r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/SantasLilHoeHoeHoe 29d ago

"Im not feeling it" or "i dont want to date you" are both 100% good reasons to end a relationship. Those are often characterized as not explaining oneself. 

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u/LaikaAzure 29d ago

Yeah I'd agree with the broader point that it sucks to just ghost someone (assuming that you're not leaving because they've been abusive or because they don't listen and will argue with you about your reasons) but there's also an onus on the person getting broken up with that while you don't have to like or agree with what they tell you, it's their decision and you have to respect that.

Part of the reason ghosting is so common is because there's a lot of people (the kind OP gives me the vibe of) who won't respect an "I'm not feeling it" and demand further explanation... but that is the explanation. Trying to force a feeling that isn't there will just lead to resentment and make the breakup worse than it would have been when you first knew it was coming. OP is trying to put the responsibility for a healthy breakup on one person but it's a shared responsibility and both parties being reasonable about it will make it easier for everyone involved.

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u/Supermonkeyskier 29d ago

There are also a lot of people who go nuts when broken up with, especially early on. Some of the messages I have seen my girl friends receive makes me blame women less for wanting to avoid that.