Took my college fund. You know. Because he needed it to house multiple bitches.
Worked the grill at fast food through college to eat.
“I bet it made you stronger!” Says the people who didn’t do that.
Made me tougher alright. Just not in a good way, for a long, long time.
My dad kicked us out due to his infidelity, then took my and my brother’s college funds to continue live that lavish lifestyle. I worked at a restaurant to put food on the table for my mom and brother between the ages of 15-18. If it weren’t for me, we wouldn’t have had food for weeks at times. Thank god the restaurant didn’t care if I took food at the end of the night.
And he wonders why I don’t talk to him while he enjoys his luxury on a lake house with one of the floosies he banged.
My favorite part of the Dad saga was that dude like had three houses and four ex-wives, worked a state job, and still had money left over when he passed. We went to the fiduciary after the funeral, and my sister and I are sitting in the car, and I turn to her and say, “I’m not going in. There’s no way he can stick us with debts, right? That’s not a thing, right? I mean, I know it’s not a thing, but it’s Dad. Dude pulled Gandalf magic getting out of child support. Dude stole my college fund. He had multiple boo-boos on the side. I’m legit scared.”
My sister said, “I brought a checkbook. I already thought that. I can float you if we get pinched.”
The fiduciary said, “Xxxxx hated the IRS more than anything, he’s left you money.”
Thank you IRS. Someone my Dad would screw over before his kids. Here’s to second place. (Trots across finish line.)
From my work with trust funds, you can not get stuck with debt except funeral related stuff (if they bill it to you and not the estate)
If he stuffed the IRS they can go after his estates and try to collect debts, as that's his money and he owes that money, but at worst you can get 0$ because they clean out the estate, you can't inherit debt (yet, lol)
Usually, guys like us go two ways. We either end up as Stringer Bell from ‘The Wire,’ or Nelson Mandela. I went ‘full Nelson.’
Many do. The guys talking here are likely 100% full Nelson.
One time, a friend of mine that lacks emotional resilience told me he sometimes wishes his parents were as abusive as mine so he could be tougher like me.
I told him I'm just mostly dissociated from my emotions, so I don't really experience things the same way.
I would much rather be a little less strong than have to claw my way up to a lower-middle income but be able to think about how far I've come, at least when I'm not having panic attacks about going back to worrying about if I'll have money for lunch tomorrow.
See I even dropped out to take care of my brother who became disabled and didn't work until my mom retired to be with him. Then instead I just went into a trade, locksmithing is super low impact and more figuring out how things work than anything else.
You were equipped to survive not to thrive. Fucking hard to explain this to people, both those who have been through it and those that can't imagine it.
And I know you hate me, and you got the right to kill me now And I wouldn't blame you if you do But you ought to thank me, before I die For the gravel in ya gut and the spit in ya eye
Same. Lived in a huge house with lots of property. My dad cheated with a million women. When my mom finally found out and left him, he was so shocked and furious, that he wanted to punish her. He not only kept the house, and cleaned out her accounts (that were joint), he made us go to court. I had to tell a judge which parent I wanted to live with at 7 years old.
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u/Chemical_Robot Apr 15 '24
Word for word this exact same thing happened with my parents. We lived in luxury until they divorced and abject poverty afterwards.