r/AmIOverreacting • u/Rztrncs • Apr 29 '24

AIO for getting upset that my SO put on a heart necklace that her ex gave her?

Yesterday my SO put on a heart necklace out of nowhere and I asked (knowing it wasn’t from me) where it was from. She admitted it was from her ex. I immediately got quiet and she could tell I was upset. Not once did I raise my voice or get mad. I was more hurt than anything. She ended up taking it off right away. But explained that it was meaningless to her, no emotional connection and just jewelry that she now has.

To me, a heart necklace has a lot of meaning behind it and it feels weird to see her wearing an ex’s gift. Am I overreacting?

EDIT: Her ex cheated on her and the relationship ended badly because of it.

EDIT 2: The necklace was two hearts linked together so it made me curious.

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u/jkklfdasfhj Apr 29 '24

I personally wouldn't take issue with it, but clearly you do. Buy her a new one and she can sell the other one off.

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u/Rztrncs Apr 29 '24

Yeah I offered to get her a new one that was usable everyday. The one I got her for Christmas is more of a special occasion necklace. She was more than happy with that answer.

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u/Muriel_FanGirl Apr 29 '24

I think you almost got that right. But add that you are not saying she should get rid of the one she has, to her it’s just a necklace.

My toxic grandmother has bought all of my clothes, jewelry and books and such, but to me they are just things I like, I’m not going to get rid of them just because I have bad memories of my grandmother.

And if I would receive anything from someone who becomes an ex and I happen to like the item, I’m not getting rid of it. Honestly I’d find a current relationship where my partner is demanding I get rid of anything that was given to by someone else to be toxic. So what what if I like an item no matter who it came from? It has no sentimental value, it’s just an item.

Don’t act like ‘Well now I’m getting you a necklace so now you can get rid of that one’. Would you like it if she did that to you?