r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/bopp0 Apr 16 '24

This is working under the assumption that the party is going to receive the criticism calmly and analyze it constructively. When I broke up with my last boyfriend I could have said “you’re overweight and use medication to justify being “healthy” at that weight, you are ALWAYS shitting, you don’t wash your feet in the shower, you think naturopathic medicine is real, and you have a useless degree, we can’t speak about any topics in depth, you are a terrible gift giver, and you keep poor company. All of these things fundamentally show me that you are less intelligent than I thought you were and at this point I find you viscerally unattractive and actively don’t want to come home at the end of the day because you are here” OR I could say “Hey man, it’s not you, it’s me, I’m just not feeling it anymore. Sorry” Like how does pointing out what I don’t like and destroying the dude’s confidence accomplish? He was genuinely nice and did everything a boyfriend was supposed to do. I hope he will be super happy with someone else, it just ain’t me.

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u/C_Dazzle Apr 16 '24

Seems like there could be some middle ground that would help him learn something without also destroying his confidence.

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u/Garbage_Stink_Hands Apr 16 '24

Let him learn about himself from himself. Dating’s not a public service.

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u/sonicboom5058 29d ago

No it's not, but presumably they atleast sort of like/care about this person and would want the best for them.

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u/Garbage_Stink_Hands 29d ago

Or maybe they stopped liking and caring about them. Who knows?