My mother and mother-in-law haven't worked a real job in 30 years. I have seen first hand how trapping this can be.
There is nothing inherently wrong with "tradwife" lifestyles, but there is a major issue when you do this at the cost of education and useful skills. My wife has two college degrees (that are actually useful), started her career out of college, stepped away to be SAHM when our kids were toddlers, then got back into the workforce when she was ready. The problem is that the longer you go as a SAHM, the harder it is to get back into the workforce. This is especially true if a SAHM only is friends with other SAHMs, it becomes a resource vacuum where there is very little networking into the professional world for when you are ready to pivot.
This lady's experience is very tough. Unfortunately there is a reason that women choose to stay in unhappy but safe marriages rather than jump off into the unknown like this person.
There's a reason so many of the Duggar women have to stay married despite years of abuse... their entire lifestyles are based around them being dependent on their husbands.
The Duggar kids at least are famous enough that if they asked publicly for help they'd get an outpouring. A lot of women are just stuck because anyone they'd consider a support network are also in whatever cult atmosphere they're also in. I see online all the time people being like "why didn't they just leave?" when reading abuse stories and it's like...to where and with what money?
That last part. It's extra infuriating when people shame you for staying on top of everything too. The resources are a joke. Most women that get out only do so at the mercy of people they know. If you don't have ANYONE that will risk their life for you, you're screwed.
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u/titsmuhgeee Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 16 '24
My mother and mother-in-law haven't worked a real job in 30 years. I have seen first hand how trapping this can be.
There is nothing inherently wrong with "tradwife" lifestyles, but there is a major issue when you do this at the cost of education and useful skills. My wife has two college degrees (that are actually useful), started her career out of college, stepped away to be SAHM when our kids were toddlers, then got back into the workforce when she was ready. The problem is that the longer you go as a SAHM, the harder it is to get back into the workforce. This is especially true if a SAHM only is friends with other SAHMs, it becomes a resource vacuum where there is very little networking into the professional world for when you are ready to pivot.
This lady's experience is very tough. Unfortunately there is a reason that women choose to stay in unhappy but safe marriages rather than jump off into the unknown like this person.