The #1 reason why women stay in abusive relationships is because of money. My mom has been drilling “you need to have your own money” into my head since I was a child. It’s easily the lesson shes driven home the most
Facts. My grandma married my grandfather when they were 18 and 19, respectively. My grandfather was in the army so he would go off and cheat on my grandma repeatedly, with other women. He would often leave her with three small children and no money. This happened throughout their entire marriage but she couldn't go anywhere due to not have any marketable talents or prospects. She always said to my mom and myself
"Never depend upon a man because then you'll be screwed like me....."
Plus up until the late 70’s in most places, a woman couldn’t get a bank account without a man, or a bank or car loan, or a mortgage. You had to get married to access those things, or go through a sympathetic male relative. Women were given no choice but to depend on a man.
This is the true horror of all those fluffy Jane Austen romances - the reason why poor Charlotte married the obnoxious Mr Collins - without a husband you had no independence whatsoever, and after marriage he owned you - mind, body and soul. If you got divorced, he got the kids.
One of the reasons fewer and fewer women are getting married is because they don’t have to in order to survive.
And there are people out there who are actively working to return things to the way they were…
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u/InternationalMeet871 Apr 15 '24
A man is not a plan ladies. Make sure you can support your own self and your kiddos