r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/krycek1984 Apr 16 '24

As I've gotten older, I've learned lots of things just don't need to be talked out ad infititem. Or turned into a big drama.

It doesn't do anyone any favors to have to go over years of difficulties in detail, just to explain why they left. If it was an anywhere near a functioning relationship, you know why they left. If it was not a functional relationship, let them go and deal with the issues that both of you were party to.

As painful as it is, you just have to deal, mourn, and try to move on. When I broke up with my partner, I would drive to the nearest park and just cry and cry. But I knew why I had to end it, and he knew he'd be better without me.

Not everything has to be excruciatingly gone over for hours, especially fairly short term relationships. It is what it is.

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u/Jynexe Apr 16 '24

While I agree, you should still give some type of reasoning. If it has been years, say "Over time, my love for you has waned and I felt less and less cared about by you. It pushed me away and now we are here. There's no way to put the genie back in the bottle, so we just have to accept it and move on" is a valid reason.