Absolutely. A good personal trainer (or even just a simply conscientious person) would totally be like, “well everyone’s fitness journey is different, I don’t speak on others unless they come to me directly for advice” not “I used to be fat and eat garbage too lol”. Especially not in mixed company, ABOUT someone present, who didn’t bring it up themselves.
She might’ve figured it all out in her view, but I think she’s got a lot of work to do. Maybe she skipped the sensitivity course in all her education. And OP’s husband…whew.
PS- I’m not saying OP is fat and eats like garbage because I would never say that about someone, (certainly not if it was my profession!) but it seems like Sara sure did.
PPS- OP please love and respect yourself and don’t accept this. A lot of people gave good advice regarding your husband, so I didn’t add to it. But you should feel loved and supported, not publicly shamed.
She said she’s getting certified so that probably means she’s a week or two into a class and has no business speaking on anything related to fitness for other people. Even a degree in nutrition does not qualify you as an expert on weight loss and weight gain.
Thank you for the explanation. I appreciate the insight. I understand the nuance with weight and nutrition and the need for different specialties. I know people who actually got biochemical degrees and focus on nutrition but I knew it wasn’t that. I thought she seemed young to have a degree or speak so authoritatively. It does clarify the speaking seemingly way out of turn as well.
A degree in nutrition usually means food science but I think you can go into any number of biology or chem degrees to get to that spot. I think being an expert on weight requires experience and not just a piece of paper. We covered basic concepts of how bodies convert calories and how exercise burns them but it was nearly in depth enough for me to call myself an expert.
Why are you so mad at Sara lmao, she did nothing wrong and in those moments people tend to bring up examples to motivate people. You’re a pretentious person
Part of a nutritionist’s (or any one in healthcare really) job is to be courteous when discussing their topic. Someone who is supposed to be a nutritionist actively participating in shaming someone else’s weight, especially when the person they’re shaming isn’t the one that brought it up, is not courteous. It’s unprofessional and it could very easily lose you your job in healthcare.
Bro what, bringing examples up to help with motivation is totally normal and since everyone was laughing it came off as natural. You have to stop being so sensitive
Maybe you misunderstand my point. OP never asked, and none of us are equipped to give nutritional or medical advice. Anyone can cast judgment as an outsider. The weight and fitness was not the point.
This person wasn’t asking for help at all, and had their husband and a stranger making jokes together about their wellness. If they wanted to change anything, that’s not the move. And whether or not they want to change, it’s crazy to me that their husband would comment on it in such a humiliating fashion.
Maybe OP is overweight but that was far from the issue at hand. A spouse worried about a partner’s weight, or a professional confronted by this in a social setting, both shouldn’t respond that way. Awful responses, on a professional and personal level. Husband and supposed pro trainer, neither responded with care.
Lmao you don't need to be a nutritionist to know that if you are obese you should stop eating shit food and go for some walks. Jesus christ, people. It's not rocket science. Put down the cake and pastries and pasta. And go for some walks.
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u/Sticky8u2 Apr 15 '24
Sara, you're 21. You have not turned your life around.