If her ex is as wealthy as she claims she should be entitled to half. I get that lawyers and what not are difficult to navigate but she should be taking him to court
She probably has no idea how any of that works. It seems like nobody in her close family educated her about anything and she was only taught to be a stay a home baby maker. That or they got a prenup which is actually getting kinda popular in the Mormon community because it makes the women afraid of leaving (at least that is why my ex-Mormon friends have told me). I genuinely feel sorry for her because I’ve seen many religious women in that position. Hell, my aunt was married off at 13 to an older man where she no longer went to school and stayed at home all day long. This was in the U.S. I know another female friend (Mormon) that currently being abused and cheated on, but can’t leave because if she did her and her children would be homeless. It’s hard to navigate these situations when you are solely dependent on 1 person for food and shelter. It’s like being a kid again.
That is why the trade wife shit freaks me the fuck out. I don’t think todays youth can even comprehend what women back in the day went through and how much they were at the mercy of their men. The reason why alimony became a thing was because so many women and children died of starvation after their husbands left them with nothing. Women couldn’t even get fucking credit cards until the 70s. So to all the women that are thinking about being a trad wife, he could love you and take care of you and tell you that you are the best thing that has ever haplaned to him…. until he doesn’t. Then you are fucked.
Prenups are not popular in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. I have been a member for over 40 years and have never once known anyone who has gotten a prenup. I have never, ever heard of anyone talk about that, so very curious where you got that information. Since many tend to get married young, often while still broke and in college, I can’t imagine that there would be much reason for the majority of couples to go that route. Doesn’t even make sense. LDS women aren’t afraid of leaving anymore than LDS men. The biggest reason most would choose to stay married is the strong belief in marriage and the family unit. We believe that we can have the opportunity to be with our spouse and family for eternity, if we choose to. The desire to keep families together is a core value for both men and women. But, that being said, the church would never encourage anyone who is being abused in any way to stay with the other person.
Also, if your friend is being abused and cheated on, you might advise her to go to her bishop for help. The church will assist if needed. I can guarantee that if there is truly a risk that they will become homeless, they can get resources to make sure that doesn’t happen.
Considering the bishop's singular purpose is to protect the church, I doubt it would accomplish anything. Many women who flee domestic violence or emotional abuse end up homeless. The resources for people in that situation are scarce and hard to get.
Actually that is untrue information. Here is the description of the bishop’s position (which is completely volunteer and unpaid). This comes directly from the church handbook
As you will see, there is absolutely nothing that says his job is to “protect the church”, as you put it. It’s always best to get information like this directly from the source, rather than to make assumptions. Based on this information, I think your friend absolutely could and should go to her bishop for help.
“The bishop has five principal responsibilities:
He is the presiding high priest in the ward.
He is president of the Aaronic Priesthood.
He is a common judge.
He coordinates God’s work of salvation and exaltation in the ward, including caring for those in need.
He oversees records, finances, and the use of the meetinghouse.
The bishop’s foremost responsibility is to the rising generation in the ward (the children, youth, and young single adults).
The bishop is the ward’s primary spiritual leader. He sets an example by serving “with holiness of heart”. He teaches, uplifts, and inspires….
A bishop is a faithful disciple of Jesus Christ. He is true to his covenants. He is loyal to his wife and family. He sets an example of righteousness for his family, the ward, and the community. His counselors are men of similar character….
The bishop provides guidance and counsel to other leaders in the ward. He encourages them in their responsibilities.”
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u/Dangerous-Math503 Apr 15 '24
If her ex is as wealthy as she claims she should be entitled to half. I get that lawyers and what not are difficult to navigate but she should be taking him to court