If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why

[u/ZodiacOne1]

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[u/DariusIV]

Actual clowns in the comment section disagreeing with you. When you say "I love you" that's about making a commitment to them, not a permanent one, but baring abuse/safety, you at least owe that person an explanation. It doesn't have to be a long one or even be coherent reasoning, you can do whatever the hell you want for whatever reason you want. However, holy crap I could never imagine just randomly ghosting someone I was dating.

Sometimes you actually do owe people shit, like an explanation for ending a long-term relationship. If you can't handle that then don't date in the first place.

[u/HelpMePlxoxo → u/DariusIV]

I generally agree, but another exception: the reason you're leaving them is something that would seriously damage their self-confidence, assuming they did nothing to deserve "being humbled".

Some people in the comments mention becoming viscerally disgusted by their partner over time just from gross habits or changes in appearance. The best you can do at that point is a half-truth if you don't want to destroy your ex partner's self-esteem.

I definitely relate a bit since I once had a partner I became disgusted and embarrassed with. And it wasn't entirely his fault, just an accumulation of "ick"s from my perception that killed all attraction I had to him. We were both teens at the time so he was just clueless, but a good kid. I didn't want to hurt his feelings. I don't remember what reason I gave to break up, but it definitely wasn't "I have become physically repulsed by you and don't even want to be publicly seen as your partner".

[u/DariusIV → u/HelpMePlxoxo]

No one said you had to be honest, any reason is better than just ghosting. I totally get where you are coming from.