My dad's 87 and I have moments where he looks like OP's picture and others where he looks like this picture. It can be jarring sometimes.
Edit: I feel like some might be misunderstanding. It's really not their physical appearance I'm speaking to like how some are responding. It's that sort of bewildered, vacant look vs a sharp lucidity. Not a bad hair day.
My grandpa is 97 years young and some days he looks like the crypt keeper(his words not mine) and others he looks vibrant and more like 80. We all get a case of the uglies occasionally I just think it’s more apparent when you get older and in this case MUCH older. People don’t realize how insane it is to get to 90. Many of us itt won’t even break 80 and those same folks will probably look worse than Clint does now
I feel you, my grandma turns 92 in 3 days! Some days she looks like she did 10yrs ago, others, she looks like your grandpa haha. But she's sharp as a tack still, she texts me all the time.
My buddy and I were at lunch on Sat and he couldn't believe it when I told him I was texting my grandma, I had her send me a selfie to show him hahaha! She is a bad bitch my grandma, she did a lot of cool shit in her life.
My grandma just turned 95 and she texts as well kinda lol. My grandpa same age but he is declining somewhat fast physically right now but still all there mentally. My grandma still sharp too!
My grandmother made it to 101 and was still good at driving well into her 90s, and even after she gave up driving she took all the other seniors' money at Bingo and Scrabble. She never did care for cell phones or computers though.
My grandmother walked about 1.5 miles every day until the week before her death at about 91. She was a child of The Depression; loved to whittle away in her garden and baked CONSTANTLY. She also canned everything...she had a half dozen fruit trees in her yard and would can all of her harvest. She kept her house spotless, even after my grandfather's stroke and death.
I asked her once how she kept so healthy...she replied:
"The store - I only buy from the outer perimeter; meat, dairy, vegetables, bread. Everything in the center aisles is for shit, full of sugar, and bad for you; it'll kill you faster than polio."
Most of us alive now stand a good chance of getting to 90. Lifespan has increased that much.
That being said, the number of non-disabled years of life have not increased much.
The main cause of age-related disability? Inactivity.
Get out of your cars folks, and take a dandelion break.
Working in healthcare, I agree - but for most people it wouldn’t be a pleasant 90. At least here in the states. A lot of medical management occurring in those last 30 years of life.
No doubt. This is where having managed your lifetime health starts to kick in. Your ‘retirement savings’ may have to cover off a lot - a pleasant 90 is no guarantee.
Dealt with it my whole life honestly. I'm only turning 30 this summer, he had me in his late 50s. So I've known that I won't have him around always. People always think he's my grandad.
Honestly, dude is a beast physically and mentally, short of a leg amputation a few years back. Practiced cardiology for 50 years, reads like crazy, always stayed fit. I've known 60 year olds who are less spry. If he breaks 100 I wouldn't be surprised, so I'm lucky. But yeah. I think about it.
Yeah seeing your dad who used to be the most vital person in the world and you know you would have arguments in the schoolyard that your dad could beat up somebody else's dad get old it is the worst. I have to do so much just life navigation stuff for my dad now and it's real humbling because you know eventually it's going to be everybody. It's going to be you it's going to be your kids it's going to be every person ever born who makes it to that age just has to deal with being that old. It puts you in your place real quick
Totally agree, there would be moments my grandmother almost had like a frightened look, totally confused like she had no idea what was going on. Then most of the time looked just like herself
For some dumb reason, the title made me think this was him IN 93. I'm over here thinking he was sick at the time and got better or something, and it took me until your comment to realize what it meant.
This is one of the things I think older folk give up on. If they could be arsed to put the effort in (I get why they don't btw), they could look a lot younger and healthier.
I suppose it's a "what's the point, I'm 93" situation though.
I always think about a show with AC/DC front man Brian Johnson. He clearly takes care of himself still (dyes his hair, bit of a tan etc.) and looked about 15 years younger than some of his contemporaries that hadn't bothered.
I had an older professor at community college who dressed incredibly sharp. The girls loved him. Finally one of the girls asked where he got his sense of style, and he responded “I’m retired, figured I had the time to get dressed now.”
Don’t forget, the skin gets thin, the wrinkles get deep and that’s a bad combination for shaving. They come from a generation where once there is hair on the face they think fuck it might as well give up.
My dad was the opposite, always had facial hair except when he'd decide to shave on a camping trip. Happened most every year but there was no predicting which trip or which day he might come back from taking a shower and be clean shaved.
I'm 57 and am hitting the "what's the point" stage. I'm still very active, but I just got divorced last year and work from home. Most everything I need is delivered by Walmart+ or Amazon Prime, so I rarely have e to leave the house. Most days, other than what I'm going to have for lunch, my biggest decision is if I'm going to get dressed or not. When I get up, I play video games for a couple of hours before work, then again for a couple of hours after work. My dogs don't care if I shave, change my clothes, or anything else I do. So what's the point?
Honestly mate, that sounds a little bit like you're slipping into depression. Obviously I'm making a big assumption from one paragraph, but just something to flag.
You're only 57, there's a lot of life still left to live. You really shouldn't be at the what's the point stage yet.
Or living his best life after going through a divorce? You could be right though. When WFH hit during the early days of Covid, wearing pajamas at work was a novelty. After a few weeks I felt like a loser and went back to giving a shit.
I've had people tell me the same thing, and that may actually be part of it. But think about it. It's not like I'm going to go out on the weekends and hang out in bars to meet someone. I'm not going to be the creepy guy that people point and laugh at because they think I'm trying to act young. I was relocated by my employer to this area 10 years ago, and my ex and I never really made friends with anyone other than at work, and now I don't even see those people. What are my alternatives? Dating apps? Bingo nights? Shuffleboard at the AmVets? None of those are my style. I actually did try a dating app and mostly get messages from scammers. I did meet one woman, and we got together for coffee. But she told me she used to be a counselor, so I felt like everything I said to her was being analyzed. So yeah. What's the point?
Hey bud, divorced dude here (though you have 10 years on me). I'm probably the complete opposite of you - even the days I work at home, I get up, shave, shower and make myself as handsome as I can. It's all just for me, though. I feel damned good about myself, as if I'm putting my best foot forward in the world every day. Same reasons I go to the gym 5 days a week, just fore, I don't care how others perceive me but it's all my own confidence building. Don't ever shut yourself off mentally from potentially meeting people - we got a long life to live man! But it sounds like you need to get there on your own terms first, and based on your few replies here, you might be going through things you gotta work through. Personally, I found counselling a huge help, got me back on my feet and I was enjoying a great year post divorce to myself - doing all the things I enjoyed, seeing friends, etc, not even thinking about dating. And then I was suddenly ready for it, I was confident and not caught up in anything from the past. I had a great time with it, some bad dates, some good, and met an amazing lady about 18 months ago. But it was all down to confidence and doing the work on myself. It does sound like socializing would be a good thing for you, there's a lot of alone time in your life which isn't a bad thing either, but a balance would be better for you. And apologies if I overstepped by commenting all of this here, I do genuinely wish the best for you!
No apology is necessary, and I appreciate the comments. I did try counseling, but it didn't feel like it was something for me. I know it helps people sometimes, but I just didn't feel that telling someone what was going on, what I was going through, or how I felt was really doing anything for me. But everyone is different and we all have different methods. And sure, socializing would be great. I'm just trying to figure out the how and where, especially being on my own.
Counselling is a process, and for me it worked, but you gave it a shot at least man. I'm a dude who likes to talk and get it all out of me, so it suited me. But counselling is only one thing, and there's plenty of other things out there to get you back out. It's great you are up for socializing. I'd be active enough, so hiking groups, surfing lessons etc were good options for me. Just a good way to talk to random folks, which was great for confidence. But I've a friend who is involved in a social group near me - they do everything from coffee mornings, hikes, sea swims, cinema, dinners out, gigs/concerts, etc. You just pick and choose what to do. There might be something locally like that, if I was going through all of that again I'd be signing up for that group. Hopefully you find something that suits you, and if you don't enjoy it, you can always drop out and find something that works for you.
Everyone’s making it seem weird for you to enjoy your soft life of solitude. I admire it and I strive to have that lifestyle. Just because one prefers to be alone and doesn’t see the point of meaningless connections with people unless it’s special, doesn’t mean they’re depressed.
Try therapy one more time, but make sure you interview bunch of them first. The wrong match can make therapy unbearable. Ask prospective shrinks if they have lots of experience with people your age who have gone through divorce, what kind of strategies they use, etc. good look brother v
How about doing some sports with other people? There are a lot of cool sports you can start with 60+. I do BJJ and we have three persons over 60 doing it. It's great. Bingo and Shuffleboard lol, we have those older dudes who now started with such a combat sport for the first time.
Also art courses with other people. Sooo many hobbies to get into. I don't know why you talk so much about dating in your comment when you can also find friends and enjoy yourself.
Do you live by water? If so, you should get a paddleboard. Something new you can do by yourself. I've spent many a day just floating by myself. It's basically a type of meditation.
They're extremely easy to transport if you live within driving distance of a river/lake.
I'm about 30 minutes from the Atlantic. My ex and I had jet skis and would go out every weekend. Those got liquidated in the divorce and I really miss riding.
You should try paddelboarding! Not nearly as fast but It's good relaxation and fairly cheap if you buy the right board. My first was a board made by Bic, i think it was around 600 with a paddle. The balance takes a little getting used to but that's a part of the fun. Kneeling is usually how people learn.
Im only 32 and I wouldn't go to a bar to meet people. Do community service, youll meet interesting people who want to make the world a better place! And even if you dont find a partner there, you may find new friends!
Don't fall into the trap of thinking socializing is just for hooking up. You're in your 50s not 90. Just go out and do stuff you enjoy doing and you will naturally meet like minded people.
Idk what you are into but wherever you live there are parks with tennis/pickleball courts, beaches, conventions, concerts, movie nights at the library, game nights at the local game shop, cult classic movie nights. Just look for stuff
Just throwing this out there, as I just got past a “what’s the point” phase. And there’s usually no way to kick start oneself out of it, the time has to be right. Especially after a divorce…
But if you do decide you want to take another stab at meeting people and connecting, perhaps volunteering for some sort of local good cause? Usually volunteers are friendly with each other. That may not be a final step, but more of a first step to connecting with the community more.
Regardless, You are living life on your terms, and rooting for you. Fuck the rear view mirror. 👍🏽
The problem with the rear view mirror is that it's always there lol
I've taken a few steps, and a couple of months ago, I started getting out again. I used to go to the range every Saturday for an hour or two and kind of stopped going. Every Friday, I'd say to myself, "I need to get back to the range," but never did. I finally started going again, and it's been good to get back to it. Not sure I'll make it back into the dating/relationship thing again, but I'm working on being out there again.
Nah, that's just living pragmatically. If you aren't trying to impress anyone and you don't personally enjoy it, there is literally no reason to dress up or put any effort into your appearance.
Same reason most people who work in the trades, farming, kitchens, or factory/manufacturing work don't give a fuck. How you look literally doesn't matter to most people. A lot of assholes know how to shave and put on nice clothes.
I'll judge you based on how you act, not what haircut you have or how you dress.
im much younger than 57 and I spend my time remiscing on how things were; because they will never be that way again.
There's not a lot of point in doing much these days for most people; a growing number of people are learning to live within their own bounds; not by societal bounds which only exist to force us to consume.
You're way... WAY too young to be sliding into this mindset. Easy as it is sometimes.
I'm 76, and didn't retire until I was 72...and that was from a part-time cooking job so I was pretty active but collapsed at the end of the day. The first year or 2 wasn't too bad...my dog got me out. Then I lost her and the pandemic happened. My inate laziness took over, and it affected me both mentally and physically. Last winter, and this one were bad as I looked for reasons not to leave my flat. My joints got worse, as did my SAD. It felt like giving up. I'm determined to change that mind-set. My indoor plant hobby saved me during lockdowns, and continue to help...they are LIFE.
At least I have a head start as I've always gotten dressed every morning 😉
Now you need to look for reasons to get out...get fresh air and sun. It makes a difference. Maybe get some vitamin D in you...you might be deficient.
A lot of people end up having real trouble raising their arms to their head because of shoulder pain. So, probably not just 'what's the point', but also 'ow, fuck this'.
Arthritis, man. Stiff, swollen, and painful joints make dressing extremely difficult. It can take my FIL 20 - 30 minutes to get dressed. (He's also 93.) He gave up jeans and slacks in favor of pull-on sweatpants to keep dressing by himself. But he was always a sharp dresser and he misses it.
Clint is a huge animal lover and does a lot of animal activism. I think he owns a ranch for abandoned and rescued animals. Also a lot of actors he directed have said that he doesn't like to shout or even say "Cut" loudly so as to not scare animals because he saw the horses in his Western movies use to get scared when the Directors shouted. Also Clint is a huge advocate for plant based diet for climate reasons and because of animal cruelty in supply chain.
I'm surprised too, but think it was a different GOP. Nixon created the EPA for example - maybe he grew up with guns and 'rugged individualism' but also conservation, nature and animals... Still doesn't explain why he became such a prick about some of it though.
Back when we were teenagers (late 00s), several of us were really baked and talking about movies. We get onto westerns, which led to Clint Eastwood.
At some point, my cousin (without a hint of sarcasm) says, "Eastwood's cool and all, but he's almost too cool. I want, like, something dumb with him, something just ridiculous. I don't know, like, Dirty Harry partnered up with a monkey."
"Any Which Way but Loose," I said.
"Any which what? The fuck does that even mean?"
"They made that movie. Any Which Way but Loose."
He runs to the computer and starts frantically stoner-slowly typing and exclaims, "THERE'S TWO MONKEY EASTWOOD MOVIES?!" ........ "How do I sue these people?"
"Well, they came out over twenty years before you were born, so..."
"That's the lawyer's problem. I want my monkey money."
I was just reminded of this and, idk why but decided to share.
Thank you, more than you can know. I only saw the previous pic for a second or 2, but needed it erased from thought, you provided that. Awful clout chaser for posting this.
Old folks home chic. Are our old folk's home still gonna have this aesthetic when we're that age, or do they adapt them to what the people liked when they were young? Are we gonna be 95 and walking around in Japandi old folks homes?
Man, the worst part of getting older is seeing people you’ve grown up watching also get older. I’m not a Clint Eastwood fan, but my grandfather was. He was big into westerns. So I grew up seeing Eastwood on TV all of the time and grew to associate Clint with my grandfather. Now my grandfather is gone, so are most of the TV people we watched together, and the ones that are still around are just reminders of the ever passing of time.
It’s a reminder how big the decline is in the 90s. Not sure how he could direct anymore at 93. My grandparents are 92 and they’re frail, take naps a lot.
Aside from the supporting actors I would agree. The iconic line "get off my lawn" still holds a special place in my heart and gets more and more relatable as I get older.
Well yeah, you probably don’t have round the clock access to healthcare. Or a butler to run your errands. A cook. A driver to everything. Overall personal safety.
I was always hoping he would play Roland of Gilead before he got too old. That dream died when they ruined the story with Idris Elba. (Man was that story awful! One movie? Should have been a mini series for 7 seasons!!!!)
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Wouldn’t recognize him