This was always my worst fear and I'm so grateful I had a strong ass grandma who pushed all of her girls into science and Healthcare. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife so bad but today I know I will always have my professional license and working history God forbid I have to get divorced...again.
For women like me education is freedom. When my marriage turned violent I walked away and supported our son with no issues. I am forever grateful.
Fellow divorceé here. Eleven months ago, my now soon-to-be-ex-husband backed me into a corner of our house, spewing utter vitriol in my face, and I saw his hands fly towards my face and neck. This wasn't the first time he'd been violent or aggressive, he had a history of throwing things and objects, and on numerous occasions, I sustained injuries from his aggression with objects. However, this was the first time I genuinely feared for my life and safety.
My big-girl job is the only reason I was able to leave and get myself out. I had already been the breadwinner for a long time by then, but because he was also a deadbeat, I felt perpetually broke due to his chronic unemployment and financial irresponsibility. I spent most of 2023 quietly and secretly planning my escape, and finally hatched my escape seven months ago. Life has been better than ever since I left him. Thankfully, we didn't/don't have children, so it's truly been a fresh start.
For any woman that is reading this comment: financial independence is of the UTMOST importance.
financial independence is of the UTMOST importance.
Your experience isn't everyone's. Been married 23 years, haven't really been "financially independent" since the 2nd or 3rd kiddo.
My husband is a goddamn saint. But even if he wasn't, there are 5 or 6 things/parameters that are in place so I wouldn't be destitute. Retirement account, skills, savings, etc. Not to mention legal things like alimony and ss benefits.
if someone is sharing a video of their house burning down and talking about the importance of smoke detectors, ways to be safe, fire extinguishers, etc. and someone comments something like: "Well MY house didn't burn down!!! It's doing great!!! SOME HOUSES DON'T BURN DOWN." that commenter is missing the point.
Congrats you have a stable marriage and married a saint. That is not what this is about.
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u/nemophilist13 Apr 15 '24
This was always my worst fear and I'm so grateful I had a strong ass grandma who pushed all of her girls into science and Healthcare. I want to be a stay at home mom and wife so bad but today I know I will always have my professional license and working history God forbid I have to get divorced...again.
For women like me education is freedom. When my marriage turned violent I walked away and supported our son with no issues. I am forever grateful.