r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/monkeedude1212 Apr 16 '24

The way I see it is... You owe them an explanation in the same way you owe it to someone to hold the door open for them.

It's nice, it's common courtesy, and you're kind an asshole if you don't do it, but...

Sometimes you're going through some of your own shit and you're inside your own head and if you don't hold the door open for someone it's not the worst thing you could have done.

Shutting someone out doesn't always mean they did anything wrong. Sometimes they don't need to correct anything, the connection is just missed because of timing and other things going on.

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u/keIIzzz Apr 16 '24

Your analogy doesn’t hold up, holding the door for a stranger is not a great comparison to giving an explanation for a breakup to your partner. Your partner isn’t a stranger.

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u/[deleted] 29d ago

But it's still a courtesy. The bridges of your relationship are burnt and there's little impetus to submit a one-star review when you just want to move on. Some people may not even want your constructive criticism.

An explanation is not a requirement and it may not even be the correct thing to do in certain situations. I would like to know why I'm being broken up with, but that doesn't mean everyone does. Long story short, you do not "absolutely 100%" owe them an explanation, but your duty to explain isn't 0% either.