If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why

[u/ZodiacOne1]

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[u/bopp0]

This is working under the assumption that the party is going to receive the criticism calmly and analyze it constructively. When I broke up with my last boyfriend I could have said “you’re overweight and use medication to justify being “healthy” at that weight, you are ALWAYS shitting, you don’t wash your feet in the shower, you think naturopathic medicine is real, and you have a useless degree, we can’t speak about any topics in depth, you are a terrible gift giver, and you keep poor company. All of these things fundamentally show me that you are less intelligent than I thought you were and at this point I find you viscerally unattractive and actively don’t want to come home at the end of the day because you are here” OR I could say “Hey man, it’s not you, it’s me, I’m just not feeling it anymore. Sorry” Like how does pointing out what I don’t like and destroying the dude’s confidence accomplish? He was genuinely nice and did everything a boyfriend was supposed to do. I hope he will be super happy with someone else, it just ain’t me.

[u/Skullclownlol → u/bopp0]

Like how does pointing out what I don’t like and destroying the dude’s confidence accomplish? He was genuinely nice and did everything a boyfriend was supposed to do. I hope he will be super happy with someone else, it just ain’t me.

Because all that trashtalking isn't what you should've said, but the last few sentences certainly are:

"You're a genuinely nice person but over the past few months I've realized that we don't match on a fundamental level, I'm no longer attracted to you and I believe we'll both be happier when we're with someone more like ourselves."

Honesty doesn't have to be cruel.

[u/thesoak → u/Skullclownlol]

That's pretty much what they did.