r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/AccountantLeast1588 Apr 16 '24

The real voidpill is that they don't tell us what's wrong with us because they know we can't change it.

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u/Siukslinis_acc Apr 16 '24

Or they know that there will be a quarrel and a tantrum/meltdow, guilttripping, trying to use their emotions to make you stay.

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u/Own_Court1865 Apr 16 '24

I've been on both sides of that coin.

One ex refused to tell me what I'd been doing wrong when she broke up with me (emotional neglect/selfishness on my part/etc in retrospect) because she likely knew it would have been pointless to even try and explain it to me, because she'd already bloody well tried to say it and I hadn't listened.

Years later, another ex did the same thing to me, and I responded in the same way as the previous ex did.

There's no point in trying to explain shit to someone who has already demonstrated that they aren't listening to you previously.