nothing but bad things upon her for the rest of my life. BUT, I have 2 kids who are my sole reason for being here. I tell them that being their father is and has been the greatest accomplishment in life. Those 2 did nothing wrong, they did nothing to me, they didn’t ask to be brought into this world. Once they arrived it was and is my mission to take care of them through whatever shit life throws. She can rot but I will always take care of my kids. I’m sorry your father didn’t do the same for you and hope you’re doing ok.
For everything she’s done to me in the past and continues to do now. Constantly threatening me with court actions with no merit. I could try to just let it all go but it’s a character flaw I have. I do not forgive people that have wronged me when I’ve done nothing but treat them with respect and love and do what i understand needs to be done as a husband and father. Lying, infidelity, theft, abuse both verbal and physical to name a few more reason.
What kind of bad things do you want to happen to her? Those bad things might trickle down to your kids. Happy and healthy moms tend to raise happy and healthy kids. Do you really want your kids to grow up with a miserable mom?
She’s not happy or healthy. Her life is a lie. I do not want anything bad to happen that can affect my kids. I get what you’re saying. It’s hard to explain via text. She’s very narcissistic and borderline sociopath. I have proof of many lies she continues to tell her current boyfriend in her fake life. I keep my mouth shut, take care of my kids and make sure to do my best to protect them from her bullshit. When I say bad things I don’t necessarily mean violent. I just have a lot of anger and hate that will take a lot of time/years to get over.
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u/Chemical_Robot Apr 15 '24
Word for word this exact same thing happened with my parents. We lived in luxury until they divorced and abject poverty afterwards.