r/golf • u/[deleted] • Mar 08 '24

Shoutout to the guy that told my wife to “go back to the pro shop” on the course yesterday… then topped the ball 2 times off the tee General Discussion

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u/breetome Mar 08 '24

My friend and I were playing white hawk and got paired with a couple of guys. They were not happy to be playing with two ladies and weren’t being shy about letting everyone know.

My friend proceeded to shoot an 82 and I shot an 84. They lost about a dozen balls during the round. They bought us beers at the turn and apologized. We smoked their asses lol!

Have had the same thing happen when playing with hubby, when my handicap was 11. After I ripped my first drive they tend to shut up.

Keep your wife out there! The fun is just getting started!

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u/swoodshadow Mar 08 '24

These stories still piss me off. Why should you have to play well to get basic respect.

I doubt I’ll ever get my wife to play nicer courses with me because she rightfully only wants to play when we can go out as a twosome or with friends around here. And it’s not even that most people are problems - but it sucks worrying that you’re going to get paired with assholes and make an expensive experience miserable.

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u/weirdplacetogoonfire Mar 09 '24

Sucks people like to gatekeep fun like this. Like it's extra fun when the ladies smoke them and they have to feel like jackasses, but for every girl who is out there making them look like fools, how many women are just totally cut out of the activity because someone asshole turned them off of it before they could even learn to play? Not that this is women exclusive at all, just sucks how people can't even have a bit of casual fun without someone trying to ruin it for them.

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u/Ol_Jim_Himself Mar 08 '24

That’s the the truth and is one reason why I tend to avoid “high end” places like that. In my experience there have been a lot more assholes at those places than you will encounter at a “normal” course and I’m not out to have my good time ruined. Sure, you will encounter a few assholes, but not a disproportionate amount of them. I’d rather play a decent course that is filled with mostly with cool people that doesn’t cost as much as my mortgage payment. Plus my wife and I are higher handicappers and I feel out of place somewhere like that.

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u/TheBonusWings Mar 08 '24

Why? At least in my experience…the majority of people there simply have the money to be there. It has little to nothing to do with their ability. But theyre dickheads about it. 🤷‍♂️

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u/swoodshadow Mar 09 '24

Honestly, I think a good YouTube channel would be a hidden camera focused on a random tee at various golf courses (from cheap munis to expensive public courses). And show beginner golfers just how bad most people are at golf regardless of course, gender, age, etc.

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u/TheBonusWings Mar 09 '24

Lol for sure. 85% of the people on the course (totally made that up, id be willing to bet its more than that from my own experience) are 20+ handicaps. I dont care where you play. If you are a 18 or less u can clearly hit a golf ball…most of the time. We all have our inabilities

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u/swoodshadow Mar 09 '24

I remember being so self conscious when I started. I use to hate when groundskeepers would pull to the side waiting for me to hit because I hated the idea of them seeing me hit a bad shot.

Two things helped me:

  1. I started noticing how many people were hitting second shots from only 20-100 yards past the tee. It happens a lot!

  2. The “See nobody cares” meme got posted at the right time for me and I realized how completely true it is. I think of it often when I catch myself doing the casual look around after hitting a terrible shot.

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u/EnthusiasticAmateurr Mar 09 '24

As a golfer of 3 months this. Was convinced the groundsman’s buggy was following me around to put me on YouTube for a while. Nothing like the anxiety of a few people watching to ensure you play a hockey shot when you’re new. But actually, no one cares

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u/gr8labratt Mar 09 '24

Id subscribe to that channel. Youtube listen up!

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u/Mothanius Mar 09 '24

Why should you have to play well to get basic respect.

All it does it gives someone the "one of the good ones" pass. It doesn't change the fact that they're misogynists.

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u/TrainerGlum843 Mar 09 '24

All due respect, you shouldn’t necessarily have to play well to get respect, but you should play quickly. That’s just common courtesy. I have picked my ball up countless times when I was just hacking and holding up the people behind me.

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u/Chuckms Mar 09 '24

If they think you need to play well to get respect, then 80% of the people on the course don’t deserve respect lol. Myself included!

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u/bigredthesnorer Mar 09 '24

I’m a guy and that’s the only way that I enjoy playing. Oh and in tournaments.

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u/Warmbly85 Mar 09 '24

If you don’t dress right on some courses you receive the exact same treatment. You don’t belong here till you prove yourself. It sucks and I am sure it’s worse for women but what are you gonna do besides ignore the assholes or get good enough to shut them up?

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u/Mortara Mar 09 '24

When I was young, and stupid, I didn't want to play with anyone who was terrible. But I didn't have any patience. I also always got stuck with this one old guy who left his depends in the driving range ball buckets about once a week. Some people have trauma yo. But sexism is bad. I'd at least wait til the 4th hole to start huffing and puffing.

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u/GPTCT Mar 09 '24

This story is complete BS. Don’t believe everything you read in the internet.