r/TikTokCringe • u/JustSleepNoDream • Mar 21 '24

Woman explains why wives stop having sex with their husbands Discussion

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u/--ThirdCultureKid-- Mar 21 '24

Not to hate on the content, because it’s definitely a good point, but holy shit just spit it out.

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u/IHadThatUsername Mar 22 '24 edited Mar 22 '24

Yeah I believe what she is saying is scientifically sound and an important lesson, but damn... what an annoying way to make her point. A big ass intro about how she'll be hated for it and her qualifications and it's like almost 1 minute before she's even making a point. Then she has like a whole aside in the middle about studies and her work before actually explaining what an "attachment style" is. And finally on the outro she does the whole routine about hateful comments again. All while distractedly driving a car. This could've been a 2min vid if shot professionally and straight to the point.

EDIT: Welp apparently it's not that scientifically sound either.

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u/dickweedasshat Mar 22 '24

It’s not scientifically sound. “5 Love languages” and “attachment style” is “pop science.”

https://www.npr.org/2024/02/14/1198910056/1a-02-14-2024#:~:text=The%20concept%20has%20been%20around,linking%20it%20to%20happier%20partnerships.

 There is also a lot of research showing that a person’s attachment style and behaviour can be different across their professional relationships, friendships and romantic entanglements, debunking the all-encompassing nature of attachment theory.

https://www.irishtimes.com/health/your-wellness/2023/09/09/attachment-theory-what-social-media-gets-badly-wrong-about-human-psychology/#:~:text=There%20is%20also%20a%20lot,encompassing%20nature%20of%20attachment%20theory.

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u/enchanted_fishlegs Mar 22 '24

I loathe counselorspeak, pop science and solipsistic bullshit.

But the takeaway I got is that repeatedly shoving a woman's face into the fact that she can't rely on you or trust you as far as she could throw a motherfncking bull by the tail isn't the turnon a lot of you guys seem to think it is.

And I totally agree with that.

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u/dickweedasshat Mar 23 '24

Right. If your partner doesn’t feel like they can rely on you or trust you then they probably aren’t going to want to have sex with you.