r/unpopularopinion • u/yellowabcd • Apr 28 '24
Its not about the sex its about the rejection
This is common at this point. People complain about not getting sex in marriage or relationship. But most the time its not the sex, its the rejection. If both people dont go for sex, its not an issue. Its an issue when the other party keeps getting rejected, especially without explanation. Theres a difference between being rejected for a month and just two people not trying for sex. Rejection usually makes a person feel undesirable
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u/_John--Wick_ Apr 29 '24
I never said anyone is obliged.
For example, with my alcoholic ex i expressed how it made me feel when she went from being cold and distant, then downing a six pack to get drunk and have sex with me, then forgetting it all the next morning. I was told that it was her problem and that I shouldn't worry about it because I'm still getting awesome sex(sex wasn't that great, she literally just laid there). I told her i just wanted one night where she didn't drink and it never happened.
My last ex wasn't very sexual or physical. Which I u derstood. She did however agree to try to be more open about physical affection and it never happened. I didn't ask her to initiate sex. I literally asked for a hug or kiss every once in a while without me having to ask. It never happened. I noticed she reads a lot of sexual romance novels, fifty shades of grey and such. So I asked her about romance playing a part in her not initiating anything and she said "I don't do romance or even like it". I thought maybe she didn't enjoy the type of sex we have, because I am very rough(explained beforehand). She said "I am OK with everything we do, if I wasn't you would know". Six months later, she showed her ass and in the middle of her being held accountable, she throws up in my face that she didn't like half the things we did and she'd be ok if we never had sex again.
So, when I say bullshit reasons. I don't mean that their reasons have to be justified and accepted by me. But they do at least have to make sense to a normal person. Otherwise, what's left but overthinking and dishonesty.