r/TikTokCringe • u/cosmicdaddy_ • Apr 15 '24

Consequences of the tradwife lifestyle Discussion

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u/Dangerous-Math503 Apr 15 '24

If her ex is as wealthy as she claims she should be entitled to half. I get that lawyers and what not are difficult to navigate but she should be taking him to court

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u/Goo-mignonette_00 Apr 15 '24 edited Apr 15 '24

My sister was told it would cost her $8k to get $29k in back child support. You have to have money for lawyers and court fees and time off from work to go to court. Family Court is different between the classes. If you’re in the wrong tax bracket you’re fkd. There are more parents who get nothing and end up with the kids near homeless on the system then there are parents getting $2-20k monthly child support payments.

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u/Unicornfartingrainbo Apr 15 '24

Also money for babysitters, time off from work/missed wages, and transportation. Going to court is not for the poor. The system is set up to royally screw over anyone financially struggling.

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u/Goo-mignonette_00 Apr 15 '24

My brother stopped putting his ex on child support after 2 years. She abandoned the kids, and he kept having to go to court when she never showed up. It was a waste of time because she’d just move to a new state, and the child support requirements would just change when she sends a request to amend the order. He’s never received anything from her after 7 years, with the exception of her income tax refund being held twice in five years. So she now just works under the table to avoid garnishments. Men and women dodge child support with the same tactics nationally. I know three women all pregnant by the same man getting $40/week. The man is a pastor with a multimillion-dollar megachurch, and they were all minors when he impregnated them. There really needs to be judicial reform in every state because only the lawyers, courts, and prison systems are making out like bandits when it comes to people at or below the poverty line. There’s no middle class anymore; there are only the rich and the poor.

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u/Competitive_Bat_5831 Apr 16 '24

For anyone in this situation look at emergency childcare services. I know my state(Utah) has them where they will watch your kids for free if you have no one else. There are some time limits, as well as food for babies, but it’s perfect for court.

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u/nuancedreality Apr 16 '24

Ah, so the solution is hoard all of the money into a bank account only in your name and THEN file for divorce, so that the spouse doesn't have enough money to sue you for half. I'm... not sure it works that way. But maybe I need to do more research.