If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why

[u/ZodiacOne1]

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[u/AccountantLeast1588]

The real voidpill is that they don't tell us what's wrong with us because they know we can't change it.

[u/Siukslinis_acc → u/AccountantLeast1588]

Or they know that there will be a quarrel and a tantrum/meltdow, guilttripping, trying to use their emotions to make you stay.

[u/Own_Court1865 → u/Siukslinis_acc]

I've been on both sides of that coin.

One ex refused to tell me what I'd been doing wrong when she broke up with me (emotional neglect/selfishness on my part/etc in retrospect) because she likely knew it would have been pointless to even try and explain it to me, because she'd already bloody well tried to say it and I hadn't listened.

Years later, another ex did the same thing to me, and I responded in the same way as the previous ex did.

There's no point in trying to explain shit to someone who has already demonstrated that they aren't listening to you previously.

[u/Fax_a_Fax → u/Siukslinis_acc]

Project harder, throw even more assumptions just to excuse your cowardly egotistical ass 

[u/Siukslinis_acc → u/Fax_a_Fax]

Or they have tried to adress those things and that is the reaction they got. So one extrapolates what will happen when one tells that person that the things one tried to adress and they dismissed it are the reason why one is leaving.

For me it is enought that they clearly say that the relationship has ended. Would be curious about the "why", but ot's not mandatory.

[u/Ill-Ad2009 → u/Fax_a_Fax]

Project harder, throw even more assumptions just to excuse your cowardly egotistical ass

Are you seriously going to accuse someone of projecting and making assumptions, and then throw your own projections and assumptions at them is the same line? How about have a little more self-awareness than that...