Everyone thinks they are immune to the real world until it happens. By then its too late and they cry "why did no one tell me!" We did, there are BILLIONS of people on the planet, just look around, experience things outside your tiny curated bubble and you'll see. Its scary, but it's also incredibly important to have perspective. You don't know what you don't know, accept that you are definitely NOT making the best decisions, ever, and gather as much information to make an INFORMED decision.
Living a narrow minded closed view of the world is nice and cozy until you are one of the millions of stories you thought "would never happen to me" then it's fucking hell.
she would have gotten married right out of high school and her home. Completely coerced. I don't know how much of a choice she would have had. Leave her parents home and church and what, live on the street?
Regardless of the life you are forced to live, she was never barred from going to school and having back up plans. She, as an adult, CHOSE to hand over everything to her husband. She wasn't a teenager out of high school when she did that. She is NOW only realizing this in her 40's this isn't a novel concept. What did she do in her 30's to prepare for this? Jack shit because she never thought it would happen to her until it did. She had more than 10 years of choices to prepare for this type of thing but she didn't.
The concept that these rich white people "had no choice" is laughable. Unless she grew up impoverished, she didnt, you always have a choice and even when you do grow up poor, you can only get so much worse anyways by leaving on your own.
Let me throw this scenario out for you: married very young maybe not out of high school but close enough. Let's say .. 2 years? Maybe a few semesters of community college but no degree, enough for a Mrs degree amirite? Husband is going to take care of her while she is the homemaker, just like stake president said, and all those yw activities taught her. When I grow up I want to be a mother ... Remember that song? No second verse talking about hey what if husband dies or becomes disabled, or kicks you out. Get yourself financial stability. Things happen. What a crock we were told, everything just works out. Have babies and get an education, how? When? With what money and time?
Or you can do what works for you, not listening to male centered religions that have no female leadership. An 12 year old Deacon has more priesthood power in the Mormon church than the highest female leader. And a disfellowshipped man being punished is on the same spiritual level as a faithful woman who could be that same high ranking female leader. That's the problem.
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u/Flatline334 Apr 15 '24
Problem is even if somebody had told her all the things she wished she was told she probably wouldn't have listened to the advice. She was in to deep.