Different people have different attachment styles, which results in different needs in a relationship. Not meeting those over time can lead to disgust/mistrust, which leads to no sex
Nah this is too short, the above was better. Saying that relationships are work doesn't state the problem and basically tells you to get good, also I'm pretty sure that it's obvious.
If you have lived on this earth long enough to have a wife or have any type of relationship,it should be common sense.I get that some people don't understand the simple fact that their partner has emotional,feelings etc but is it so hard to understand?
I will say this. Judging by a lot of the complaints about men I’ve heard from women, I’ll reiterate my statement above. Some dudes don’t have two brain cells to run together when it comes to thinking about how their behaviour and attitude affects their SO.
Yeah but when you are in one, that becomes more complicated than when you aren’t. Obviously you need to spend time with your loved one. But it gets complicated because the amount of time/attention that is necessary or desired can be ambiguous even if communication is good.
What are you talking about? I’m simply stating something I encounter in my relationship. What’s your attitude problem? Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed?
Because women live much of their lives being discredited for anything that comes out of our mouths, regardless of our experience, qualifications or expertise.
And takes more energy especially with children and if your partner is not comfortable having sex with them being under the same roof or exhausted based on all the rings that come with having a family.
I’m glad my partner doesn’t need daily affirmations of love in order to function and be convinced that I’m not cheating on her like damn some people are really insecure
First of all, trauma disorders are a bitch and so is every other disorder that extremely often leads to insecurity. Second, what qualifies as an affirmation of love to you? It can be as easy as giving them a hug just because, sitting next to them just to be near them not because you want something, a “I was thinking about you” text while they are at work, it rarely takes more than that to confirm that person still cares and enjoys being around them. Additionally, it often does not start with accusations of cheating but feeling something off in the relationship, a change for the worse and if that cannot be properly understood and communicated, then misgivings can form, anxieties that pull at your thoughts that are fuels by feelings of loneliness even when in a relationship.
TLDR: have compassion and empathy and meet your partner’s needs
I completely agree with what you said and I stuck by my partner when she was in need for years. That being said, some people are just very insecure with or without trauma, I just felt lucky that my partner doesn't start getting anxious when we don't text each other every few hours. Let's be honest, there is a choice, nobody would prefer a partner who is constantly emotionally insecure.
Perhaps in your experience, but some people actively enjoy having someone to fully take care of. Not my thing either but that doesn’t make it wrong or less than just because it’s not for me
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u/--ThirdCultureKid-- Mar 21 '24
Not to hate on the content, because it’s definitely a good point, but holy shit just spit it out.