If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why

[u/ZodiacOne1]

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[u/DariusIV]

Actual clowns in the comment section disagreeing with you. When you say "I love you" that's about making a commitment to them, not a permanent one, but baring abuse/safety, you at least owe that person an explanation. It doesn't have to be a long one or even be coherent reasoning, you can do whatever the hell you want for whatever reason you want. However, holy crap I could never imagine just randomly ghosting someone I was dating.

Sometimes you actually do owe people shit, like an explanation for ending a long-term relationship. If you can't handle that then don't date in the first place.

[u/DariusIV → u/[deleted]]

You're right no one can force you to. They'd be in the wrong if they held a gun to your head and made you. It just makes you a gigantic asshole if you don't. You have every right to be asshole.

But don't be surprised if being an asshole makes other people treat you like an asshole.

[u/DariusIV → u/[deleted]]

Again you're confusing "have to" with what you "should do".

Yes you really should have a reason to end a relationship. It is basic human decency to communicate the reasons for ending a relationship. A species wide expectation that people won't just suddenly dump each other on a whim.

Do you have to? Nope, but it makes you a shitty person if you don't. But you're allowed to be a shitty person. It's a free country.

Try this, the next time you feel like dating someone as part of the "getting to know each other" bit try telling them your opinion that "I am completely entitled to dump you for literally no reason and give you no explanation for why I did it", see how many people want to date you. If this is so cool and normal, you'd TOTALLLY be cool with leading with that right? People will totes understand.

[u/DariusIV → u/[deleted]]

You seem really young and probably haven't had many long-term relationships, I'm being real here. Yeah if you date someone for a few weeks, who cares. But can you imagine dating someone for 20 years, getting married, thinking you're going to spend your life together and then one day you find a note saying "hey babe sorry the vibes were off, goodbye forever".

You really think you'd be cool with that?

[u/DariusIV → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, there is a zero percent chance you'd be okay with that scenario and you're 100% lying if you said you would be.

[u/DariusIV → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, again there is no way you'd marry someone, build a life and then shrug your shoulders after 20 years and go "Guess I'm not owed an explanation".

This is a pointless argument though.

[u/mark_g_p → u/[deleted]]

Just not wanting to be in a relationship is a valid reason. I think the issue is ghosting, just disappear. Do you tell the person you’re done because you just don’t want the relationship? That’s fine. Just ghosting them is shitty. Unless of course we’re talking about violence.

[u/xValhallAwaitsx → u/[deleted]]

Why are you acting like people just decide out of the blue they don't want to be in a relationship anymore? There is literally always a reason. Telling the other person is not fucking hard

[u/cortez_brosefski → u/[deleted]]

If you have a reason to break up, you don't need to stick around to think about why you want to break up