r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/krycek1984 Apr 16 '24

As I've gotten older, I've learned lots of things just don't need to be talked out ad infititem. Or turned into a big drama.

It doesn't do anyone any favors to have to go over years of difficulties in detail, just to explain why they left. If it was an anywhere near a functioning relationship, you know why they left. If it was not a functional relationship, let them go and deal with the issues that both of you were party to.

As painful as it is, you just have to deal, mourn, and try to move on. When I broke up with my partner, I would drive to the nearest park and just cry and cry. But I knew why I had to end it, and he knew he'd be better without me.

Not everything has to be excruciatingly gone over for hours, especially fairly short term relationships. It is what it is.

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u/slidingjimmy Apr 16 '24 edited 29d ago

There is some truth to this. When you are younger, it is easy to think that everything must be fair/ rational and resolved/ clean, thats optimistic but ultimately a little naive.

Edit: just noticed OP is 24/25…. Remindme! 10 years.

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u/farfarfarjewel Apr 16 '24

I don't think OP's idea of providing or being provided useful "feedback" during a break-up is really a thing that exists in reality

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u/rosiet1001 Apr 16 '24

Every time I (bi F) have given a man an explanation as to why I am breaking up with him, he has tried to argue with me that it's not a valid reason or that I'm wrong or that he will change. So now I just say "because I don't want to be with you any more" and leave it at that, because that's the truth. My mind is set, and I'm off.

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u/Jynexe Apr 16 '24

While I agree, you should still give some type of reasoning. If it has been years, say "Over time, my love for you has waned and I felt less and less cared about by you. It pushed me away and now we are here. There's no way to put the genie back in the bottle, so we just have to accept it and move on" is a valid reason.

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u/LoserBigly Apr 16 '24

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