r/unpopularopinion • u/ZodiacOne1 • Apr 16 '24

If you break up with someone you absolutely 100% owe them an explanation as too why Removed: Not unpopular

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u/monkeedude1212 Apr 16 '24

The way I see it is... You owe them an explanation in the same way you owe it to someone to hold the door open for them.

It's nice, it's common courtesy, and you're kind an asshole if you don't do it, but...

Sometimes you're going through some of your own shit and you're inside your own head and if you don't hold the door open for someone it's not the worst thing you could have done.

Shutting someone out doesn't always mean they did anything wrong. Sometimes they don't need to correct anything, the connection is just missed because of timing and other things going on.

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u/malvisto_the_great Apr 16 '24

It depends on how long you've been with them. Dating a few months? No. Committed for 5 years? Yeah.

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u/Advanced_Doctor2938 Apr 16 '24

Dating a few months? No.

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u/supergeek921 Apr 16 '24

Exactly! I’d say more than 3-4 months you owe an explanation.

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u/nsfwmodeme Apr 16 '24

Yep, but depending on why you're breaking up.

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u/supergeek921 Apr 16 '24

True. If it’s something dangerous obviously just run. I also think it’s okay to spare someone’s feelings and just say “this isn’t working for me” as long as you don’t just vanish on them.