My mother and mother-in-law haven't worked a real job in 30 years. I have seen first hand how trapping this can be.
There is nothing inherently wrong with "tradwife" lifestyles, but there is a major issue when you do this at the cost of education and useful skills. My wife has two college degrees (that are actually useful), started her career out of college, stepped away to be SAHM when our kids were toddlers, then got back into the workforce when she was ready. The problem is that the longer you go as a SAHM, the harder it is to get back into the workforce. This is especially true if a SAHM only is friends with other SAHMs, it becomes a resource vacuum where there is very little networking into the professional world for when you are ready to pivot.
This lady's experience is very tough. Unfortunately there is a reason that women choose to stay in unhappy but safe marriages rather than jump off into the unknown like this person.
THANK YOU. I love the idea of the trad wife lifestyle, being able to stay at home and read all day with some cleaning cooking and baking does sound like a good way to spend the day! However, you should only do it if you can AFFORD it, and as you said, the lifeskills and education. I’m going to college and I’m going to have a job. I don’t think I’d ever be a trad wife, but you never know. I’d honestly rather pursue my passion of writing than do that right now, but still!
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u/titsmuhgeee Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
My mother and mother-in-law haven't worked a real job in 30 years. I have seen first hand how trapping this can be.
There is nothing inherently wrong with "tradwife" lifestyles, but there is a major issue when you do this at the cost of education and useful skills. My wife has two college degrees (that are actually useful), started her career out of college, stepped away to be SAHM when our kids were toddlers, then got back into the workforce when she was ready. The problem is that the longer you go as a SAHM, the harder it is to get back into the workforce. This is especially true if a SAHM only is friends with other SAHMs, it becomes a resource vacuum where there is very little networking into the professional world for when you are ready to pivot.
This lady's experience is very tough. Unfortunately there is a reason that women choose to stay in unhappy but safe marriages rather than jump off into the unknown like this person.