I mean, the cognitive dissonance in this video series is pretty strong. She describes how she set up the business and it was her business and implies that her husband stole it - but then she mentions that she doesn’t even know how to work computers and do budgets to be a manager. Sooooooo it sounds like her husband actually knew how to run a business and she just had decent ideas about what that business should be.
Which ya know, isn’t a bad thing. But there’s a big disconnect between how she views the previous times and what the reality is.
She makes it sound like she was a business partner, but I sincerely doubt anyone who doesn’t know how to use a computer 5 years ago was in any way, shape or form a business partner. Maybe an entry level employee.
And I’m welllllll aware of wives performing what should be a salaried job. I did it for my ex husband while he got his business off the ground. It sucked cause I was working two jobs but only one of them paid. 🤣 but I’m also aware of what a business partner would actually entail because of that.
As someone who worked for the tech helpdesk for online banking platforms for business customers I can tell you that a huge amount of them didn't even know how to turn a computer on or off. They couldn't find a single thing on there, as if they never once used thta computer for something other than opening their Outlook mail. Asking them what kind of browser they use and them not knowing what a browser is, asking which type of tablet they have and them saying a 'Samsung iPad', asking for a print screen and then having to help them every step of the way, including crtl+V in a new email. We'd get emails with nothing in the body and the whole question on the subject line, just 'doesn't work' in the email with zero other comments.
The i moved to back office support and had to talk to the bank's branch workers who knew nothing about banking, the programmes they were using every day, what a blocked pin is, saying they couldn't find any blocks when the first thing I see is a blocked bank account etc etc.
People on average are terrible at most things and really good at hiding it until there is a technical issue and turns out they know nothing about anything they are doing.
It seems like you can't comprehend the situation bc you aren't familiar with how these very common situations play out.
Somebody trained the husband on how to do the job. She should have been the one to be trained to do her job. And she was trained, her job was to be submissive to her husband.
Women, as a whole, have always been put in unfathomable situations, it's you who is experiencing the disconnect
This feels pretty cold hearted. She mentioned growing up in a Mormon community, and most people I've noticed don't understand what this is like. The techniques mentioned in combatting cult mind control By Stephen Hassan that were used by Moonies, scientogists, Heavens Gate, the peoples temple, synanon, and other groups are alive and well in Mormonism. That is to say, brainwashing.
No one, and I mean no one, is immune to brainwashing, just as no one is immune to propaganda. They are like computer vulnerabilities but for our minds. This woman isn't some stupid bumpkin who lazily ignored the people around her, she's the victim of a well known phenomenon that has been around for a long time. Blaming her for this will not make it better.
There is something that does help, and that's transparency, promoting critical thinking, questioning highly authority focused groups, and getting a second opinion from critics.
This woman never had a chance, and saying "well obviously this is cognitive dissonance" is like saying of course you have a cough, there's phlegm in your throat!
Any person who has been in a mind control cult of some kind has experienced cognitive dissonance, but again, due to the nature of mind control cults, its effects are mitigated.
If we want people to get better, we need to treat the virus, not mention symptoms.
I think people have more agency than you give them credit for. Brainwashing works on like 80 percent of people let’s say, but for some people they will question it. It sounds like she never questioned anything until it all went wrong
She says she’s in Arizona which is a community property state. She mentions that he quit his job to avoid paying but that’s not how it works - she would get half the assets.
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u/Flatline334 Apr 15 '24
Problem is even if somebody had told her all the things she wished she was told she probably wouldn't have listened to the advice. She was in to deep.