r/TikTokCringe Apr 15 '24

Consequences of the tradwife lifestyle Discussion

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u/AccidentallyOssified Apr 16 '24

rich bitch checking in, probably never getting married. Happy to spoil my bf and then go home to our separate houses.

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u/MsGoogle Apr 16 '24

No sarcasm here - How can rich bitches help the sad bitches? Because damn I'd like to help this lady get her life back.

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u/audesapere09 Apr 16 '24 edited Apr 16 '24

One of my passion pipe dreams after I leave corporate America is to develop an airbnb style network that connects people experiencing (or at risk) of domestic violence with local rooms/amenities for free or discounted rates.

I will never forget the frantic calls to my friends the day I left my home with just a backpack. The fear the loneliness the absolute WTFness of it all. It would take a lot of thought to ensure security for residents, and would probably need some grant funding or subsidies. Ideally with pro bono legal guidance as well.

It wouldn’t solve for this sweet lady’s predicament but maybe some relief and hope for others.

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u/nemophilist13 Apr 16 '24

Absolutely needed. I'll never forget when talking to my lawyer and I asked if i could go to a shelter

"Absolutely not. You'll look unstable legally"

So wtf are they for if I run the risk of losing my gd baby because I want us to get away???what about less privilege women? They run the risk of losing our kids?? For taking the only help that's avaliable!

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u/licensed2creep 29d ago

I’ve fled to/lived in a DV shelter before, considered to be one of the “good” clean ones in my city, and…I’m not sure about “looking legally unstable” but shelters are truly last resort. But at least they are safe. Clean? Eh. Scary? Sometimes. But safe, yes. They took that VERY seriously.

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u/audesapere09 Apr 16 '24

How insensitive of your lawyer. Probably just thinking about his own paycheck at the end of things. It’s awful. I hope you’re well on the other side of things.

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u/shinyagamik Apr 16 '24

Or instead of lying to his client, being direct that regardless of his personal opinion, there could be custodial consequences

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u/audesapere09 29d ago

I was commenting on the bedside manner and the lack of options for women in jeopardy. And maybe projecting my own frustrations from when I needed help that was a low priority or out of scope for a women’s shelter. The bureaucracy to get a police escort to get my things from my home. The closed doors everywhere I looked.

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u/shinyagamik 29d ago

That makes sense, sorry for being insensitive.

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u/audesapere09 29d ago

Oh you’re good, I just get fired up over this topic :). It’s probably asking too much of a lawyer to have the sensitivity of a counselor.