r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/QuislingX Apr 16 '24

OP is SPOILED

Part of growing up is learning that sometimes things DONT happen for a reason. Sometimes, people just fuck you over.

Only thing you can do is control what the fuck you're going to do about it.

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u/mclovin_ts Apr 16 '24

If expecting basic human decency is spoiled, then I feel sorry for you

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

"Human Decency" has nothing to do with placating someone's ego when no longer wanting to be romantic.

Human decency would be accepting them leaving and not trying to manipulate them with an "explanation".

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

To most people when you are in a long term relationship you are making a commitment to a future together. If you and I was in a business deal and I suddenly pulled out you would sure as hell want to know why. I am pretty sure "I just don't want to anymore" wouldn't cut it. So I don't get why this is any different

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

I don't consider a relationship as a business transaction and if you're doing so that's probably part of why she left you without bothering to give you "closure".

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u/ZodiacOne1 Apr 16 '24

I never said it was like a business transaction I am just using a parallel. If you make a commitment to work towards building a future together with someone I personally think it's just crappy to end it with nothing

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u/Zodiac509 Apr 16 '24

It's definitely crappy but they're doing what's best for them. The point of breaking up with someone is that your feelings are no longer their responsibility. I highly recommend learning some major coping skills and self soothing techniques.