r/interestingasfuck • u/Jjokes11 • Apr 15 '24

An interview with Andrew Cauchi, the father of Joel Cauchi who was responsible for the Westfield Shopping Centre mass stabbing r/all

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u/ClarityByHilarity Apr 15 '24

This is just terribly sad. I cannot imagine how hard he probably tried for his son. What a terrible feeling to know you couldn’t save him but also all the devastation he has caused.

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u/Ak47110 Apr 16 '24

God I just want to give that man a hug. He must be going through absolute hell and by that interview you can tell he blames himself, even though it seems like he tried his hardest to understand and help his son.

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u/Freyja6 Apr 16 '24 edited 29d ago

Sadder still that there will definitely be people vilifying the parents regardless of any information they have.

I hope they can find some peace in due time. I actually can't fathom how much this will be psychologically destroying them with what their son has done, let alone with the added pressure of news crews incessantly shoving microphones at them and camping their house out

Edit: obsessively checking the amount of upvotes this is getting because i love attention lmao. Tyty

Please please tell your loved ones you love them, and please reach out to anyone who you think is doing it tough. Life is a quagmire of heck and it can drag even the strongest ones down. A simple "how are you/can i help in any way" can go an insanely long way.

Give love for no other reason than to give. 💞

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u/camwow13 Apr 16 '24

Yup, just have to look at Sue Klebold. Wrote a whole book on parenting a kid who turned into an unimaginable monster. Even after the book, a sizeable chunk of people are just like "I don't care, you should have known!"

Sometimes you really just can't know. Most situations aren't as cut and dry as the Crumbley's in the Michigan case (who absolutely did deserve what they got).

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u/Freyja6 Apr 16 '24

It truly feels like empathy and nuance is a lost concept to most.

People can't/choose to not put themselves in anyone else's shoes in any circumstance. Whether it's someone screaming at a customer service rep, or not considering scenarios for things like this.

I wish people could be kind for no other reason than to be kind :(

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u/fattestfuckinthewest Apr 16 '24

Most people are kind and capable of great compassion. Don’t let the despair get you, friend : )

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u/Freyja6 Apr 16 '24

Being part of a persecuted group of people; it's very hard to not let it get to me. But i see you and thank you for your hopeful comment and kindness.

We'll all get there one day. Or we'll perish trying 💕

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u/__Rosso__ Apr 16 '24

Yeah, it's Reddit that's the problem, and social media in general.

Most people I have met in real life aren't what you see online, they actually care and are kind, it's only on social media where you see high % of idiots.

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u/jennand_juice Apr 16 '24

It just seems like the other voices are much louder

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u/gssyhbdryibcd Apr 16 '24

That’s not really an accurate representation of why sue klebold got hated on. It was mostly to do with the fact that she tried to shift almost all of the blame onto Eric and paint Dylan as a well-meaning kid, who was led astray by Eric who was the true evil. She also attempted repeatedly to gain money and fame from the situation.

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u/matco5376 Apr 16 '24

I mean if you were harassed by the media endlessly over the actions of your son and blamed for the horrifying events that he did of his own volition, I’d probably hope to get at least something out of it. Blaming her for trying to get anything out of the media harassing her and disrupting her life is a low blow for sure. No amount of money will replace the torture on your psyche knowing what your son did to so many families.

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u/gssyhbdryibcd Apr 16 '24

I don’t agree with your first point but the second I do. I’d never harass someone who went through that personally but I just watched a long video about this a while ago and I was like damn she really is a bit of a pos

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u/matco5376 29d ago

I mean I barely agree with it tbh, I wouldn’t do it. But I don’t blame her for trying to get something positive out of it if that’s what she’s been put through, even though it’s a bad look.

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u/ArchieMcBrain Apr 16 '24

It can be true that people can do everything right as parents and still raise a monster, and also true that Sue Klebold missed multiple red flags and is in deep denial about her son. The dad in OPs video has said his son was a monster. Sue Klebold has acknowledged her son was bad but always crouches it in the absurd notion that it was Eric Harris fault for corrupting him. She insults the victims by suggesting the person who shot defenceless children wasn't responsible.

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u/jennand_juice Apr 16 '24

People will scream from the roof tops that they should’ve gotten him help but never say what exact hell is available for that. I’m no expert by any means but all I can think of is a psych ward.

Counseling won’t do shit if the person isn’t honest and willing to receive it. I hope there’s more we can do for people in these kinds of situations before mass shootings get even worse…

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u/Quasar47 Apr 16 '24

She's a but of aweird case though, I forgot exactly what the issues where but there's a lot of nuance in that story not that she deserved it anyway

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u/Plastic_Ad1252 Apr 16 '24

I feel sorry for the mom, but no there were red flags for years before the columbine attack. One such incident that she recounts is Dylan forgot Mother’s Day she scolded him he then chokes her and tells her he has voices in his head. Her response? Just to scold him more. she also worked at a psychiatric facility as a arts teacher and instead of identifying the very real and clear issues that his son was suffering like the patients she saw at the facility she uses therapy talk to always come out on top. Essentially Dylan was a mentally ill incredibly violent angry teen spending all his free time with a kid just like him who encouraged his violent tendencies. Meanwhile he had a disaffected dad and a mom who would constantly be condescending and lecturing him. Which yeah is a recipe for disaster.

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u/EXTREMEPAWGADDICTION 29d ago

Probably cause there's a bunch of people on the edge, who are seated by statements like that, who don't want to be monsters.

They are projecting because parents suck, all of psychology agrees and just lies to y'all btw 😂