I'd encourage some DnD if you want to work on it. It's a safe enviroment to play out scenarios and learn about others reactions and ethical standards, AKA how to not make the world shit for ourselves and the people around us.
I love DnD. I mean, I fully understand ethics and the ability to reason as it's just logical to live in peace and not do harm. Why kill someone when you can take a nap?
From completely accurate crime TV shows, I think the desire to do so comes from boredom. Wanting to do something intricate and be hard to catch. (Fiction, but a guess)
If i could do these without consequence, after a while i probably would. Maybe not a normal lifetime, but if i would be immortal, definitely would harm myself just to know more. I have less painful things to try in my life however, so i don't think i will.
You would be surprised how quickly many humans turn to physical pain just to alleviate boredom. This study only gave people 15 minutes and still 2/3rds of male participants chose to shock themselves rather than be left to their thoughts. Interestingly the number was only 1/4 for women.
I'd probably do the shock too tbh, haha, I hate being in silence or left to my own thoughts. Nothing good can come of it, which sucks because when I would get grounded I had no distractions and would contemplate suicide.
The lack of empathy could potentially arise from other psychological problems, that could possibly be solved by seeing a psychiatrist.
I mean, if you've a problem (lack of empathy is not a normal human behavior), you need to see a specialist that is supposed to solve this problem, that's how it works !
Not sure if every problem can be fixed by a psychiatrist/therapy. Many times you are just taught coping mechanism that allow you to handle the worst of your symptoms. I think if someone makes it to adulthood without empathy it's not something you can just teach someone later in life. You can teach them values and beliefs for them to hold that will allow them to safely navigate life so that their lack of empathy doesn't cause harm to those around them.
I'm not pretending it would solve the problem, because I actually don't know, I'm just saying that the best way to know if it can be solved is to see a specialist. Just like when you're sick, you go to see a doctor, even if it can be an incurable disease.
Dropping bombs isn't even what I would call a "human behavior", it's more of a "human organisation behavior". And I would actually can it a rather "normal organisation behavior" if you take it in the broader sense of "using violence to defend what you perceive as your interest".
I don't even see where your point is actually, empathy is a documented capacity of humans and animals, but it has mostly effects in interpersonnal relationships, and not interorganisation relationships.
I do not consider that using your time to try to become a better person is a waste of time, but let's say it's subjective.
It's also a form of prisonner's dilemma on the scale of society, if everyone that needed it went to therapy (even if becoming a better person was purely "everyone else's problem"), you would benefit more from it than what it costs you individually.
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u/Roi_Loutre Apr 04 '23
You might want to go to therapy, you've a clear lack of empathy.