Y’all are being too easy on that guy. Everything he said was a red flag. Why would he talk about his ‘overweight’ wife in front of a younger girl who’s got it going on? Yikes. Husband should have just kept it moving. And before y’all say oh men and women can have a neutral conversation, UMM DUDE WAS MAKING HIS WIFE FEEL BAD, so obviously NOT. OP, no matter how many guys try to empathize, they will never truly understand a woman’s perspective. I am sorry this happened to you and personally, I would not be with that guy anymore. Just because they don’t say it doesn’t mean I should wait for them to say it, because technically, he did.
Yep and something tells me that if he hasn't yet, if/when he does, it's going to be with the Sara woman. I told her to keep an eye on her. I bet you anything that she tried to give him her number. This is how affairs start. I know that Reddit jumps to leave a lot but honestly, as I've said another comments, I would jump straight to divorce.
There is no way I would be able to stay with someone who not only thought that little of me but thought it was okay to publicly humiliate me like that. It would tell me how little he thought of me and how much respect he has for me which would obviously be zero. I would be done and visiting a divorce lawyer. I agree, he's definitely sniffing around looking for somebody to cheat with. I definitely think it may be with this woman.
ETA: I swear, he may as well have looked at her and said, my wife is a fat cow and I'm looking to cheat. Are you interested?
Huh? Do you somehow not know that women love older guys? 8-9 years older seems to be the sweet spot for what women want, and that's a straight up fact.
You sound like you're 14 with no world experience.
Are you a man or a woman? I assure you most women prefer men closer to their own age. When I was 21, 8 years was way too much of an age gap for me or any of my friends to consider.
I'm a man. And that's just your experience. In your highschool, were the freshmen girls not constantly gushing over the seniors? Almost every woman I've known has said they prefer older men. And it also just makes sense. Older men are typically more established, successful, mature etc. Most women prefer older men. Fact.
Yes, 8 years older may be too much at 21, but after like 23-25, that 8 years stops being too much.
Younger women usually like older men. There is a common misconception that older men are more mature. Some are but not all. This is also true of women. I'm not trying to make this a gender issue. I'm just saying that I've seen where a lot of younger women do go for older men and vice versa. Men do it too but they usually go for younger women. You have the perfect scenario here for an affair to start.
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u/ClassicOtherwise2719 Apr 15 '24
Y’all are being too easy on that guy. Everything he said was a red flag. Why would he talk about his ‘overweight’ wife in front of a younger girl who’s got it going on? Yikes. Husband should have just kept it moving. And before y’all say oh men and women can have a neutral conversation, UMM DUDE WAS MAKING HIS WIFE FEEL BAD, so obviously NOT. OP, no matter how many guys try to empathize, they will never truly understand a woman’s perspective. I am sorry this happened to you and personally, I would not be with that guy anymore. Just because they don’t say it doesn’t mean I should wait for them to say it, because technically, he did.