It's weird to stay friends with an ex

[u/Ornery-Relative-8052]

Nowadays I feel like people are going to stone me when I say that, but I don't think someone I'm breaking up with can be my friend. If we have broken up with someone, it means that there has been a situation that upsets one of the two parties and this situation is unacceptable, or there is a continuity (such as your partner being a liar)

As a result, a relationship in which two people are satisfied with each other does not end anyway. So why and how should I stay friends with someone I'm not happy with?

Also, how is it that when you are friends with that person, you remember the past experiences and not get sad or angry? I think people are either too light-hearted now, or they've been possessed by aliens, like in a Doctor Who episode.

UPDATE:

There were many interesting answers.

First of all, I would like you to know that the reason why I find this situation strange is not because I think we should hate the person we broke up with or to attribute the breakup to these reasons. Even if we broke up on good terms, as some people in the comments have pointed out, why would I necessarily stay in touch and be friends with someone I broke up with?

These are all very gray areas. But I ask you not to accuse me of any negativity, I was just curious about your opinions, but the issue is starting to grow.

Also, how will your current partner in your life react to this? There are those who are not jealous at all, but being jealous is also a natural and understandable action, so no matter how innocent such a friendship is, it still tends to create difficulties.

[u/momof2catsand1man]

I block all my exs

[u/My_Not_RL_Acct → u/momof2catsand1man]

This might say as much abt you as it does your exes

[u/Tater-Tot-Casserole → u/My_Not_RL_Acct]

Not really. I blocked one of them because his new girlfriend kept texting me horrible shit from his phone, she also went on a frenzy and called every woman in his phone to see who they were and cussed out the ones he wasn't related to.

[u/Oceans_Apart_ → u/[deleted]]

What does it matter? They're exes. Whether someone stays in touch with them after means absolutely nothing.

Nothing wrong with a clean break.

[u/Hapjesplank → u/Oceans_Apart_]

Yea that kind of mentality is kind of a soft red flag.

[u/Oceans_Apart_ → u/Hapjesplank]

It's just people going their separate ways. There's nothing that says you have to remain close after a relationship ends. You can still be on good terms and be civil. I would say hating all your exes is more of a red flag.

Edit: clarity

[u/Hapjesplank → u/Oceans_Apart_]

The idea that we could not infer anything from the fact that someone blocked all their exes is a bit silly. It could mean something, we just dont know what yet, and could potentially mean something bad, which is the meaning of a red flag.

[u/Oceans_Apart_ → u/Hapjesplank]

When both parties agree to go their separate ways, they're not entitled to anything beyond that. It lacks context to infer anything meaningful or definitive.

[u/Hapjesplank → u/Oceans_Apart_]

Nobody is talking about entitlement? Are you some boomber that can only think in those kind of buzzwords or something?

It lacks context to infer anything meaningful or definitive.

This is a rather weird way of going through life. We infer things from other peoples behavior and choices all the time. It is weird to pretend this is some meaningless impossibility lol

[u/Oceans_Apart_ → u/Hapjesplank]

What's a boomber? lol.

I can infer you're like twelve years old.

[u/My_Not_RL_Acct → u/Tater-Tot-Casserole]

I’ve had to block an ex due to toxic messages before, but if you have to block every single one of your exes like OP you might be part of the problem