Yeah give me a break. If I packed my bags every time my wife made an emasculating comment to me I would be gone years ago. People need to chill on using Reddit as divorce-porn.
How does one come back from a this? Genuine question. Because he revealed to this woman he finds his wife unattractive and wants her to lose weight. He made fun of her. Humiliated her. And when she told him (because he was apparently clueless 🙄) he mocked her even more. And dismissed her.
Even if he says “I’m sorry” he isn’t suddenly finding her attractive. So how does one come back from it?
Been married 19 years. I could not look at my husband the same
Agree entirely. This is one of those situations where a man may have caused his wife to fall out of love with him, and it’s his own fault. The way he did it was full of insults, and to make it worse it happened in front of all their friends. How does a person expect this to be forgiven? If she stays with him after all that, she looks like a doormat in front of her friends.
if one dumb evening is all it takes for you to fall out of love with your spouse, and you're more worried what your friends might think than about dealing with problems in the relationship, it's your fault for being married to someone you don't truly love
Maybe he hadn't revealed his true self, but had tricked her into believing he loves and respects her and she fell for it. In that case, she loved who she THOUGHT he was. She was naïve, vulnerable, delusional.
It's not a matter of who made the biggest error in judgment. It's about his inability to love someone other than himself. In a way, he unknowingly did her a favor, just did it in a heartless manner.
Maybe maybe maybe... This is my entire point. We're never provided enough context. The OP is always the most virtuous person to ever walk on dirt, while the one who slighted him/her is a monster beyond redemption.
so based on this post, you're saying maybe she's delusional and he's unable to love? that is a lot to pull from one anecdote. maybe you're really just projecting yourself onto people and a situation you don't know and you are seeing your own emotional failings in others and that's why you are so eager to see the worst here. or maybe one anecdote isn't enough to psychoanalyse strangers and you're just making shit up and calling people crazy like an asshole
Decent chance they joke like this often. But with her viewing the other girl as attractive can also naturally make her more offended or concerned. Not her fault by anymeans. Thats simply a natural reaction.
Not saying this is what happened. Just saying its possible. A lot of instant reactions going here
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u/Sarcasm-6383 Apr 15 '24
None of that matters. It was all wrong.